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Let the Slut Shaming Begin
Let the Slut Shaming Begin I was watching CNN, when a story came on about a Duke University Freshman who has been outed as a Porn Star. A male Duke Freshman spotted a girl in a porn movie that looked like a class mate. She admitted to him that it was her (she is paying for her schooling), and swore him to secrecy. Of course, being a juvenile asshat, he then spilled the details at his next frat rush event. So then the shit storm and slut shaming begins. One charming young man took to Twitter, tweeting “I found out a girl in our freshman class is a pornstar. I’ve now made it my goal to fuck her before I graduate.” Don’t bet the farm on that buddy. Another dumbass posted on CollegiateACB (anonymously, of course), “she doesn’t deserve privacy, respect or even protection from R (sexual assault) because of her profession”. WTF. That is one individual who needs to be bitch slapped repeatedly, then sent to the big house, with a sign on their back saying, “I’m a would be R ist motherfucker”. Let them run around in the yard for a little while wearing that. After the shit hit the fan, the freshman did an interview with the Duke Chronicle, answering such questions as to why she doesn’t just get a waitressing job to subsidize her 60K yearly tuition, etc. She responded: "I worked as a waitress as a job for a year in high school and not only did it interfere with my school where I was barely sleeping and wasn't doing my work, but also I was making $400 a month after taxes. I felt like I was being degraded and treated like s—t. My boss was horrible to me," Lauren said. "For people to tell me that doing porn and having sex, which I love, is more degrading than being a waitress and being somebody's servant and picking up after somebody and being treated like a lesser, second-class citizen, that literally makes no sense. To be perfectly honest, I felt more degraded in a minimum wage, blue-collar, low paying, service job than I ever did doing porn." "I feel like girls at Duke have to hide their sexuality. We're caught in this virgin- dichotomy," she said. "Gender norms are very intense here and I feel like that's particularly carried out by frats. I think that being a woman at Duke is extremely difficult. I think that being a sexual woman at Duke is extremely difficult." One very interesting angle to the CNN story, CNN always likes to bring in an “expert” for commentary. The expert a relationship councilor, a woman, still in her marriage of 20 years, basically said to the CNN anchor, chill-lax! There is nothing wrong with what the college freshman is doing. She has a healthy attitude about her sexuality, seems to enjoy the work, and there is nothing wrong with porn, (the actors or people who watch it). The expert also commented, had the freshman been a male, engaged in heterosexual porn this story wouldn’t be news worthy, no one would care, except for his buddies and the frat boys, who would be patting him on the back and giving him high-5’s. But still, the CNN anchor had shades of slut shaming under tones in her closing statements, saying that the freshman says she is comfortable with her sexuality, but she is lying to her parents, by not telling them about her profession. What are your thoughts on this? And if the pronstar had been a male freshman? Don't be shy, you got to have an opinion on this. Yeah, Slut-shaming, just like the character Tuttle on M.A.S.H. , it’s everywhere, it’s everywhere. Find pleasure in giving pleasure |
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Oh yeah, the guy that outed her is an asshat, I hope all the puritan co-eds at Duke put him on the off limits list; he watches porn. And I hope all the rest put him of the off limits list, because of his big giant ass kiss and tell mouth. He should go through 4 years of forced abstinence for breaking his word. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I get the feeling from the way the CNN anchor reacted, she was expecting the expert to do some subtle slut shaming, but it kind of blew up on her. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I have to say, it is her decision. She seems to have thought it out. Leave her alone. Sometimes folks just delight in sticking their noses in other folks business.
