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Blogs > MyInnerVoice > Listening to My Inner Voice

I'm Not Gonna Do it  

MyInnerVoice 67F  
1205 posts
1/5/2016 1:22 am
I'm Not Gonna Do it

I'm Not Gonna Do It

Another relationship ended –
I am left with more questions than answers.
He said he wanted and needed me in his life.
He said he loved me.

No communication for weeks.
The weeks turned into months.

I told him that I am done.
Done waiting, done hoping.

My heart still hurts but
I’m not gonna do it --
I’m not gonna cry
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Voice
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p.s.

I would like to say that he is a really good man. He has to be or I would not have been interested in him in the first place. I am not trying to make excuses for him....but I do believe he is going through a mid life crisis of sorts. he has made many changes to his life. I just hope that someday, he will let a woman in and that he will be happy.

MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/6/2016 6:17 pm
    Quoting Heathen_G:
    He, you, doesn't matter. "Exclusivity" cannot be requested. Keep that in mind for next time.

    Men don't invite women out with him, when he is not attracted to her. So men want sex, if his penis is able to become erect, and he is inviting a woman to spend time with him, yes, he's looking for sex with her. His approach may be submissive or aggressive. The end result is getting the woman naked.

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Heathen,

Thanks for the lesson in the mentality of man.

Voice


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
1/6/2016 4:00 pm
    Quoting MyInnerVoice:
    Thanks for your comments -- he was the one who asked for the exclusivity. I agreed because it was what HE wanted. But again, none of that matters anymore.

    So what you are saying is that all men want is sex and not to believe anything else?

    Voice
He, you, doesn't matter. "Exclusivity" cannot be requested. Keep that in mind for next time.

Men don't invite women out with him, when he is not attracted to her. So men want sex, if his penis is able to become erect, and he is inviting a woman to spend time with him, yes, he's looking for sex with her. His approach may be submissive or aggressive. The end result is getting the woman naked.

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MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/6/2016 12:28 pm
    Quoting Heathen_G:
    An important thing to remember, exclusivity cannot be requested, only felt and established over time.

    He requested something that can't just happen because it's requested. That's the problem.

    He was dating you, and he wanted to tell you what you probably wanted to hear.

    Next time that happens, it's bullcrap. A man is out with you for sex. Whether or not there will be exclusivity, is up to time.
Thanks for your comments -- he was the one who asked for the exclusivity. I agreed because it was what HE wanted. But again, none of that matters anymore.

So what you are saying is that all men want is sex and not to believe anything else?

Voice


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
1/6/2016 2:18 am
    Quoting MyInnerVoice:
    Hi Heathen,

    The exclusivity of our relationship was at his request -- but I could have been mistaken about it all. Guess none of that matters anymore.

    Thanks for stopping by my post and for your reply. I hope the new year is good to you.

    Hugs,
    Voice
An important thing to remember, exclusivity cannot be requested, only felt and established over time.

He requested something that can't just happen because it's requested. That's the problem.

He was dating you, and he wanted to tell you what you probably wanted to hear.

Next time that happens, it's bullcrap. A man is out with you for sex. Whether or not there will be exclusivity, is up to time.


MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 9:30 pm
    Quoting  :
Hi Kinky!

Good to see you! Hugging you back tightly. Thanks for caring. I hope you are doing ok -- I miss chatting with you.

Hugs,
Voice


MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 9:29 pm
    Quoting  :
suepk05,

Thanks for stopping by my blog and for your kind words.

Hugs,
Voice


MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 11:32 am
    Quoting kzoopair:
    I don't know you but I do know something about how that feels. Let me give you a hug too- it'll get better.
kzoopair,

Thank you for the hug. It is very kind of you!

hugs back,
Voice


MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 11:31 am
    Quoting sweet_VM:
    So sorry to hear this Voice. I know how you felt about him. Big hugssssssssssss for you V
VM,

Thank you for the hug, hugging you back. Yes, you know how I felt about him. So did he. I still feel that he is a wonderful man.....but obviously not the man I was meant to be with. Sometimes, we just have to accept that and move on, right?

hugs,
Voice


kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
1/5/2016 10:05 am

 I don't know you but I do know something about how that feels. Let me give you a hug too- it'll get better.
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sweet_VM 65F
81699 posts
1/5/2016 9:34 am

 So sorry to hear this Voice. I know how you felt about him. Big hugssssssssssss for you V
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MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 7:22 am
    Quoting veryfunnycple64:
    I am so sorry for your loss...it hurts...it sucks...it's not fair.....I hope for you!
Hi funny,

Thank you for your kind words and for your hope for me. You have always been a good friend to me and for this I am grateful. I hope that you had a good New Year's Eve and that 2016 will be a great year for you.

Hugs and kisses,
Voice


MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 7:18 am
    Quoting Heathen_G:
    Maybe you're mistaken about having a "Relationship". Lots of women, and men too, make that mistake. When really they were just "Dating" someone. Which isn't exclusive.
Hi Heathen,

The exclusivity of our relationship was at his request -- but I could have been mistaken about it all. Guess none of that matters anymore.

Thanks for stopping by my post and for your reply. I hope the new year is good to you.

Hugs,
Voice


MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 7:16 am
    Quoting yellowflower56:
    I'm sorry MIV about your heart,but in time it will heal,and you will bounce back!
yellowflower,

I love the image you used about how strong our hearts are. Thank you for your kind words. I wish you a very Happy New Year.

Hugs,
Voice


MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 7:14 am
    Quoting  :
Countess,

Thank you for your kind post -- yes, I am hurting. My friends here are always very supportive and protective of me.

I hope you have a wonderful new year ahead of you.

Hugs,
Voice


MyInnerVoice 67F  
1063 posts
1/5/2016 7:12 am
    Quoting  :
Hi Annette,

You may not be near me but I could feel your hug from afar. Thank you for the hug and for the kind words. Yes, I should be in the kitchen baking.....the only problem with that is then I would be eating it! Seems after the holidays, most everyone is tired of sweets (including me, for once). But I will get in the kitchen soon.

Hugs, my friend!
Voice


veryfunnycple64 60M/60F
21770 posts
1/5/2016 4:45 am

 I am so sorry for your loss...it hurts...it sucks...it's not fair.....I hope for you!
“Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh

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veryfunnycple64


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
1/5/2016 4:09 am

 Maybe you're mistaken about having a "Relationship". Lots of women, and men too, make that mistake. When really they were just "Dating" someone. Which isn't exclusive.


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