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what do you think about a women that lets her girlfriend come first instead of her husband and child
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Bipolar??? Is that what packer fans become??? LOL! Hope all works out well for your friend. Even if she has to deal with his parents! She needs to work hard on becoming self-sufficient there. Then she can get away from them as well.
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This sounds like more world class BS from that family. Be happy that the abuser cant see her now. But if the parents are blaming you and not thier son, they wont do squat to stop it from happening again in 18 months. While they appear and maybe even think the are helping unless they see the mistake HE made it will be short lived at best. You should be happy you found an honest to goodnes good man. There seem to be less and less of us around all the time. I wish your friend the best.
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I am so sorry for your friend, she's obviously not thinking too clearly, but she'll know one day that her kids are lucky to have you. I wonder if I could draw something to your attention, I apologise for doing so here, feel free to delete this if you want to, I have contacted customer services about the fact I can't read the comments left on my blog by standard members, and it appears the rules have changed here, without much notice, I might add. However the lovely man at CO has been very helpful and given me some information. He didn't quite answer my question, but was informative. I've C&P his email for you here. "Dear Member, Thank you for your query regarding the new Standard member limitations. We do apologize, but these policies were instituted in response to numerous complaints from our Premium members regarding spammers and fakes on AdultFriendFinder. It's only by shutting the door completely that we can completely shut them down... too many were getting through using Winks to draw legitimate members in and get their emails. And though it's not entirely fair to our Standard members, we do have to follow the dictates of those members who pay for the privileges they enjoy. You still have complete access to our chatrooms and you're at liberty to respond to any email sent to you by a Premium member. It's also worth noting there are ways of gaining more access through reward programs like Popularity Privileges or special promotions we occasionally run. You can find out more about these at AdultFriendFinder's Help Page under "How Can I Get More Access?" Of course, the easiest solution is to become a Premium member. Please visit AdultFriendFinder for information on our membership levels. This gives you complete access to pictures and profiles. As it stands, we do consider these new policies to be the lesser of two evils, and we are looking into possible alternatives." I'm a silver member so this doesn't quite answer why I can't see a standard member's comments on my blog. I'm quite sad about this as the way this stands just now means blogging isn't worthwhile. These are the Aims and Objectives. Please read. of the group, Bloggers United! which I moderate. And a link to a post about my home town, Glasgow ,I hope you enjoy it!
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GR, you did the right thing for your friend, and karma is a wonderful thing. Hang in there, and I applaud you. Big hugs as I do my thing and hope to someday get home.
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Who says you have to pick one emotion? Revel in the complexity that is the human condition! Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.
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At least it is a start for her and the kids. I you, in your hand with that situation of hers.
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You are her life-line. I hope you can somehow keep in touch and I pray the fb link stays.
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Does your friend have any relatives of her own? Your friend is just trading abuse for another type of abuse. She should NEVER EVEN CONSIDER moving back with his parents unless she wants to be forced to get back with her husband. Plus, MIL will be telling her how to raise the kids, etc. It's not as if MIL has a positive track record to point to in terms of raising her own kids--let alone her DIL and grandkids. Your friend should be strongly encouraged to grow up and stand on her own two feet. She has friends like you who will help and encourage her. Continue to be her friend and encourage her to do her own thinking. The in-laws by law have the right to see their grandkids--but that's their only right. Two more thoughts: The in-law money is coming with conditions and strings--that's not unconditional love. Finally, someone needs to think of the kids--their dad is gone, their world has been in turmoil and now they are losing their home to move out of state? They will have to change schools, make new friends, adjust to a completely foreign living environment, see their mom be subjugated, and be without their dad. How much more baggage can the in-laws throw at them? Never ignore those who care for you you will have lost diamonds while you were collecting stones
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I understand how you must be feeling darling, being cast as the bad guy when all you were trying to do was good really sucks... been there, done that. Felt betrayed big time. Thoughts from the Garden...
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You are an amazing woman and a fantastic friend. I'm sorry that your friend is stuck with "them" and I wonder what will happen when he comes around. Might I suggest a dummy fb account so you can be under the radar on her "friends list"? Because yes, I can imagine that will be the next connection they will force her to sever. 2022... it HAS be better, right?!
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far too few good men in this world and be grateful that you managed to find one. in my short time dating again i learned that there are very few of them in this world to find one is like the world greatest easter egg hunt. i can totally understand the mixed emotions. ulitmately her and her childrens safety has to be paramount i think. if asked if i could give up a best friend to know that he or she would be safe for the rest of their days i think i would take it. enjoy the bookface i guess. on a total aside did i ever tell you about my uncle with five penises. wait for it. his pants fit like a glove. now smile you beautiful woman.
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I don't think it's all that important to define exactly what you feel as it is to know that you feel something. Were I you, I'd be feeling thankful that I did what I could to help, and if that resulted in my having to step back and no longer be involved, I'd be thankful for that too. It's a sad situation, but everybody has choices...there just aren't always good options or choices we'd prefer they make, but they are choices nonetheless. Course, I have lost touch with more friends and acquaintences than you so I have a different perspective. Besides, I'm pretty shallow, so anything that reduces my empathetic burdens is just one less thing for me to worry about.
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You know you did what was right and more than many would have done in this situation, Don't beat yourself up about it. Not that I should be giving advice just now for I feel as if I am in self destruct mode after all the emotions I have been through lately. You have shown that just one small voice in the wilderness CAN make a difference. Your vote counts too. ~~Anais Nin~~
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You should feel all those things but mainly know that your friend and her kids are safe and that it is in large part due to your efforts. Your reward is for this good work is the loss of a friend but hers and their safety is it's own reward. Way to go girlfriend....you rock.
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Some people seem ripe for controlling people. She left one controlling person (the husband), and fell right into the control of more controlling people. If somebody said "We'll do this, but you have to have no more contact with GR", I would say HELL NO. Wash your hands of it, as you have. You did the right thing, and she will fall right back into a bad situation.
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I like the title you chose for this piece. It's one of the words I use most when that realization finally comes that you do not have control over something that you wish you did. It's very frustrating. However I hope you find some sort of satisfaction in knowing that you are a good friend and did the right thing when the right thing needed to be done.
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11/2/2012 9:01 pm |
I don't know weather to laugh, cry or hug you right now... damn emotions. So feel everyone of them because at the end of the day you saved your friends life. She may be out of the fryer and into another vat of bubbling oil but at least she won't be killed and the kids are safe. So Tag... love you girl!
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sadness, jubilation, indignation and anger You, that's about right. My biggest fear would be that they would let him come there and basically force her to get back together with him. She should have gone to a shelter, I would tell any woman to be very careful of family, hers or his, if she is being battered. Fucked up family dynamics are often what get most people in these situations in the first place. If you can get a message to her, I would tell her to find out where a shelter is wherever they are taking her just in case they try something fugazy like taking her kids or bringing her husband there.
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I did not change my clock in the spring so I should be right on time. Now I will not have to subtract one when I look at it. That is a sad story indeed. Take care
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I would be sad and angry. With the conditions in place for no contact with you, she proved to you she wants you in her life by the phone call. Her safety and the kids safety take top priority. I think in "time", when she has a firm grip on her own life, and finally out of Ma & Pa's grip, your connections will rekindle. I think not only is your Hubby a good man, he is also a lucky man to have you. Take care and stay happy Have a great weekend and "GO" Packers!!
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