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Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/26/2020 2:08 pm

It's impossible to educate someone who's clueless, with just one breath.
You did just fine, right here. ❗❗❗😎
Do they read? 🤔


Chuckk48 67M

10/26/2020 2:15 pm

The simple fact is human nature sucks!!!! I have no idea how to handle the anti-mask people. Wearing a mask is such a simple thing yet people can't seem to bring themselves to do it. Herd Immunity is a joke. People that advocate that don't understand the consequences or don't want to understand the consequences. The problem is a small percentage of people are in your position. The large percentage that aren't in your position don't care. What herd immunity would do is increase the percentage of people that care. It's just unfortunate by that time it would be too late.


XHamburgDave 80M
10466 posts
10/26/2020 2:17 pm

Jules, dare I call you my friend? I feel your pain from the loss of your mother, and your own illness from this evil pandemic! I feel sadly you are fighting a losing battle, however for every one that asks “how were you touched?”, you may have won one small battle. We can only hope, that person may think about his own family, one small step to a safer world.
Thanks to your President Pandering to Idiot Masses, you will continue to encounter these people, until the majority of them have killed themselves!!

Your restraint in the face of this bigotry is highly commendable, given your circumstances, I fear I would not be as nice!!

A little bastard Latin "Nil Illegitemi Carborundum" (Don't let the Bastards grind you down) is one of my favourite sayings, and worth remembering

You my dear Jules have my undying admiration



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justaguyinalaska 57M
879 posts
10/26/2020 2:29 pm

Be assured of my commiseration with your personal suffering as well as concurrence with your conclusions and preventative actions toward managing COVID's existential dangers.

By at least one measure, mine are minority opinions. To wit, a recent poll determined that 53 percent of white male Americans support Trump (note: among women, it's only 35 percent). Like you, I am baffled and frustrated. There is emerging consensus that an abject and toxic fear lurks at the core of these supporters- likely a growing intuition that undeserved *privileges and entitlements* are slipping away.

So what to do? As a first step: avoid any physical proximity (not to mention contact) with anyone this reckless and indifferent to the consequences of her/his actions. As of today, almost 3% of Americans have been infected (as validated through testing; the actual number is assuredly higher). Although you may enjoy some resistance to reinfection, a second infection is entirely possible.

In terms of rhetoric, I encourage you to change the subject (unless improper behavior is exhibited and corrective action is required). We are well past the time when reasonable people can disagree. The data and the science (not to mention the death-count) are incontrovertible. Any denial is willful ignorance...likely incurable.

That said, our personal circumstances usually require us (at some point) to work or socialize with people with whom we have serious disagreements. As the saying goes, "fake it 'til you make it." (in this case "it" means "you go your separate ways")


Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
10/26/2020 4:01 pm

Great post!! Wow!! Yes, we are all putting up with this. Hopefully this too will pass. Back to some sense of normal. I miss the interaction with people. I love meeting new and friendly people. Kinky or not, it's all good. Not these days. I am so sorry about your Mom. Parents are hard to loose. I am sure She gave you sound advice throughout the years. Hang in there!! Be strong!!! You are very sexy and very intelligent.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/26/2020 6:54 pm

I should have elaborated.
What I meant to say is - just ignore them and walk away.
As for your observation about people? It might be true that SOME, are loosing it. But I'd say those that are, have simply revealed their inner weakness ; one that was there all along. Our situation just brought that shallowness to the surface.

But getting back to Julius and that third act. Now THAT, is impressive. Where dja pull that one out?
I can't yank a supportive quote from anyone other than Bugs Bunny. And let's face it... he didn't come up with too many good ones. Is that from memory?
I understand magicians don't usually share the details of their tricks. 👍😊❗❗❗


thesupermann 58M  
63 posts
10/26/2020 6:59 pm

People are generally selfish and stupid. These are the two things I have no patience to accept. If this were a family member of any connection (brother, sister, cousin etc) I'd let em have it. Anyone else would not get me to waste any negative energy to try to make them see the light. They are blind. They are stupid. They are selfish. In most cases, nothing can change them. So turn off the TV or the radio... walk away from the soap box orator and be gone with them so you can live your life... that's what I would do.


lunchandconvo 53F  
4034 posts
10/26/2020 11:21 pm

i am so sorry for your loss of your mom and the changes to your health.

recently i spoke w/ my college ex and long time lover. i've known him since i was 18. he told me his parents died in under a year. when i asked about his dad he just drifted and said he thought it was covid. he didn't say much more. i didn't ask.

and that's the thing. when you say your mom died of covid. i don't think you owe a reply beyond that. or to even say it. but it let's the person know now they do know someone. whenever i think of seeing someone again my best friend from MEGA.U will remind me her best friend jen's dad died of covid. i think more and more people will know of someone. it's going to stop being this remote thing that people can pretend happens to some vague others but not to anyone they know.


