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In The Eye Of The Beholder  

1sweetbitch 57F
834 posts
10/25/2017 12:02 pm
In The Eye Of The Beholder

As all of us do I check many profiles of those that have sent me messages and/or have made remarks under my pics. In doing that today I saw a pic of a woman on the site that is very overweight and not pretty-imo-but she thinks she is both sexy and pretty. I am the first to appreciate beauty whether male or female in this place. I know what a beautiful woman looks like and am glad to say so when I see one-you can be straight and appreciate beauty in either sex. I have noticed a lot of people on the site both male and female who think they are gorgeous when they are not...and a few who think they are ugly when they sure are not. I know beauty is very subjective but I'm telling you that some of the people that think they are beautiful in here miss it by a country mile!! I would rather someone else think me pretty and keep that out of my picture titles and nick in here. Maybe if you call yourself something often enough you just might become that

I have to come back this morning and state again that beauty is a very subjective thing and we all differ in what is beautiful to our eyes.....keep that in mind if you decide to comment. Don't be an ass who proves you can't read with comprehension like let_me_see1 has proven in his comment.

To be clear...my mother taught me to let others praise me if I was going to get any praise but to never praise myself-the lady in question that this whole post is about praised herself..which is why I decided to even blog this. Add to that the whole nature of beautiful and how subjective that is......I still don't get why this whole post has gotten the ire up of some women who think I am immature...mean spirited and an overall ugly person for putting up a post about what I think of someone who calls themselves beautiful/sexy instead of letting others do it.

author51 57F  
96518 posts
11/1/2017 1:26 am

    Quoting bigblackman21221:
    Try putting imo in capital letters.
    I saw it and realized you were just expressing your opinion.

    Negative opinions are obviously frowned upon by some.
This woman is all too real and the difference between us is I have the decency and respect to not write blogs about how I think other people look.It is no one's business if someone wants to say they are beautiful.I know I am beautiful.... On the inside which radiates outside.Because I care about others,I make the choice to respect all of them. Most of us here though do not respect others, who voice their opinions in a post that in actual fact is bashing someone for coming out and praising themselves.. A healthy self esteem is beneficial to one's overall health and how they feel about themselves. It is none of your business to tell them otherwise..Than wonder why when you write a blog such as you did that other women get their back up. Negativity is bad for one's health. Think of other things to blog about and all of this would not have happened.. BTW: You called yourself attractive in another post.. That is also subjective, is it not? It was the Top Bloggers you ticked off and more. Why even write a post like you did? You must have known it would ruffle feathers.The post was not about beauty being subjective otherwise you would not have mentioned the woman who thinks she is and you saying she is not..True beauty lies within a person.. Your opinion does not matter to anyone else but yourself..

You also have the choice to delete my comments yet did not so do not complain about me posting them..Just delete them..Easy to do.

One can never have enough JOY in their life...

1sweetbitch replies on 11/1/2017 4:55 am:
wow you have made this a mission haven't you...lol

1sweetbitch replies on 11/1/2017 5:02 am:
This is the internet...making judgements about people's decency is rather hard to do. You do NOT know me at all. I stand by my right to comment on some un named person's use of a nick on this SEX DATING site that I find strange.

1sweetbitch replies on 11/1/2017 5:45 am:
I have to say this AGAIN since you OBVIOUSLY still do not get it.... I do not give a rat's ass about you or any other "Top Blogger" or Top blogging women-I DO NOT write posts or not write posts out of any fear you or they may read it and censor me...... Funny how none of you have ever made one comment on anything else I have ever written but now you are on some kind of mission to do what???? Intimidate me. If I wanted to be known for blogging there is always e-blogger where legitimate blogging is done. Stop taking yourself and this SEX DATING site so damned seriously

27029 posts
10/31/2017 4:51 pm

Just as you are allowed to say whatever you want to, in your blog, others are free to choose whatever handle they wish (within reason, because it can sometimes be a huge challenge to pick a handle - since first, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th choices etc. etc. are already being used by someone else. They are also free to title their pictures in any way they choose.

We get it - YOU don't think they are beautiful, and they may not be "conventionally beautiful", just as everyone does not define sexy in the same way.

I am having a difficult time understanding the point you are trying to make here.

1. Someone thinks they are beautiful - you disagree.
2. Someone thinks they are ugly - you disagree.
3. You tell us, again, and again, and again - that beauty is subjective.
4. You have entitled your post, using the old expression "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

So, what is your point? Are you saying these people can't possibly be beautiful, because YOU disagree?

Or are you just expressing that you disagree?

What is gained by doing that?

I like "beauty is as beauty does".

So - what were you hoping to gain here?

Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.

