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A First Time for Everything?
A First Time for Everything? I can honestly say that 99% of the males who have emailed here, have been at minimum, cordial. Even those I politely 'turned down', handled it respectfully. That all changed just a short time ago this afternoon. First thing I do when anyone contacts me, is look at their profile and pictures. This will temper how I respond. I won't name the individual but I will say he is '57' yrs old and local . Here's the exchange. Him: Hi there, my name is Michael. Would you be interested in chattiing? Me: I respectfully decline and wish you the best in your adventures. Him: Go fuck yourself bitch ....you think you are better?? think again He thinks about it for '30' minutes and then sends: You dont even show your fucking face I shook my head thinking FFS! I craft an appropriate response, press Enter and discover he has blocked 'me' . Without hesitation, I reported him 'to' AdultFriendFinder Abuse and provided a screenshot. Ladies: Has this happened you? Gentleman: How do you handle 'rejection'? |
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Initially, this bothered me as it does NOT represent the types of experiences I normally have on here. Now, I can laugh it off but felt it was worth sharing.
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Interestingly enough I never thought to report them- I just block and move on. Unfortunately, I find that the longer they seem to have gone "without" the ruder they become and age is no barrier. (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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What a real jerk he is, I am so sorry he did that to you. You were being so nice too him, I don't get why some people are so nasty, and yes I have had that happen to me too. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day..
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Some men never understood the word gentleman, They are spoiled, and so into their self that they can't see the real world and what it offers, apologies for the poor crude guy.. have a good day, be safe.. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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Haha what the hell
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Rejection? I don't know what you mean? ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Rejection is a large part of life! Cant get the right girl, get the right car, right job! Those of us that do get rejected, reject others! Don't want that one, wrong color eyes, hair, nails etc! Some folks find sucess in numbers!! Broad shotgun blast!! Bound to hit something!! kiss enough frongs and you will find the prince! Ask enough girls and one will eventually say yes!!! I could be mistaken! [I]Da Focker!!
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Yes it has. A few times before I even ignored the message. I mark all as spam which automatically gets it added to my blocked list. The not meeting at this time means nothing to the ones who sent a message. So does all or most of my preferences. Younger ones don't like I want my age. A few dont like I am not meeting. That is why I report all as spam. I believe I have I will do so on my profile. They refuse to believe I am not meeting. Maybe they think they are special. Ummm no they are not. Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth. If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.
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I don't contact anyone, therefore I can honestly say that I've never been rejected, lol. Of those that contact me that I rejected usually take it well and even apologize for bothering me. Please don't let me be misunderstood.
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How do you handle 'rejection'?As a non-paying member my view may be different than others. I would prefer rejection to no response at all. No response leaves me wondering if the message got through (no matter the way it was sent) or not, then should I try again or even a third time. Earlier this year I messaged a woman - for the third time. When we met it turned out she had not seen the first 2. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Interestingly enough I never thought to report them- I just block and move on. Unfortunately, I find that the longer they seem to have gone "without" the ruder they become and age is no barrier.
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Sadly has happened more then once to me. Delete, ignore and block. Glad you can laugh about it.
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I am not new on here. And yes, it is the first time anyone has reacted that way. To act like a spoiled brat and block me just shows why he isn’t successful on here. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
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Not crazy as much as socially inadequate. It’s the first time I reported someone for their correspondence to me. Thanks for stopping by.
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I take rejection in my stride. I would usually thank them for having responded at all. If someone is very rude, I block them. I don't bother reacting in such a case.
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I don't consider it a rejection - it is just some one's preference for whatever their reasons are. Like you I read profiles from pictures I like to those who reach out to me. I usually pass on the very short profiles and any that I don't seem to check many of their likes. Seems to me it would be rather egotistical and immature to expect everyone I contact to want to pursue even a distant chat.
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What a real jerk he is, I am so sorry he did that to you. You were being so nice too him, I don't get why some people are so nasty, and yes I have had that happen to me too. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day..
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Some men never understood the word gentleman, They are spoiled, and so into their self that they can't see the real world and what it offers, apologies for the poor crude guy.. have a good day, be safe..
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Haha what the hell
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Rejection? I don't know what you mean?
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Rejection is a large part of life! Cant get the right girl, get the right car, right job! Those of us that do get rejected, reject others! Don't want that one, wrong color eyes, hair, nails etc! Some folks find sucess in numbers!! Broad shotgun blast!! Bound to hit something!! kiss enough frongs and you will find the prince! Ask enough girls and one will eventually say yes!!! I could be mistaken!
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since this is a sex site they look at you and some easy target, they didn't take the time to know you and understand you....... now he has just lost out on meeting someone nice and friendly ........his lost ,
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Yes it has. A few times before I even ignored the message. I mark all as spam which automatically gets it added to my blocked list. The not meeting at this time means nothing to the ones who sent a message. So does all or most of my preferences. Younger ones don't like I want my age. A few dont like I am not meeting. That is why I report all as spam. I believe I have I will do so on my profile. They refuse to believe I am not meeting. Maybe they think they are special. Ummm no they are not.
