4329 posts 12/9/2013 8:49 pm
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Number one reason men don't cum from a bj
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74 posts 12/9/2013 9:20 pm |
I enjoy getting a blowjob especially if she is good at and loves suckin on a dick,a born dick sucker takes it to a whole different level she's not just sucking it she worshipping it and you can see it in her eyes and the way she handles a dick. now a that is good it but when it comes time to cum, I want to be balls d eep in some pussy, otherwise I feel unfulfilled and unsatisfied. Post3289403
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3537 posts 12/10/2013 12:29 am |
With some of the women I've had it actually hurts when they try and take me deep. Guess you can tell when they have their tonsils or not..
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/10/2013 6:38 am:
It shouldn't hurt  well have to give them some lessons. |
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14229 posts 12/10/2013 2:41 am |
I think my difficulties are psychological and go back to my first marriage. My ex was didn't really like sex, so I rarely got any oral action from her. On those rare occasions when I did, she would freak out at the first drop of precum. I've had plenty of blowjobs since then, and while they feel awesome, I just can't seem to get over that hump.
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Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/10/2013 6:40 am:
I hope k is helping fix that situation. Can't change the past but you sure can enjoy future. So don't get held up on what u can't change |
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12/10/2013 3:39 am
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It's never happened so I would not know.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/10/2013 6:42 am:
There have been a maybe only a few times I have not made a man cum from a blowjob. I have patients so if it takes awhile so be it. |
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21770 posts 12/10/2013 4:29 am |
it takes lots of skill to get a guy to come via blow job. Most ladies their mouths get tired and they don't use enough hand. I love how a blow job feels, but without friction I will not come. See ya, VF
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44 posts 12/10/2013 10:07 am |
I love cumming from head. But it has to be deep and wet with a combination of sucking and stroking. Love being edged until I blow it in her mouth. But the key is that she needs to be loving what she's doing or else it doesn't ever really get there...
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497 posts 12/10/2013 4:10 pm |
There is a lot more to it than the mechanics of sucking cock. Where your at, how you both feel at the time, even what time of day it is. I think it is about allowing your self to enjoy it and letting go. Add to this the person you are with if they did not want to do this to begin with it won't be good no mater what. You might feel guilty for chiding them into to it. That will unconsciously hold you back. I know despite all being right I can fall into a day dream wondering "So whats up with the Yankees this year?" a distraction that blows it in an entirely different direction then we wanted to go. Sometimes it is all about the mechanics. Some guys have a higher pressure relief than others. If you don't hit that level your just not going to cum, you might get pre-cum and the balls tighten but thats it. the best blow job I have ever had (My EX.) she made love to my cock starting out slow increasing the intensity to fever pitch and bata bing- bata boom. You couldn't put your finger on any one thing. It was a combination of things and how she put then together that made you cum. It is an art form more than anything else.
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357 posts 12/10/2013 5:58 pm |
Not into the girl, not in the right physical, position, not enough foreplay, not excited enough prior
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274 posts 12/10/2013 7:26 pm |
There is nothing worse than teeth scraping my dick, but I guess that would come under inexperience, now that I think about it, also I require some tongue action under the head, or she's going to get very tired.
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256 posts 12/11/2013 12:05 am |
Most girls I have been with just are not into it and do it just for the sake of it. And that is no fun, just putting it in the mouth and slobbering all over it does not work.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/11/2013 4:04 am:
Girls should be taught how to love them. Don't you think? |
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12/11/2013 6:53 am
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I agree with several other comments. If the girl is not into giving me a blow job and is enjoying doing it then I don't relax and enjoy it. I find it difficult to cum unless I know she really wants me to and lets me know she wants it.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/11/2013 8:09 pm:
The girl definitely needs to want it. |
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14 posts 12/11/2013 8:12 am |
if you get a girl that knows how to suck a dick good bj are great but alot of women dont know the secrects to sucking cock
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/11/2013 8:10 pm:
Since they now offer pole dancing why not a class on bjs |
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95 posts 12/11/2013 9:42 am |
I have one guy who really just doesn't like it. He get upset with himself if he cums from oral. It took maybe 2 months to even get him to let me suck on his cock. He gets all upset and apologizes when he does.
