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Reaching Out To Suicidal Bloggers
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Reaching Out To Suicidal Bloggers According to government data, 70% of people who commit suicide tell someone about their plans, or give some other type of warning signs. Over 30,000 Americans die each year due to suicide, but over 800,000 Americans attempt suicide. While women attempt suicide three times more than men, men are nearly four times more likely to be successful. (via psych central). This week, I read with concern the plight of a female blogger that had hung onto a toxic relationship for years. When she decided (yet again) to end it, as played out in her blog, she blogged about becoming suicidal to the point of nearly ingesting pills in an attempt to end her life. This raised all sorts of alarm bells to other bloggers in the blogging community. Two of them reached out to me via email for advice. So, how do we know if a blogger we've never met is simply seeking attention or is blogging a cry for help? As a concerned professional, I reached out to the blogger in question via her blog with a kind, concerned reply. Guess what? She immediately deleted my response. What does that tell me as a mental health professional? In looking over the responses, I noticed all were from men. There were no female respondents. A red flag? You bet. Warning signs of suicide are not difficult to spot, but professionals differentiate between someone who simply has a passing thought of suicide or ending his or her own life, and someone who is more serious and has a definite plan. You don’t have to know how serious a person is in order to help them, though. Friends and family who are close to an individual are in the best position to spot these warning signs. Often times people feel helpless in dealing with someone who is depressed or suicidal. If a blogger expresses hopelessness or thoughts of suicide on their blog, it is important for them to know you’re there for them, that you care and you will support them no matter what. It is also helpful to encourage the person to seek professional mental health help from a therapist, psychiatrist, school counselor, or even talking with their family doctor about their feelings. If you can gain insight into a blogger's name and physical location, you can contact law enforcement in their community (often dispatchers can identify addresses via water records) to go out to their residence to conduct a welfare check. For those in the blogging community that have been here for awhile, have you came across warning signs of a blogger's potential risk for suicide? Did you reach out to the blogger or pass it off as just another "attention" seeker? |
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4/30/2016 1:54 pm |
Depressed here but not suicidal. I disagree with narcing on bloggers. Maybe they weren't gonna go through with it, but now due to meddling do-gooders they are in trouble with the law. I don't believe in involuntary welfare checks for adults. I'm more in agreement with the late Dr. Kevorkian; people should be allowed to kill themselves. xEveryone's gonna die some time.
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4/30/2016 1:57 pm |
btw you're total fox, i would love to get somme therapy from you
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On some level aren't all bloggers "attention" seekers? Some are just more so, or a lot more so, than others. For me it is hard to tell if any particular blogger(s) are even who they claim to be let alone whether their post(s) are for real. Except for a few bloggers who I have contact with outside of the blogs I would imagine it is a 50/50 chance a post is real or not. I think that may just be the nature of the online (anonymous) world. That anonymity would make it hard to determine where a person is, and who they are. If I came across a person who is claiming they are suicidal and it seemed legitimate I would direct them to seek some sort of help resource. This site(s) (or any antisocial sites) are probably one of the last places they should be seeking help from. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Once again your post is a great public service. Thank you, Myelin. I have not seen such signs in any blogger whom I read. Perhaps I should expand my subscriptions. In any case, I would not judge a woman with a broken heart for using her blog to gain attention. Whether the suicide threat is viable or not, she deserves my compassion. My featured post this week: Pulling Fantasy Sex Out of My Ass.
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I've seen it here a couple of times. At first it very much concerned me. Thankfully, I didn't know whom to call or what to do because the following day I learned that it was not a cry for help but for attention. It is impossible to know if a person is really hurting, if their blog reflects their true state and feelings. Anonymity of internet and sites like this allow people to fake not only their name, appearance and age but location as well. Visit my blog It's a Mad, Mad, Mad World of NaughtyInSO, leave a comment, become a watcher. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ LIVE AND LET LIVE Be happy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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Thanks for this. I've been thinking about those posts for a couple of days. I have to confess I have very little idea how to tell at first glance if I'm reading an attention seeker or someone who really needs help. There are clues of course in the way the post is written. I have to say that if I were that depressed, I probably wouldn't be blogging about it. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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The picture shows what is on my mind, like most men here. Over the years i have seen a few go way beyond drama. This is a theater, so drama is expected and even encouraged. I know nothing about diagnosing. So I don't look for it, but have seen a few here. To me the red light is when they go on a tangent. It is a series of events that the bloggers blog. Never seen a threat of suicide and follow through. Lots of crazy accidents, funny post about forgetfulness. sleep deprivation, pics of being in drunken state or blogging about drunk actions. Full on attack and block their blogger friends who advised caution. Sequence: Head over heals in love(with some one they hardly know). self Isolate from support group(family& friends) because of this stranger. Justify unjustifiable behaviors on both party, lots of mishaps in their everyday life, magical thinking, A rash action( a major tantrum, telling the wife, stalking etc), Hard push back, Total Despair. "Rules for happiness: something to do, someone to love, something to hope for.”― Immanuel Kant .
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I have not come across any I watch as of yet. I also would think a large majority of any here who might write such a comment truly are not seriously contemplating such a drastic, senseless option. Years ago a Fraternity Brother chose this option without telling any of us or anyone else.  However, if I were to write such a thing could that possibly lead to several one on one sessions with you? Lol!  JUST being my sarcastic self!!!  Hugs
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I can't say whether you did the right thing, but you did the humane thing, and for that you have no need to apologize, explain, or do anything but take quiet satisfaction in your own actions. I do wonder whether someone who is truly suicidal would blog here. Down in the dumps? Yes. Reaching out for help and support? Yes. But truly suicidal? That... I'm less sure about. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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