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Sexuality vs. Sensuality
Sexuality vs. Sensuality The longer I am on this site, and the more I talk to people and observe, it seems alot of people my age or older are much more sensual and erotic than the younger ones. So I thought back to my younger days and have discovered that I always had an erotic, sensual imagination about me, but always let the man lead the way, which often lead to hurried or wild, raw sex. Not that I minded...sex is sex and should feel good right?...lol...but as I have gotten older and divorced I feel it is my right to ask for a little more of what I like, and to my surprise I find, I don't really have to ask my peers, as most are more sensual and take their time....so now the question is?...is it an age thing or a gender thing?...do all people as they mature perfer exploring the pleasures of sensuality, erotica, touching?...do women want this more and just feel more comfortable asking for it as they grow older and more confident in their femininity?...do men slow it down as the clock slows them down?..and which do you really prefer?...the slower, lingering sex that takes hours and may only lead to one amazing orgasm, or the raw hot wild sex that is over in minutes, but can be done again, and again(age and stamina permitting of course...lol), or do you prefer to start off with slow, lingering touches and kisses and let the credence of sensuality build up to sexual wantoness and explode with wild abandon? |
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12/15/2008 4:58 pm |
ooooo i love erotic sensual sex big poppa
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I want it ALL...and not afraid to ask ! ! ! It's our turn Ladies ! ! Love you
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Sex is like music. When we were younger, we liked singles. Now, making love is more like an album. Songs of different tempos, melodies, tastes.....more dynamic. Loud is only loud when compared to soft....fast is only fast when compared to slow.
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No idea Irish, I don't know if its an age thing or not. I think its a mind thing. I remember someone saying the mind is the ultimate sex organ. If you can get your mind into it and please the mind, the body will follow. That makes it sensual over sexual in my mind, because the orgasm starts in the mind and ends in the body.
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I want it ALL...and not afraid to ask ! ! ! It's our turn Ladies ! ! Love you OMG..I have gone blog mad...I am now quoting myself ! !
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Hi Irish... well, you know me; I'm really shy, especially about things of this sort... it's not that I don't think of things like this (how to be sensual/ what I think would please a woman/ etc and so forth), it's just that, I'm not good at/ comfortable opening up about it... I had sort of gotten better at it, but with certain things happening, I think I've clammed up again, hence why I still get quiet when things like this come up in the room... and I think what you're saying, about how we tend to open up when we're older (no offense) is correct; I think as people mature they become less concerned about what others think and therefore they're more willing to open up about things like this around others... that's just my thoughts on the matter though, so, maybe I'm way off... talk to you later Irish... Will Friedle, as Eric Matthews on Boy Meets World: "Life's rough, wear a helmet".
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A rigid sexual/sensual dichotomy is, in my opinion, something to be overcome by both sexes if one is to get off properly. Social conditioning is mercilessly dualistic: Men are active, women are objects; male sexuality is focused on the penis, female sexuality is focused on tits and ass; women should be "good girls," men should be "real men"; men look at women, women are objects of the male erotic gaze... Transcend the sensuality/sexuality dualism, and you get a richer sexual experience. A woman is free to shove her clit shamelessly at a man and have him get her off. The discovery is made that men have tits and ass too, and a lot of skin with a lot of sensitivity elsewhere than the penis. Subtle tastes and scents, pleasing scenery, flirtatious banter, are all experienced with a wholeness that embraces cunt and cock. Anticipation of the climax to come heightens the aesthetic pleasure of a walk on the beach, a concert, an art museum. Extragenital sensory pleasure and erotic imagination swirl and resonate in the fiercest of fucking. I'd far rather mix sensuality and sexuality like colors on a palette than simply choose one over the other.
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Hi, Irish! Thought I'd add my two cents worth . . . I think it might be an "age" thing (my apologies in advance to all the younger guys that are reading this), but a "maturity" thing. When men are in their 20's, it's more of a hormonal urge - raw, furious, fast . . . As men mature, I think it's more of a blending of the sexual (hormonal) and the sensual (erotic). With maturation, I think men discover the ability to blend the two (sexual vs. sensual) into One - including wonderfully satisfying sex, but with that - tenderness . . . spooning, snuggling, caressing, joking, laughing . . . As we mature, we long to experience a connection with that special someone - - it becomes more important than that quick orgasm we had in younger years . . . Again - just my thoughts! Thanks!
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Experience tells me it's more age than gender. Women have it consistently and so do olde men. At least I think I do. Great post, Irish
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To me I have always been one that likes it sensual and erotic. I have always been one that likes to take it slow with alot of foreplay leading up. Foreplay is to me its starts lying with someone special, holding each other and lightly touching. Then kissing, the most important part to everything. Slow touching of the lips and then more deeply soul searching kisses. Holding, touching and kissing lead on to more erotic things as you slowly begin to disrobe each other. More touching , kissing and tasting as you go. Exploring each other as you go, finding out those special places they like to be touched. No rush to get naked but the slow strip tease of each other. This can go on for a long time if you take your time, bringing on increased excitement, anticipation and eroticism. Not in a hurry to get to the end but enjoy the erotic ride along the way. Hope that makes sense to the ladies who might read this.
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Wow -- great thoughts -- Bravo! Sensual is better for me every time.
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Had a man kiss me-he always said, "I'm sexual,but...I'd mess you up."But when he DID kiss me he never laid upon me.Sensual IS always better...Too bad,we would've had fun...if he knew what he was doing??See-thinking you are sexual is one thing. KNOWING you are sensual is totally another!
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It's the individual,I took my time and savored every moment even when I was just 20 years old as I would still do now if given the chance.
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