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What to expect in an AFF relationship?
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What to expect in an AFF relationship? Most people don't know much about AdultFriendFinder when we first join. I also think people join for a lot of different reasons. I've always found AdultFriendFinder was like a big party or club full of new people you can interact with. It's nice to be able to meet so many people you would never in a million years have met on your own. Like a club, though, there are some scary people on here and that's why you really need to screen your dates. When I first joined, my guard was down and I met a lot of people I probably would have been better off not knowing. I think this is a common issue among women who join. When it comes to the guys on AdultFriendFinder, it's a pretty mixed bag. But there are plenty of nice, down to earth men who are a lot of fun. Identifying which ones they are is the issue. The bad guys really do spoil it for the good ones. What do most of the guys want on AdultFriendFinder in terms of a relationship? A lot seem to want one nighters or the right to call you up at the last minute for a booty call. I mean, this site is all about having sex so I suppose that's perfectly reasonable. A good number want something regular and this is the type of relationship most of the AdultFriendFinder woman want. Am I wrong on this? Every once in a while you may need to go out and have a special one time encounter with some exceptional guy but most women need more than that. The few AdultFriendFinder woman I've communicated with seem nice enough on chatrooms or the occasional times I've gotten an email from them. For the guys - how do you find most of the AdultFriendFinder women? It's been a couple of years since I've met any couples on AdultFriendFinder but the women there seemed very friendly and welcoming. I'm not sure if I speak for most women on here but I joined because I was tired of the bar/club scene, was frustratingly single but still wanted an active sex life. Although it is 2010 women have a harder time having active sex lives because we are so worried about our reputations with friends and family. This is a huge issue when you go out with friends to clubs and bars hoping to meet a cute guy. In cases like this your sex life is very public. For me, AdultFriendFinder offers more privacy but it has always felt kind of weird meeting guys online to have sex. Maybe I'm just old fashioned? Regardless, I love the site and am glad I'm a member. One thing guys can keep in mind when meeting an AdultFriendFinder woman for the first time, many of us are nervous during the first meet. We may have talked by email, im and phone but we don't really know each other and we have our guard up in case we end up meeting a jerk. I'm very shy when I'm with someone new and think this puts a lot of guys off. If I decide to sleep with you, you have passed the test. Don't misjudge me because I seem nervous. The great news is, I warm up quickly when I know someone and trust them. And most of the AdultFriendFinder guys I've been with would say I'm a lot of fun in bed so don't be upset about some initial hesitance on my part. I think this type of thing is common with a lot of AdultFriendFinder women. When I first joined, I was much younger and less experienced and didn't understand the site at all. The biggest mistake I made was trying to use AdultFriendFinder as a conventional dating site where I could find a guy who was experienced and really into sex. I laugh now but that was really a huge mistake. One unexpected gem I did find on the site was I made some pretty serious friends. Who would have guessed you could meet nice, normal guys who just want to hang out or do whatever? With these guys it kind of takes the pressure off because you are just hanging out without any expectations. I'd love to hear what your reasons are for joining AdultFriendFinder and please feel free to share any tips. Alice |
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alphaq_n69u2, Don't be put off. There are so many more guys on AdultFriendFinder compared to women that we get tons of email and it's just impossible to respond to everyone. Alice
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Very good post, Alice! I have found a couple of relationships here--one was shorter term than I would have liked because of some problems she had and the other has lasted almost three years. It wasn't what I thought I came here seeking, but I think on a deeper level it actually was. As far as the women here, they are a mixed bag, like the men. Some are nuts, some are wonderful and very bright, some are really sluts, and some are decent women seeking a relationship. Percentage-wise, there are probably many more men wankers than women wankers. AKA The Clit Whisperer. 
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Good post, and I figured these things out myself after having been here awhile. I joined for the same reasons you did, and felt alot like you do. I found that many want quickies and no strings, which I didnt want, but I did meet a wonderful guy here who made me feel very comfortable. We had a relationship that went beyond just (the awesome) sex, but was still just friendship and it was what we both wanted for some time. Eventually though, emotions do get involved, so you have to prepare for that. I moved away for work. There really is no such thing as "no strings", but we have remained friends. He even got me into the pattern that I have formed: you email til youre halfway comfortable, then chat, then phone later, and then meet IN PUBLIC for dinner/date then do your thing if it works out. I highly recommend you follow that, it'll keep you safe.
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I absolutely agree with everything you said. Great post Alice  Shameless Self Promotion Check out My Blogs http://AdultFriendFinder.com/blog/elle_dee
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You said that very well !!
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