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Most of my friends, acquaintances, and strangers have finally stopped asking me. But I just got it again tonight from a long-time friend. "Why haven't you gotten married? You're 40 years old." He didn't get into the "having " conversation. Most people seem to have given up asking these questions about 8 years ago, but I still get broadsided with them now and then. "Why don't you settle down..." as if I'm a wild party animal, and off having sex with 100's of men and "you won't tie ME down to family and responsibility!" At least that's what the comment makes me think of. "Hurry up and have - you're not getting any younger!" As if having a is the be-all, end-all. I spent 20 years (14 - 34) hoping and dreaming of having a family and of my own. I'm finally okay with the idea it won't happen for me. (Though yes, I do have a " by choice" and she's having a baby in a few months so... yay! I'll be a grandma lol) Between the ages of 28 and 32 I think I was hit with some version of these questions every week, at least. Often many times on the same day by various, as mentioned, friends (male and female), acquaintances and strangers. Why do people seem to think all you have to do is want to get married and voila! You're married? They seem to not realize it rather involves a 2nd person. Certain levels of trust and friendship, chemistry... and for some it takes a person strong enough in the right ways to make one not afraid. Men: Do you guys get this sort of badgering too? OK... tonight's question was more curiosity than criticism or suggestion. It still has the power to piss me off though. Dang it. Sorry, readers  Long hiatus from blogging... and I show up venting. LOL. I know... most have good intentions in the asking or suggesting. But dang it... Maybe I should just start telling everybody that asks that I don't like men LOL. or that I'm too independent to be forced into the box of a shared living situation. Not true. But it would ... probably not shut anybody up. Then they would just argue why I'm wrong to say that. Women: Do they ever "stop" asking when you reach a certain age? OK... Mild rant is over. Goodnight! Hope everyone is having a wonderful night. |
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I don't blame you a bit, if I could go back in time I wouldn't ever got married!! WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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A bachelor friend of mine would answer that he just didn't think he could take all that happiness.
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Just stare back at them and ask "Why haven't you jumped off the edge of the Grand Canyon yet??"  Everyone is on a different plane of intelligence. Some people's plane has not taken off yet!! 
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I have a bit of a different story- I dated all through my 20s, meeting my now ex husband when I was 31. Up until I met him, I did get asked all the time, "When are you getting married? When are you going to have kids?" But I had been saying since I was 4, that I would never get married, never have kids. Since I had reached 31 and no one had changed my mind, they just figured that I was right about myself. Then we started traveling all around Mexico. We decided to have kids; no thoughts of marriage at all. After our son was born, I started getting the "when is the wedding?" After our daughter was born, we got it a bit more. We finally did get married because the health insurance was making things difficult. Now that I am divorced, I say to anyone who asks me if I will ever get married again, I have had that experience; the good, the bad, and the ugly. I don't need to do that again. That usually shuts people up. Good for you that you have a "daughter by choice"! Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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Yeah, I used to hear that "settle down" crap too. But I don't think those asking figured anyone would marry me. They just wondered if I was ever gonna stop raising hell. And I did, too- I got tired. They don't ask anymore. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Maybe this guy was just a little shy and did not want to ask you directly ...  What do you know about his thoughts and feelings to you? Be prepared to answer I was married, am still married on the paper - but only there. And will not do this again.  Giacomo Chevalier de Seingalt Mehr * More: in meinem - in my Blog and my group Casanovas Separee -Privat Chat PRIVATE POSTBOX* Giacomo Casanova in a Nutshell* Giacomo Casanova auf die Schnelle
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At any age and being single, one gets ask that question in some form. I married late in life and now divorced. Once is enough . I have met two women, 40+ y/o, never been married. Life is life and not an order to do list. Cum to my blog and respond.  Have a great kissing fun time. 
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