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It seems like no women in the Chicago area wants to talk to me.  

whoisagentj 54M
663 posts
4/11/2019 11:04 am

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4/12/2019 11:43 am

It seems like no women in the Chicago area wants to talk to me.


Well, I've gone through all of the profiles recommended to me via AdultFriendFinder, based on my selections of what I was looking for (and they are pretty open to races, height, weight, etc., however not dating smokers or drug users, sorry) and I've messaged everyone I was interested in I thought had things in common with . Out of those, I did get contacted by a few people here, but as soon as I said I was living with my mom and dad, they all bailed out of the conversations, and a couple people even insulted , calling a momma's . As I tried to explain to them all I was taking care of my mom due to her stage 4 colon cancer, they all either blocked or told they didn't want to get involved with all or hear any fake excuses. Who would make an excuse about their mom having cancer?

So, this point, I've exhausted all of the people here on the site within a 50 mile radius to my home. The rest, I've emailed least twice to try and say hello with no replies all. So...I've now switches to new members. But this point, I don't know if going to find anyone here.

However, because I active, AdultFriendFinder has been taking my profile world wide, and I keep getting views from people who are half way across the US or the world for matter. So while I appreciate the views, unless these people are suddenly taking<b> trips </font></b>to Chicago and want to see personally, I don't think 's going to help anything. What I really think is the website is doing is just taking my profile and having them show these women her from around the world to make it look like they are actually viewing my profile when they are not in reality. It's probably the software coding it to make it look like people are actually viewing my profile.

In fact, I've actually gotten 's from people across the states here asking if I looking for a relationship. Look...with all due respect, no sane person, which they've just viewed a profile, would , say they want to relocate to my area just to have a relationship with . If I saw someone's profile, and they looked cute, they seemed to fit very similar things like me, and even if person seemed to fit me like a glove...there is no way in hell I quitting my job, moving all of my stuff, and relocating just so I could be closer to them, not to mention abandoning my family and my ....I mean it does not make sense! Who in their right mind would do , just to be with someone? Maybe if I was single, didn't have or family, and my job is interchangeable, could I possibly consider it, but would be after I've talked to person and developed a relationship with person online and talked to person for QUITE A WHILE. But to do just out of the blue because we talked for a few minutes on a website? Nope. Uh uh, no way.

The funny thing is I keep getting people 'g here asking to speak to offline. As if stupid to do . In fact I just got two more tried to do this to while I was typing this blog.

So for right now, not holding hope for this site or other dating sites. All I can say is glad the weather is getting warmer so I can get out and maybe start approaching people myself. Do you get random people from far away checking out your profile? Have you gotten messages from people to move to your area to start a relationship with you and you barely know them? How do you handle it? Or do you suspect the website itself is doing this on it's own in order to make one person look other people to make it look like the first person was checking them out, when in fact they never did? What do you think?

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positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
4/11/2019 4:54 pm

Women can be quite observant, especially with maturity. An insightful woman would see there is a difference in living with your parents and living off of your parents. A man who lives off of his parents, and so many do, will not get anywhere with most women. Not your case at all. In fact, your position now taking care of them is quite admirable. A lot of lesser men would not even go there. But they may see you as having too much on your plate right now, to start anything. And you do get a lot of the scammers here. You cannot go by the site’s views, flirts and hotlist. They are not correct. I think they are site generated. I go by a legit message, a pic and his approach. And his location is important.


whoisagentj replies on 4/12/2019 11:43 am:
Thank you for you words of sage and wisdom, positively4you! I do agree that while I am taking care of my folks right now, I think I'm ok with balancing my work life and my home life. But you are correct, it's possibly that they are viewing me as there is too much in my life at the moment that's going on, and that they don't want to deal with that.

And yes there are a ton of scammers here. I'm the same way, I don't respond to a woman unless they have at least 2 different pictures in their profile, that I get a legit message from that woman, and that her message isn't in broken English or terrible spelling. And that her location is somewhat close. If I find a good woman, driving a bit to see them is not a problem. Driving over more than an hour, that might be a problem though...

Thanks for posting!

qrst50 73M

4/11/2019 3:15 pm

try another site? or go to a gay club and ask questions on where other clubs are? always ask a taxi driver- they know it all


whoisagentj replies on 4/12/2019 11:37 am:
Well, I have tried a couple of different sites. And I will probably keep trying to see if I can find another site that has different women (sorry, not homosexual) or try to see if I can find somewhere else I can talk to women. The problem is, I'm not a drinker (sober 30+ years) so going to a club is not really an option.
Thanks for stopping by and offering the advice though!

pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
4/11/2019 2:48 pm

I even get them from Amsterdam. Most of the UK and Europe does exactly what you are discussing and I have gotten them from as far away in the states as CA(opposite coast). There is no way in hades I am moving anywhere.

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whoisagentj replies on 4/12/2019 11:34 am:
I'm the same way. There is no way I'm going to uproot myself and go somewhere else when my life is here.

bbwdreamlover 49F

4/11/2019 12:36 pm

i have gotten views and messages from men from other states and countries ,one or two were looking for long term relationships. it can be hard to find the people you are interested with similar interest that is interest in you.


whoisagentj replies on 4/12/2019 11:33 am:
I agree bbwdreamlover. I've gotten stuff similar to you. My argument though is that to have someone who has never contacted you before to say that they want to have a relationship with you, and you know nothing about them, AND they say they want to move to your area to have a relationship with you? You don't find that weird or alarming on your end?

I'm sorry, but to me, that's awfully weird to me.

whoisagentj 54M
6060 posts
4/11/2019 11:06 am

If you are reading this, I'd love to hear your thoughts on this one...

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Why none other than...


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