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I agree with your analysis except it seems they join here, expecting everyone is going to jump to their requests / demands / expectations. The reaction was completely uncalled for and the topper was blocking me! No worries, I am a strong, resilient woman and this was only a blip.
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I don't contact anyone, therefore I can honestly say that I've never been rejected, lol. Of those that contact me that I rejected usually take it well and even apologize for bothering me.
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How do you handle 'rejection'?As a non-paying member my view may be different than others. I would prefer rejection to no response at all. No response leaves me wondering if the message got through (no matter the way it was sent) or not, then should I try again or even a third time. Earlier this year I messaged a woman - for the third time. When we met it turned out she had not seen the first 2.
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Sadly has happened more then once to me. Delete, ignore and block. Glad you can laugh about it.
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You accept all Pablo... even the stalkers? Happy Friday 🥃🥃🥃
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7/3/2020 6:43 pm |
rejection? I avoid rejection by never asking, it's been a success!!!
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You know my friend I find it funny when someone here gets a little bit of recognition that someone sends a minion or two to chat you up... just saying Hope you blocked him back, such a 🐤💩 to block you when you politely declined, smfh!
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Yes - the world is NOT centered around AdultFriendFinder despite how it may be promoted.
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I agree something is rotting in Denmark Sounds fishy to me....I honestly bet i know his user name here too lol jus sayin
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Some people enjoy using their blog for 'conversation', although anyone can delete a comment they don't like. Nice to see you dropping by and commenting
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I take rejection in my stride. I would usually thank them for having responded at all. If someone is very rude, I block them. I don't bother reacting in such a case.
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I don't consider it a rejection - it is just some one's preference for whatever their reasons are. Like you I read profiles from pictures I like to those who reach out to me. I usually pass on the very short profiles and any that I don't seem to check many of their likes. Seems to me it would be rather egotistical and immature to expect everyone I contact to want to pursue even a distant chat.
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since this is a sex site they look at you and some easy target, they didn't take the time to know you and understand you....... now he has just lost out on meeting someone nice and friendly ........his lost ,
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rejection? I avoid rejection by never asking, it's been a success!!!
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I am certainly glad you are in the ‘99%’ too 😊. Nice to see dropping by.
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@ 'shocked'
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Unfortunately, you could have, and probably have, met this type of personality somewhere and at sometime in public.
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Unfortunately, you could have, and probably have, met this type of personality somewhere and at sometime in public.
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@ 'shocked'
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No time for people being offensive, a waste of energy replying to them, it just feeds their nasty ego.
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No time for people being offensive, a waste of energy replying to them, it just feeds their nasty ego.
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7/4/2020 5:21 am |
What a great idea! You don’t ask, you just take? No doubt you are ‘successful’ in many ways 😊.
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No, I don't take. I don't ask and I don't get anything, but I avoid rejection by not participating.
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well I now have a winner and he has been reported. First contact ws from Portland Maine. The one today was from Roxbury MA. I copied and pasted it all to ABUSE team and once I know they have responded I am going to block. His name is igotitrealbad and he's full of so much BS I can teven imagine how he lives had to test it first...I ran truluvlife.com for 8 years and I've seen it all and cleaned it up. In the end, I have over 250,000 members and twice as many blogs. I want to date safe, I've been drugged 4 or, 5 times. 6/28/2020 4:50 am When I got your first message it was from Portland Maine now you are in Roxbury MA let's talk abut honesty or fakes 7/4/2020 10:54 am yeah, I have money...I own a business....I go all over. so there nah! 7/4/2020 11:05 am take that and smoke it dummy 7/4/2020 11:06 am I can make 1000's a day sitting on my ass...what do you think of that? I have an ebay store and I own a multi security agency. 7/4/2020 11:08 am bet that sticks in your throat doesn't it??? 7/4/2020 11:09 am ebay: "area51cent" clovisai.com multi-security agency it's not set up because it's meant to be like that so, people can contact me in secret. 7/4/2020 11:15 am I owned truluvlife.com corp 9 years....I had 3 accounts deactivated here....want the usernames? I'm pretty smart....AI stuff. 7/4/2020 11:33 am that's one they deleted the rest out of my mail. 7/4/2020 11:34 am she said she was the only real person where she was...what a joke...watch out for yourself....if you need help with that...I'm more than happy to oblige. 7/4/2020 11:35 am I don't know why I'm here really this place is disgusting...I'm just so lonely. Sorry. 7/4/2020 11:38 am I don't mean to be a drag. Reply within 48 hours and get 20 points (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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well I now have a winner and he has been reported. First contact ws from Portland Maine. The one today was from Roxbury MA. I copied and pasted it all to ABUSE team and once I know they have responded I am going to block. His name is igotitrealbad and he's full of so much BS I can teven imagine how he lives had to test it first...I ran truluvlife.com for 8 years and I've seen it all and cleaned it up. In the end, I have over 250,000 members and twice as many blogs. I want to date safe, I've been drugged 4 or, 5 times. 6/28/2020 4:50 am When I got your first message it was from Portland Maine now you are in Roxbury MA let's talk abut honesty or fakes 7/4/2020 10:54 am yeah, I have money...I own a business....I go all over. so there nah! 7/4/2020 11:05 am take that and smoke it dummy 7/4/2020 11:06 am I can make 1000's a day sitting on my ass...what do you think of that? I have an ebay store and I own a multi security agency. 7/4/2020 11:08 am bet that sticks in your throat doesn't it??? 7/4/2020 11:09 am ebay: "area51cent" clovisai.com multi-security agency it's not set up because it's meant to be like that so, people can contact me in secret. 7/4/2020 11:15 am I owned truluvlife.com corp 9 years....I had 3 accounts deactivated here....want the usernames? I'm pretty smart....AI stuff. 7/4/2020 11:33 am that's one they deleted the rest out of my mail. 7/4/2020 11:34 am she said she was the only real person where she was...what a joke...watch out for yourself....if you need help with that...I'm more than happy to oblige. 7/4/2020 11:35 am I don't know why I'm here really this place is disgusting...I'm just so lonely. Sorry. 7/4/2020 11:38 am I don't mean to be a drag. Reply within 48 hours and get 20 points
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I had NO interest in him. There was absolutely No redeeming qualities that would make me want to 'chat' with him. I agree with your comments and trust me, I haven't given him a second thought. Thank you for dropping by and sharing your perspective.