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I think it is either his upbringing or something bad happened before he met me.
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Personally, I have only had one guy that I have not been able to get to cum from oral, YET!
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/11/2013 8:11 pm:
Amazingly there are a few but just keep associating it with pleasure and he might come around. |
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339 posts 12/11/2013 1:08 pm |
I have never missed an orgasm from having a blow job, BUT the quality varies enormously. There is an analogy that makes sense. If you watch America's Got Talent, the first show there are some acts that are plainly bad. But the people performing think they are very good and envision themselves winning the entire competition and winning the $1 million dollar prize. I am almost sure that friends and family have told them they are very good. Friends and family do not tell them they stink. They do not want to hurt their feelings. I remember an uncle of my wife who sang and played country and western. He was off key and downright bad. So what did I tell him when I heard him play and sing? "That was great!" It's a lie I told. I had just met him.
So back to the girls who think they are so good at a blow job when in fact they stink at it. What guy while his dick is being sucked is going to say, "You are really bad!" No I accept it; do not say anything; and try to move to full intercourse. But if it has to be a blow job, then I let her suck until I explode. Then I tell her, "I liked that." That statement is true. I did like cumming.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/11/2013 8:15 pm:
When I have noticed my partner is distracted or taking way to long I actually have stopped and ask what's up I want him to be happy and if he needs more hands than mouth or deeper strokes then it's easier for me to help make him happy.
Nobody loves a bad bj but I can see how some guys can shut up and accept it. |
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12/11/2013 2:15 pm |
It's not just the act of oral stimulation (or manual, vaginal anal etc) that leads to orgasm. Other factors contribute to the overall experience - visual stimulation, sounds, smells - other tactile input.
Many women (and men) focus solely on the mechanics of the act and the end goal of ejaculation.
The important thing is to focus on the pleasure of your partner(s), relax and have a good time.
I've had women focus so desperately on getting me off orally that they'd wear themselves out and feel like failures for not reaching their goal. But I've never been disappointed by any woman who's focus was on my pleasure rather than my ejaculation. And tend to have the best (and multiple) orgasms with those who are in it for pleasure and the overall experience.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/11/2013 8:16 pm:
It's all in the attitude. If you go in thinking it will be bad an it won't be enjoyable then that's what u will get.
But if you go in thinking this is going to be the best blow job every then good chance it will be close. |
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12/11/2013 6:07 pm
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If a girl is not into it and isn't enthusiastic it won't be good. Bottom line. If your into it and love it, he'll love getting it.
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5 posts 12/11/2013 8:17 pm |
I agree that there needs to be a class offered but where would we post such a valuable course?
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12/11/2013 8:44 pm
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For me, I love getting a BJ, but no one has been able to suck me off.
Primarily because I am not real sensitive, but also, none has been able to suck and stroke fast enough.
Had one woman stroke me off, and I came super hard, it was wonderful.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/12/2013 1:02 pm:
Omg no one. That's insane. I don't believe it. Someone should make that happen |
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2 posts 12/11/2013 10:21 pm |
Health has been the reason I just get BJ, for the past 8 years. My wife has got very good at giving me oral. I can get off pretty much at will.
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146 posts 12/12/2013 8:47 am |
I love getting bjs and always get off.
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132 posts 12/12/2013 8:54 am |
Experience is a great teacher but ATTITUDE is the most important thing (for me) when it comes to a BJ. If the lady is doing it but doesn't LIKE it, she will never get me even close. If she loves what she's doing and pays attention to my responses so she can change/adjust her technique to make it work FOR ME then she'll probably get a mouthful pretty quickly.
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2 posts 12/12/2013 8:34 pm |
I really don't cum from sex because it really isn't that sexy. Why would I go on the slide when there's a roller coaster down the street. and the sounds from head really aren't pleasant.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/13/2013 6:55 am:
What do you like then. U can do it with out making noise you know. |
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28 posts 12/14/2013 12:41 am |
A good blow job is amazing as far as courses go "Come as you are" In Toronto offers a course for the ladies it is often overbooked during Valentines day!