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I have to say, it is her decision. She seems to have thought it out. Leave her alone. Sometimes folks just delight in sticking their noses in other folks business. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Wait is sleep with ever one we meet a bad thing? I should hang my head in shame then, because that was pretty much me in University. Write it -E' ! Post it here and on the CollegiateACB board. You have been quiet lately, what gives? Busy semester? Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Could you imagine a world were people didn't try to tell other people how to live their private lives. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Just when I'm beginning to see a little light at the end of the tunnel,...I still actually see it, the fact is the young woman lives in a country where she can make that concious decision,...yes buddy is an idiot and the puritans are still there, still selling their shit,...there are so many places though where things like that are illegal and not only could she get slut shamed but worse,...not perfect by any means but getting better, lots of opportunity out there and the more people who speak up and out about the choices they make who are free and open enough to have actual intelligent conversations about healthy sex help make it a little easier for everyone else, what we don't hide in the dark corners can't as easily be twisted Good girls go to heaven,....Bad girls go EVERYWHERE! I love to travel Come visit my blog tigger678902
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Just when I'm beginning to see a little light at the end of the tunnel,...I still actually see it, the fact is the young woman lives in a country where she can make that concious decision,...yes buddy is an idiot and the puritans are still there, still selling their shit,...there are so many places though where things like that are illegal and not only could she get slut shamed but worse,...not perfect by any means but getting better, lots of opportunity out there and the more people who speak up and out about the choices they make who are free and open enough to have actual intelligent conversations about healthy sex help make it a little easier for everyone else, what we don't hide in the dark corners can't as easily be twisted Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I keep hoping no woman will have to deal with this shit. And really all the asshats saying she doesn't deserve privacy, respect or protection from sexual assault need their feet held to the flame. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I see your many points, my point is it takes two 2 to dance, so one can't be vilified and the other lauded. How does expression go, the "pot calling the kettle black". Also, the view that sex is about conquest is just wrong, whack, crazy, pick the adjective. But I guess to a certain degree our society has a zero sum mentality about sex, love, relationships. It's a shame, because its all a win-win, when done correctly. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Can't argue the economics of it, that's for sure. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Its a shame these double standards still exist From Alicia With Love XX Come and join me in Wonderland... Talk to me... Play with me... lead me astray.... [blog AliciaBlonde]
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Its a shame these double standards still exist IMHO, anyone of good conscience, inside or outside of the lifestyle, has to stand up and challenge this kind of thinking, anywhere and everywhere, every time. Welcome to my Blog Alicia Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I was involved in a similar story 30 years ago - though it never made the news! While attending post secondary school one of my class mates was working as a prostitute. We of course didn't know, she was a good student, in a class predominately full of men - she kept her own end up...could tell dirty jokes with the best of us, she dressed conseratively, but nice. No one would have guessed until one of the younger guys in our class during a night of drinking decided to "cruise the strip" and ran into her there... it wasn't too long later and he outed her to the class most of us took her side - she was a part of our group, but in the end it was too much for her and she left the program it made me realize that sex workers are just people... sometimes they make choices we would not make, or have circumstances that have lead them to something we don't understand, but as people the deserve our respect and caring just as much as the waitress does. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Your logic and wisdom are sound. That's a good thing if social media threats are starting to being prosecuted. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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You will get no argument from me, it is her life, and to her credit, by all accounts she has stood her ground. I hope she and those around her are strong enough to get her through this. I hope she stays in school, gets what she went to Duke to get, and has a successful happy life. A big part of me hopes when Karma comes back around to bit all the asshats on their moral high horse, and the can't keep his word little douchebag that outed her, she is the one holding the leash on the dog nipping at their ass. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Rules are rules, and the first rule is, the powers that be can selectively enforce the rules as they see fit. You comments made me go and look up the word prostitution. The definition from the online dictionary under the subheading prostitute... pros·ti·tute noun 1. a woman who engages in sexual intercourse for money; whore; harlot. 2. a man who engages in such activity, esp in homosexual practices 3. a person who willingly uses his or her talent or ability in a base and unworthy way, usually for money. You have notice that there is a pecking order in the definition. How situations are judged is not base on being fair and equitable, or protecting freedoms, it based on what those who control the power will allow. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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it sounds like she is learning a whole lot more than what she bargained on life lessons come from more then the classroom being a porn star and used to cameras she did not let CNN intimidate her she stood her ground and felt no need to be ashamed or to apologize she is a remarkable young woman
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