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Missing You
Missing You How do you feel when someone says they are missing you? Glad that you are important enough to them for your absence to be noticed? Happy to leave a small hole in their life as long as it doesn’t make them unhappy? Does it lessen the twinge you feel yourself from missing them? Or do you feel guilty if, even though you care for them, you are happy with your life while they are away, and you can’t reciprocate the feeling? Do you hate the thought of them being unhappy because of you? Or, like I am sure some people do, do you relish the sense of having power over them? Does having someone missing them feed that sort of person’s ego? It depends on the kind of missing of course. There is good missing and bad missing. It is strange to realize that how you feel is all about what goes on in your mind - not in the actual fact of the person being gone, but in your assessment of what the future holds. Bad missing can be dispiriting. Even when you know nothing is wrong, doubts creep into your mind. You wonder if the next time you hear from someone, something will have subtly changed. Even in small doses it can take the smile out of your day. It can feel like homesickness for a place where you aren’t going to be living anymore. It seeps into your bones and you can’t find any good in it. When it is bad it can be as if someone has punched you in the guts, only their fist went right through and they pulled out all your insides. And in its worst cases, when that pain subsides, what remains is the knowledge that you are going to feel that ache for a long time, and you aren’t ever going to completely recover. I hope no one ever misses me like that. I think of good missing as that feeling of want, a slight knot in the stomach mixed with excitement because you know the person is out there, you know where they are and what they are doing and you know they are thinking of you too. You want them near you, but you can go without for a while yet. It is like being hungry when you know you have a steak in the fridge. It is like not hearing your new favourite song on the radio for a day or two. You know you will hear it again, and its absence gives you an almost comfortable feeling of need. You can look forward to that wonderful moment when you can be with them again and show each other nothing has changed, you can enjoy anticipating the strength of the feelings having had to be without them for a while will produce. I don’t mind that kind of missing you. |
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I miss my daughter every day since she left home to go to Uni. It has been over 3 years now, but hasn't got any easier. We tell each other every time we talk, text or email how much we miss each other. I also miss my family in England, especially my sister.
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i feel sad when someone tells me they miss me when there is nothing i can do about the situation... and i feel even sadder when i miss someone .. especially when its due to no other reason than life just got way too busy and i need it to slow down so i can focus. its all very upsetting actually... i am having a real 'focusing' issue right now.
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1/10/2011 4:59 pm |
and missing someone when they're gone forever When there's a space inside that used to be filled with someone special , that space has been filled up with memories that no longer keep you as warm as they did when you knew your someone special was going to return. Nice post here Dreamer.
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and missing someone when they're gone forever When there's a space inside that used to be filled with someone special , that space has been filled up with memories that no longer keep you as warm as they did when you knew your someone special was going to return. Nice post here Dreamer. In the end I learned how to put all that regret and missing her into a box marked "wonderful memories" instead of where it was kept for years, in a box marked "can't think about this, too painful." It takes time, but it can be done.
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