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/14/2013 6:15 am:
I would love to go to that class to see others talents and techniques |
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5448 posts 12/14/2013 4:45 am |
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800 posts 12/14/2013 9:14 pm |
sometimes when getting a blow job the way she plays with the tip of my cock tickles. it is hard to come then.
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4 posts 12/15/2013 9:18 am |
sure
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12/16/2013 5:58 pm |
Just so you guys know, there are bj classes. Some sex shops will have them along with other classes too.
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4 posts 12/17/2013 4:16 am |
I like oral very much. Sometimes I would rather have her and me, to suck and play than fuck. Dont get me wrong, I like fucking too. I dont know what makes a 'good blowjob', Ive never sucked a dick. Just recently I had a woman friend over and we were going to watch porno and masturbate together. We got naked or partially naked and I was beginning to stroke it and she said, "let me have it". She wanted to suck me. I stood up in front of her, she was sitting on the couch, and I put my soft dick in her mouth and soon, I realized it was getting bigger. I though wow, Im getting a hard on. So in a few more minutes, I remember thinking, "boy, Im getting ready to cum, this is great"... and in less than five minutes, I shot a massive wad on her tonsils... WOW... I dont know how women do it.. some are better than others..maybe its natural.
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41 posts 12/17/2013 3:00 pm |
Thing is. If a woman is really into it. And she thinks she's amazing. It's all good
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12/18/2013 11:32 am |
I'm not very sensitive, so most women's jaws ache by the time i get anywhere close to finishing lol
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/18/2013 8:19 pm:
Maybe you should help her a little. Stroke it while she sucking or play with yr balls |
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12/19/2013 4:43 am
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my wife and ex didn`t like giving them and def not swallowing, so I think a lot could be conditioning, the few gals ive been with that do like to give bj`s are good but, mostly I`m not able to blow, back to what I believe is the conditioning, recently I was seeing a sexy gal that was fantastic at sucking, but did not want me cumin in her mouth (torcher ) and I spose that makes it more difficult to cum with a so so blow job or someone that really is not into it, at least for me
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/19/2013 5:27 am:
And why do you not like cumming in her mouth? |
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12 posts 12/19/2013 8:30 am |
There is a book to be written here. So many men here and yet, so many differences. If a blow job giver knows how to wrap their lips around the head and uses their tongue and the insides of their cheeks to increase the friction pressure while making sure the underside and upper ridge and head are getting the most attention to detail, even men who swear they don't come or it takes them too long to come will go blind. Every man on here surely has been blown, those who don't, can't or won't come, either they have no feeling in their cock or they have never met Suzie/Sam the Chrome Remover. Obviously it's all in the talent of the giver.
Adding that such talent is perfected by the joy of being perfectly charming and come hungry. Givers who don't swallow don't care to have talent or technique. Which is a whole other question that could be written.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/20/2013 4:04 am:
I think a few books could be written on the topic and you are so right. |
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32 posts 12/19/2013 3:04 pm |
Sometimes I coat it with honey, my lover likes that. He always cums from that, plus I worship his cock
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147 posts 12/21/2013 5:24 am |
my wife has really gotten good but usually save that cum so we can have a great fucking session!!! When I give a bj (yes I'm bi) they cum every time if that want. Yes my wife knows.
Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/21/2013 8:24 am:
Glad your open and honest with your wife and yourself.
They say practice makes perfect. |
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12/22/2013 3:10 am
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Never had a man not cum when I give him a BJ
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146 posts 12/22/2013 6:35 am |
Hard not to cum from a bj, but some are much better than others of course.
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22 posts 12/24/2013 7:09 pm |
Usually only if I'm not really that into her...
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5 posts 12/29/2013 6:34 am |
i enjoy bj... anyone wan gv me a bj?
Captainsbabygirl replies on 1/3/2014 6:21 am:
I think you need to be smoother than that |
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7 posts 12/29/2013 1:30 pm |
Never had a woman do it well enough.
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13 posts 3/11/2014 6:39 pm |
Unless your talented enough to pull a 2 hour Austrian BJ then it's all good. All the options are great examples of not pleasing, but what you should really ask your friend is how hard is he after 10min. If she can't make him cum because the dick isn't hard then apply the examples. If he just can't get it up at all then medication or drank waaaay too much.
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