1sweetbitch replies on 11/1/2017 5:18 am:
I had no wish to "gain" anything at all. I was expressing my opinion in my space in this place about an un named person's use of a nick they chose. Why does expressing my written opinion about an un named person mean I am trying to gain something-I don't get that at all. This is the internet and you women are taking this way too seriously!

bigblackman21221 49M
4093 posts
10/30/2017 6:19 pm

Try putting imo in capital letters.
I saw it and realized you were just expressing your opinion.

Negative opinions are obviously frowned upon by some.

1sweetbitch replies on 10/31/2017 7:16 am:
lol funny but the 2 really upset commenters here are both women-there was one man who misunderstood the whole post. I think it's pretty hilarious to have a supposedly popular blogger question my maturity-leave 5 comments and even blog about me(so she says) over a pretty insignificant post by me about people in this place who use descriptive adjectives in their nicks who-imo-get it wrong! When you start telling me what a popular blogger you are in here and how you have had 2 books published because I guess you want to scare me...I am likely to roll my eyes..It's sex site-the woman needs a reality check

author51 57F  
96518 posts
10/30/2017 3:52 pm

    Quoting let_me_see1:
    I was raised with the notion that if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing. Obviously, we were raised different. You are one car accident away from not being perfect on the outside. And we all now know you have nothing on the inside. Go ahead, make me the target of your next blog. At least I treat people how With decency and respect!

One can never have enough JOY in their life...

1sweetbitch replies on 10/31/2017 7:39 am:
You "TOP" female bloggers need to stop trying to police what other people say when they are expressing a personal opinion about a very subjective thing like beauty. Explain to me how it is that you don't see a problem with you trying to silence the free expression of others with your thinly veiled BULLY tactics..you should be ashamed.

author51 57F  
96518 posts
10/30/2017 1:51 pm

By the way I am an author of 2 published books so my comprehension is just fine and dandy..... Did your Mother never teach you that if you have nothing nice to say, than say nothing at all? We TOP female bloggers take note of those who trash talk others here.....

One can never have enough JOY in their life...

1sweetbitch replies on 10/31/2017 6:59 am:
#1 I don't give a shit how published you are...yo are now using bully tactics lady! #2 you have now insulted me by questioning my maturity over a post about beauty that trashed no one. Finally-YOU did NOT comprehend what I wrote-you totally misunderstood-it was a post about how objective beauty is-but you decided to misread-misunderstand and leave 5 separate comments. Then I guess you actually blogged about me...LMAO at the Nazi police...get a life and stop the bully tactics with people who are here to freely express themselves! In other words fuck off-I have had it with you!

author51 57F  
96518 posts
10/30/2017 1:48 pm

    Quoting dayzeeme:
    beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so I suppose you are allowed your opinion, and in your eye, they may not be attractive physically. I would rather be kind than beautiful, so I suppose I have that for me. Beauty is only skin deep, and being rotten on the inside will do nothing to make outside beauty tolerable.
Does not matter if you named anyone or not.....You cut women down in general..... Does not wash here in Blog Land and at your age?????

You call yourself Mature? Are you KIDDING ME?

One can never have enough JOY in their life...

1sweetbitch replies on 10/31/2017 8:38 am:
Your tactics are disgraceful-resorting to ad hom because you do not like the way I expressed my opinion on what beauty is and isn't

author51 57F  
96518 posts
10/30/2017 12:59 pm

If you were sweet, you would not be trash talking others...... I dare you to come onto my blog and explain yourself.... Other women here have had enough... Take a look in the mirror.... Your inner beauty is long gone......

One can never have enough JOY in their life...

1sweetbitch replies on 10/31/2017 6:52 am:
Me thinks you protest too loudly-I have no reason under the sun to come to your blog and defend myself or even to read your post. Your bully tactics and bully pulpit is wasted on me-your insults about my maturity leave me with a case of giggles. Without naming a person I expressed my opinion about this subjective thing called beauty. WTF are you-the Nazi police that people can't express an opinion without some thinned skinned bully like you leaving how many threatening comments? You only see yourself as powerful in your own eyes-you don't scare me so get offa my cloud. I just have to roll my eyes at a woman who demands I read her blog post about me!

author51 57F  
96518 posts
10/30/2017 12:56 pm

    Quoting  :

Yes that is your opinion.. sure as hell is not mine...... read my blog this afternoon.

One can never have enough JOY in their life...

1sweetbitch replies on 10/31/2017 6:42 am:
I personally do NOT GIVE A FUCK how popular you are as a blogger-this is my place to voice my opinion which I intend to do and bullies like you can take a g/d hike!!! It's hilarious how thinned skinned some of you women are-u couldn't get it said in one comment so you left HOW MANY????? No your reading comprehension SUCKS-this post was about the subjectivity of beauty!