MyNameIsKay 62F  
11887 posts
10/27/2020 12:57 am

I think your strategy of attempting to diffuse then walking away is the preferred one. In addition to getting a bit of satisfaction that the person was not able to finish their rant at me, I find I rather enjoy controlling the destination of the dialogue. And it really is best to try and keep my mouth shut because I often can’t get them to consider my point of view anyway. Between social media, which I mostly ignore, and people who feel entitled, I really don’t enjoy interacting with those who hide behind a platform and speak without common courtesy. Courtesy and compassion are sadly missing from many these days.

Big hugs to you Jules...hope I made sense...

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lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
10/27/2020 2:12 am

Isn't it amazing how people in today's world of digital interaction seem to have lost the ability to exchange views in a reasonable way, and that unreasonable approach seems to have crossed over into real life?

I know that for me it's a struggle not to judge people who disregard the basic safety of others. I often find myself starting to look down my nose at someone who isn't wearing a mask, then I stop myself........people aren't accustomed to this new normal yet. Older people often forget what day it is let alone to wear a mask. Younger people are in such a rush to get on with life that they might forget to use the sanitiser. And for me, pointing out someone's apparent 'forgetfulness' only seems to lead to an anxious exchange in which the miscreant might really only be annoyed at themselves for forgetting. I've found (by trial and especially error) that leading by example is the best way.

On the other hand, I could get annoyed at the people who have completely disregarded the simple practices for their own selfish ends. Those people who have gone to the pub then perhaps caused a local spread which has then led to restrictions being re-imposed........I mean, why should I be penalised because someone else couldn't be bothered to wash their hands or wear a mask or wanted a few more drinks than they should have had? But I guess we're all just people trying to cope.

We have a group of politicians in charge of the UK here who believe herd immunity is the way to go. One of the leaders was overheard saying '.......and if a few pensioners die, who cares?' as early as February this year. Sickening.

To those people who try to argue against restrictions, or talk about herd immunity, they'll never be persuaded that there's a better way. Because they heard it on the internet, flakebook, algo asi.......

I'll continue on as I have since the start, to behave towards others as if I have the infection and all I'm trying to do is protect them and anyone else who might need to look after me if I fall seriously ill.

As I've said before, your determination to be positive is astounding, a thing of wonder, something that anyone might struggle to achieve in the face of your adversity.

And.....oops, sorry for the ramble......

ps - this is one of the nicest rants I've ever heard McJ!


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
10/27/2020 2:21 am

Jules....beyond saying , " listen, i am still recovering from my own experience with Covid AND i just lost my mother to Covid. I cannot even entertain your insensitivities. I will not engage with any person who thinks that the loss of life with this is acceptable, or those who will not consider taking care of others and theirselves by simply wearing a mask. We are not of the same mindset"

There is nothing more to say. Aggressively stupid...yup....thats my new term. It applies to sooooo many, in my opinion. You may borrow the term....lol

For you: Remember the Serenity Prayer...." and the wisdom to know the difference "
That difference is between the things we can and cannot change in life. ~~

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merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
10/27/2020 4:47 am

...the beauty about online.. is that you can take the time to clearly express your views and the logic behind them.... others can choose to agree or disagree.... for those who choose to disagree and make it a conflict versus a healthy exchange of ideas... hit the mute button.... engagement is no longer productive... fortunately walking away is also an easy thing to do... poof gone... next subject please....

...carpe diem .... and your struggles are real.... fortunately time has a way of softening the sharp edge....


Urhungness 39M  
40 posts
10/27/2020 4:48 am

I wish my sympathies & condolences was suffice enough to lessen the pain of you're going through. I truly wish you the best during this grieving stage. I also used to hear about not wallowing in your pain, to move on & get through it, but I strongly believe there are times when that is exactly what is needed. I honestly can't figure out how I'd cope if I were in your shoes, but what I do know is I would certainly get tired if biting my tongue, of giving the soft, considerate, diplomatic response & just give in & let somebody know how much of an ignorant fuck they are. After all, it might just be the opportunity I needed to vent


freespirit11501 53M
1542 posts
10/27/2020 5:12 am

I’m sorry your having such a tough time. It astounds me how people can be so insensitive. I know exactly what it’s like to just want to explode on someone, but you know what, it won’t accomplish anything. I would just wish that person good luck and walk away.

