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Do_u_wanna_kiss 58F
166 posts
5/17/2018 11:35 am
Best of the Best...

So it turns out that Arnold was wrong all this time... It WAS a TOOMAH... lol... Luckily, mine was small and in a very good spot, as far as tumors go... The Neurosurgeon told me that it was the size of a grape and every time I said that I always followed up with, red or green? Some people understood my humor while others got offended that I could joke about something so serious... The ironic thing is that it was MY serious and if I wanted to joke about it, shouldn't I have been able to? That didn't make it any less serious, it just made it more bearable for me to deal with... I wanted to buy red and green grapes and have a game of "guess what size" but no one wanted to play unless they won a prize... The only prize I wanted was survival, which if you haven't guessed yet, I won...

for now...

I had my surgery on Thursday, January 11th and went home on Saturday... how friggin' amazing is medical technology that I got to go home less than 48 hours after someone with a knife was digging around inside my skull? I had 22 staples which were removed 2 weeks later but here I am just over 4 months post-op and the wound is fully healed, although the scar feels like I have potholes in my head... It's still a little sore in certain spots and the top of my head is still numb... the patch of hair he shaved is less than 3 inches long but it's finally falling instead of sticking straight up... I do have some minor issues like balance and occasional difficulty finding the right words but I guess I should be thankful that's all I'm dealing with... I'm hoping they're all just temporary...

The tumor was benign, Thank God, BUT it will be back at some point... unfortunately, the type of tumor I had developed because my brain cells mutated which means it's only a matter of time before they mutate again... it could take 5, 10, 20 years or more but sadly when it does come back it will be aggressive and more likely to be malignant... there's nothing I can do to stop it or change it...

It has taught me things I should have known all along like how precious life is and how quickly it can change... the best thing I've learned is that I want to live my life for me instead of for everyone else like I always have... I refuse to deal with any form of bullshit from anyone, especially, men... I started seeing someone just after my surgery but that ended quicker than it started and didn't get any further than as if we were fooling around in high school... I had a friend that I've just recently cut out of my life completely because I felt he was holding me back and I have just met someone new... I know there's no long-term future there but I'm going to enjoy his company for as long as I can, now...

I've also decided it's time to live my bucket list... no more putting it off until I have the time or money or for whatever other reasons I haven't done it in the past... I have some things in particular that are "do or die" things, no pun intended but I want to do more...

I'd love to know what's on your bucket list? If you could only pick one thing, what would it be? I'd love your help in making a list of the "Best of the Best!"


coreyoral4u2015 45M
59 posts
5/17/2018 11:49 am

Thank you for sharing that personal experience and hoping there is no recurrence or if there is... may it be so far in the future that you are done with your bucket list and living the best golden years possible. Personally I believe no one should help you with the [bucket] list, as in offer suggestions, because it is, after all, your personal list of experiences you have thought about over the years. But if it is just a list of fun things to do... many can help with that!


Do_u_wanna_kiss replies on 5/17/2018 12:50 pm:
Thank You! I do have my own list but someone may offer an idea of something I didn't think of and if I think of it in my "Golden Years" it may too late... also, someone could have experience with something and not recommend it...

lok4fun500 M
51906 posts
5/17/2018 1:09 pm

I like your humor...it is similar to mine! ...It is an amazing trait to have when facing serious situations.
If I was to pick "one" thing from a bucket list, it would be my dream trip to Ireland/Scotland/England!


Do_u_wanna_kiss replies on 5/25/2018 12:22 am:
Humor really is the best medicine! One of my best friends has helped me cope by making me laugh often and think less of what I was facing. I will always love him for that!! Thank you for sharing your "one"...

coreyoral4u2015 45M
59 posts
5/17/2018 4:07 pm

Understood - was not aware if you had a list... care to share some of your bucket list? Something tells me you have some awesome experiences in mind. If it were my list I would include going to Costa Rica, especially touring from Manuel Antonio state park to the Arenal volcano... affordable and beautiful


Do_u_wanna_kiss replies on 5/25/2018 1:04 am:
Yes, I think everyone has some sort of a list... here are my top 5 but only the first one matters to me...
1) Grand Canyon
2) 4 Corners Monument in AZ
3) Anthony Chapel in Arkansas
4) Cadillac Mountain in Acadia National Park, Maine (it's the first place the sun rises in the US during Fall and Winter)
5) Arctic Resort in Finland (sleep in glass igloos under the stars and watch the Northern Lights)

Thanks for sharing Corey! I'll make a note of that one. It looks beautiful

easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
5/24/2018 8:54 pm

Hi Do_u_wanna_kiss.

thanks for sharing...

my thoughts are with you...

Pharrell Williams - "Just a Cloud Away"

This rainy day is temporary
The contrast is why we got 'em
'Cause sun shining through is just a cloud away way way way way way
Way way way way way way (hey baby!)
So what you blown a fuse (you blown a fuse)
Well that happens to us all (that happens to us all)
When I come with great news (i come with great news)
The day could change (change) change (change) change (change) change (change)
We've all, of course, been there before
Been there cryin', fightin', the dark
Let good energy be your strong
Won't get away way way way
This rainy day is temporary
The contrast is why we got 'em
'Cause sun shining through is just a cloud away way way way way way
Way way way way way way (hey baby!)
Well today the rock star (today the rock star)
Feels like singing the blues (feels like singing the blues)
Don't abandon that song (don't abandon that song)
'Cause the tune could change (change) change (change) change (change) change (change)
We've all, of course, been there before
Been there cryin', fightin', the dark
Gravity doesn't need the earth
Snow-balling change (change) change (change) change (change) change (change)
This rainy day is temporary
The contrast is why we got 'em
'Cause sun shining through is just a cloud away way way way way way
Way way way way way way
Everything is simply told
What goes around us come back around baby
Everything boomerangs
What goes up must come down
Love is warm, winter's cold
Humility will keep your feet on the ground
So do your thing through the rain
If you understand, won't you sing with me now?
This rainy day is temporary
The contrast is why we got 'em
'Cause sun shining through is just a cloud away way way way way way
Way way way way way way
This rainy day is temporary
The contrast is why we got 'em
'Cause sun shining through is just a cloud away way way way way way
Way way way way way way...

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Do_u_wanna_kiss replies on 5/25/2018 1:06 am:
Thank you!

endurance42k 63M
17 posts
5/31/2018 10:23 am

glad the toomah was benign and accessible.

Having trouble finding the right word - I would guess the tumor was on on the sides maybe above the ear. That is the speech area.

Might help to read good literature aloud or try learning a new language. The brain can rewire itself and challenging it with new information helps


Do_u_wanna_kiss replies on 5/31/2018 4:17 pm:
Actually, I am at times as well as remembering how to spell certain words... that's a pretty good guess!! time to start reading all those books I keep pushing aside... Thanks for the tip...

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