DustyMarbles 70M  
14 posts
10/27/2017 1:26 pm

I don't wish to offend you by my comments. Like you, I am expressing my opinion like everyone else. Truth be told, in my eyes, your attributes are exceptional and you should be proud and we are all glad you share with us.

1sweetbitch replies on 10/28/2017 5:30 pm:
I would have saved myself lots of misunderstanding if I had inserted "In my opinion" after all my comments like "some of the people that think they are beautiful in here miss it by a country mile" In fact I may change the title to this post to "in My Opinion"

Some men find fat women attractive....I get that. My issue is people who call themselves by a nick in here that in the eyes of many is just not what they are. A man messaged me the other day whose nick is Adonis06. The man works out and he looks good-but to call himself Adonis gave me pause. I think self confidence is a good thing but let someone else call you a god...or a sexy goddess or gorgeouslady etc. I have said it over and over...beauty is a very subjective thing.What I am addressing is the nicks people pick for themselves in this place that don't seem to apply to them at all....in my opinion.

I guess this post just reinforces the fact that when you talk about beauty...ugliness..obesity and other issues like that you are bound to be misunderstood....insulted(you haven't done that) and have people angry about what you have said. A blog should be a safe place to voice your opinion without the kind of response that I got from let_me_see1 who stated that "we all know you have nothing inside". What a disgraceful reply. He didn't even comprehend what I had really written-or the fact that I had insulted no one or named anyone in the entire post. At this point I may chose to not blog again. I have had to block men in the past who were viley insulting over an opinion I expressed. I have disagreed with folks opinions on their blogs without insulting their integrity-their character or their intelligence and it's pretty disgusting to me it when I express an opinion-get misunderstood and am accused of being harsh.......and having nothing inside. That's just creepy.

DustyMarbles 70M  
14 posts
10/27/2017 6:57 am

Sometimes it helps to put yourself in their shoes. Not everyone has the internal fortitude to change their live as you did. You made the change to experience the things you want to experience. And that is good and fortunate for the people who have shared those experience's with you.
Unless you are able to see through the eyes of those that find them attractive, it is harsh to say they are, in your opinion, they miss it by a country mile.

tedscott40 57M
2440 posts
10/26/2017 4:51 am

People do like to over rate themselves, don't they?

1sweetbitch replies on 10/26/2017 5:23 am:
yes they do Ted...and as you can see by at least one of the responses...people who read blogs don't always have a history of passing reading comprehension 101

Slingy247 43M  
16 posts
10/26/2017 3:15 am

*getting my popcorn ready*

1sweetbitch replies on 10/26/2017 5:38 am:

dayzeeme 51F
6996 posts
10/25/2017 9:53 pm

beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so I suppose you are allowed your opinion, and in your eye, they may not be attractive physically. I would rather be kind than beautiful, so I suppose I have that for me. Beauty is only skin deep, and being rotten on the inside will do nothing to make outside beauty tolerable.

1sweetbitch replies on 10/26/2017 5:21 am:
Yes I did express my opinion...I never named anyone and I was clear about how we all see beauty differently-so I don't think I insulted anyone. Thanks

Isttime4us 60M/60F
137 posts
10/25/2017 5:44 pm

I've seen women who were physically beautiful that did nothing for me. Don't get me wrong there has to be some kind of physical attraction , but a woman with a kind, gentle demeanor is what does it for me.

1sweetbitch replies on 10/26/2017 5:36 am:
a refreshing response...a lot of men don't feel the way you do.

peterlikesplay2 64M
453 posts
10/25/2017 3:47 pm

hmmm ..interesting. After pondering this I think some people are sexy looking and others have a sexy attitude, and confidence that makes them appealing. We all have the ability to change somewhat in appearance , due to lifestyle changes and hard work. I think the way we feel about ourselves projects outwards....so in conclusion if we feel good about ourselves we feel sexy. Just one man's opinion...

1sweetbitch replies on 10/25/2017 3:48 pm:
Very good and I agree

DustyMarbles 70M  
14 posts
10/25/2017 2:50 pm

I think your being a bit on the harsh side with this one. Not everyone has the fortitude to better themselves as you did.
Maybe sharing with them your personal journey would be better.

1sweetbitch replies on 10/25/2017 3:50 pm:
Let me think on it......and me harsh?? I have never had a harsh word for one soul in my life

1sweetbitch replies on 10/26/2017 5:14 am:
Dusty-I do NOT get this-how have I been harsh??? I have not named anyone...I have simply expressed my opinion about beauty and how it differs from others. If I had named the person/persons I have seen calling themselves beautiful/sexy or whatever on their profiles who are not that......then I would maybe have been harsh. How can you be cruel or harsh if you haven't named anyone?

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