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HermanG67 56M
8464 posts
10/27/2020 1:22 pm

I can not imagine the hurt you are going through..... it brakes my heart that you are

the sad part is those who are blind blind to how it effects you do not have the empathy to allow you to heal

you can't fix stupid, but that doesn't mean you should break yourself trying to fix them 💔


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
10/27/2020 7:27 pm

It seems this pandemic has truly brought out the worst in people and no one is ashamed to hide their evil true colors. Lack of consideration for others and just thinking of themselves

I tend to be non-confrontational. Don't know how psycho people are now. Say something to someone, and you don't know how they will react. Also, not worth getting arrested for beating the crap out of someone...or getting sued for beating up some jerk.

I just spent hours with my client and his family and I wore my mask the whole time while they had their masks off...even though their oldest son was out with friends. How dumb can you be? Glad I won't be seeing them again.

People in general suck and wish I could escape to an island so I could avoid the world. care to join me?


ULIXBIG 69M
9288 posts
10/27/2020 8:35 pm

I gave up responding politely! What I found is that the herd is immune ... to reason.

Have some big hugs ...


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
10/30/2020 5:54 am

Jules1590 replies on 10/29/2020 9:27 am:
"the beauty about online.. is that you can take the time to clearly express your views and the logic behind them" LOVE this response and all your points. The same also holds true for texting. I am a far better orator online through a device than standing face to face.

So you've exposed me to the world my dear, I am a dumb bunny in real life! LOL. Take away the keyboard and I am a babbling kindergartner counting on her wittle toes.

Thank you as always for your wonderful posts here. Big Hugs to you Sir.
Jules
..............................

...it's really quite funny...
...she thinks she's bunny...
....but everyone knows...
...in the back, rabbits only have four toes....

....now.. ahem.... about those grannie panties.....
....bloomers they are called Jules..... they wanna know if you brought your bloomers......

(said in the same dry wit as the Eargo commercial when the dad says, "Condoms, Charlie. She wants to know if you brought any condoms.")

Wink! ... And I suspect your modesty is a smoke screen and that in real life you are a witty slightly sarcastic whirling dervish..... with a captivating grin.....

...so fun to scramble blog posts from here and there... I trust you take no issue with this highly irreverant practice... my turn to grin.... carpe diem....


Notaname99 64M  
568 posts
10/30/2020 7:46 am

Sorry for you loss. My mother died in April (stroke, not covid). I feel the same way about people not understanding/believing. We have become more divided than ever in the past four years. We were heading this way but we really got spliced in the last four years. I have had several conversations with people about what will people think when there reality hits the wall and the virus does not magically disappears next month. I have not eaten inside a restaurant since March. I do take out, but I have also walked out without ordering at a couple of places because no one was wearing a mask inside.
I have wanted to carry around a 2x4 and use it on stupid people. It is difficult to not go postal. I have been walking away. That is the only thing I can do to keep from wanting to choke them to death.


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
10/30/2020 6:31 pm

Jules1590 replies on 10/29/2020 9:08 pm:
That's infuriating. They weren't wearing masks? I'm confused. They had them, but were not wearing them? Why didn't you ask them to put them on?

I am certainly more patient with people for the very reasons you cited: "you don't know how they will react."


They were munching on snacks and I think they just don't care. So I minded my own business and tuned them out for most of the ride. Still regret taking that case and should have listened to my gut instinct. I have listened to it since then and declined cases.

Important thing is that it's over and I don't have to deal with them anymore until we have a decision which could take months or years.

Yup, count me in on the island. I'll bring my mask!

I'll have the towel and umbrella ready


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
11/13/2020 12:58 pm

Jules1590 replies on 11/9/2020 8:49 pm:
"tuned them out for most of the ride..."

Are you kidding me??? You were in a CAR with them...? Maskless.

I think I just had an aneurism in my temple.


I had my mask on the entire time and thankfully it was a big suv and I survived but that's the last time I take on these types of cases

Hope your temple is feeling better


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