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I handle rejection with dignity. I know not everyone is going to be into me. We all have different tastes.
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I handle rejection with dignity. I know not everyone is going to be into me. We all have different tastes.
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We are alike in many ways. When I write to someone I'm interested in I am polite hopefully I'll get a response. Rather good or bad I look at it as at least they took the time to write me. If someone takes the time to write me and I'm not interested I send them a polite thank you but no thank you letter. I have never sent or will I a letter like the one you received. We both have to much class for that. We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious
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We are alike in many ways. When I write to someone I'm interested in I am polite hopefully I'll get a response. Rather good or bad I look at it as at least they took the time to write me. If someone takes the time to write me and I'm not interested I send them a polite thank you but no thank you letter. I have never sent or will I a letter like the one you received. We both have to much class for that.
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My response is: "Appreciate your interest, tho, I am going to decline. The best to you!" Then, I get "your loss", "you are fat and ugly", etc. Not sure why someone can't just accept a no interest without being ignorant. Some seem to think anonymity means amp up the douche-bagism. Sorry you had to deal with that crap ... *huggles* In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...
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My response is: "Appreciate your interest, tho, I am going to decline. The best to you!" Then, I get "your loss", "you are fat and ugly", etc. Not sure why someone can't just accept a no interest without being ignorant. Some seem to think anonymity means amp up the douche-bagism. Sorry you had to deal with that crap ... *huggles* Thank you for your support and the 'huggles'.
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How do I handle rejection? I simply move on ...
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How do I handle rejection? I simply move on ...
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7/6/2020 9:34 am |
Asking you to chat and being told thank you, but no, is hardly a "rejection" We men need to get over ourselves. You are not needing to deal with such bs. It is 'ADULT' Friend Finder. Wish more people would react that way. Best of luck in your search. Hope they are happier ones ahead.
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Actually, most of my experience on here has been quite the opposite. Men Do read my profile and will use something in it to start a conversation. What a waste of your time to mislead you with false information.
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Asking you to chat and being told thank you, but no, is hardly a "rejection" We men need to get over ourselves. You are not needing to deal with such bs. It is 'ADULT' Friend Finder. Wish more people would react that way. Best of luck in your search. Hope they are happier ones ahead.
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I have gotten a few and I just delete them and go on.
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I have gotten a few and I just delete them and go on.
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7/8/2020 6:01 am |
"Rejection" is easy to deal with on a first attempt at making contact. I know what I have to offer and if, from the profile, I think we could be a good match, I just tell myself that it is her loss for not trying to meet somebody new. Rejection after a relationship has started is a lot harder to get over, especially if it comes out of nowhere. That can take some time to get over. Stalking and being a total a&&hole will not make things better. You have to walk away.
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"Rejection" is easy to deal with on a first attempt at making contact. I know what I have to offer and if, from the profile, I think we could be a good match, I just tell myself that it is her loss for not trying to meet somebody new. Rejection after a relationship has started is a lot harder to get over, especially if it comes out of nowhere. That can take some time to get over. Stalking and being a total a&&hole will not make things better. You have to walk away.
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Thank you for dropping by and sharing your perspective. I agree that 'rejected' is a harsh word, hence I had put it in quotation marks. My issue with the whole situation was his reaction was uncalled for and crass. It was shocking as previously No One had responded to a basic and polite 'No Thank You' in that way.
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I think I forgot to ask, but "I shook my head thinking FFS! I craft an appropriate response," Why? He showed no reason to deserve a response and certain showed how little he was by blocking YOU?!? WTF, Over?!? Just curious why you would respond? [I]Da Focker!!
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I think I forgot to ask, but "I shook my head thinking FFS! I craft an appropriate response," Why? He showed no reason to deserve a response and certain showed how little he was by blocking YOU?!? WTF, Over?!? Just curious why you would respond?
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