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Great Sex to me is….
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Great Sex to me is…. I’m always trying to learn more about sex, so I can utilize the knowledge in my sexual life, now and into the future. Lots of talk shows, popular magazine advice columns, and we here, the members of Blogville, have weighed in on how to have better sex. The opinions put forth are wide and varied. A Canadian research team headed by Dr. Peggy Klienplatz analyzed a wide assortment of popular sources, and found the advice typically penned on how to have great sex focused on two things; improving technique, and variety (sex positions, location and occasionally partners). Dr. Klienplatz decided to take a scientific approach, and recruited a sexually experienced and diverse group of people. The group included participants of different genders, age, nationality, ethnicity, sexual orientation, and 20 certified sex therapists. Dr. Klienplatz and her team interviewed each participant about their definitions of, and experiences with great sex. The researchers poured over the data, and their findings were interesting, and didn’t reflect the way “great sex” is typically written about. They found that great sex didn’t come from titillating toys, limber limbs, or tricky tongues. It didn’t depend on orgasms per minute, positions per hour, locations, or the number of partners. Her findings revealed that great sex could be distilled done to eight components. There is a lot of collective sexual intellect here in Blogville, I would like to see if collectively, we can hit on all the things this research team found. I would like to get your feeling on what great sex is … please no oogling for the research, just say what you feel, whether it is one word, one line, a few sentences or something lengthy, describe great sex to me.  Great sexy to me it… Find pleasure in giving pleasure |
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KOffla, out of the gate you hit something on the list. Thanks Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Great sex to me is enjoying my time spent fully with my partner both giving and receiving. I think it is two way street when it comes to sex hugs V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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Not the exact word they used, but that is the end result. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Great sex to me is enjoying my time spent fully with my partner both giving and receiving. I think it is two way street when it comes to sex hugs V Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Well done, you have captured themes from 4 of the 8 components identified. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Oh yes, definitely on the list. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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The comfort one gets from deep intimacy; a complete acceptance of self and the other. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Not sure if this is covered by what others have said,, An experience to be anticipated with excitement.
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Great sex to me is... When my partner and I are both panting or moaning a lot, That we have switched positions at least twice, that is lasts more than 25 min. that I have cum at least 3 times (I usually cum more than that but at the least I would say 3 would still qualify for great sex), that in the middle of sex I looked deep into my partner's eyes and saw the same lust there that I was feeling, and that afterward, we both held each other as if we had just had a great gift given to us both. This is the kind of sex I wish I had every day. Kitkat The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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Not sure if this is covered by what others have said,, An experience to be anticipated with excitement. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Some great points Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Great sex to me is... When my partner and I are both panting or moaning a lot, That we have switched positions at least twice, that is lasts more than 25 min. that I have cum at least 3 times (I usually cum more than that but at the least I would say 3 would still qualify for great sex), that in the middle of sex I looked deep into my partner's eyes and saw the same lust there that I was feeling, and that afterward, we both held each other as if we had just had a great gift given to us both. This is the kind of sex I wish I had every day. Kitkat Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Great sex for me cannot be achieved without emotion....it brings all the elements of sex to a higher plane.  ~~Anais Nin~~
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Great sex for me cannot be achieved without emotion....it brings all the elements of sex to a higher plane. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I came straight here and did not peek at anyone else's answers eight components to great sex communication positive self image trust a feeling of intimacy with their partner right position for those people/person being in the mood lack of distractions comfortable environment Good girls go to heaven,....Bad girls go EVERYWHERE! I love to travel Come visit my blog tigger678902
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Excellent choices Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I came straight here and did not peek at anyone else's answers eight components to great sex communication positive self image trust a feeling of intimacy with their partner right position for those people/person being in the mood lack of distractions comfortable environment  Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Great sex has to start with a connection, hopefully emotional, but at least a strong physical chemistry that allows us to be open and uninhibited with one another.
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Great sex has to start with a connection, hopefully emotional, but at least a strong physical chemistry that allows us to be open and uninhibited with one another. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Yes, not the exact working but similar concepts. I will add the 8 components when I get to my computer later today. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Yes, these are all important. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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What a sexually intelligent group we have here. Here is the re-print of the 8 components as it appeared in Psychology Today. 1. Being present, focused and embodied. Great sex entails complete and total immersion in the present moment. Great sex requires the partners to be in it all the way. They cannot become spectators of their own performance, judges or critics. They cannot be groggy, distracted, or absent-minded. Full presence in the moment is the most important component of sublime sex according to these data. In great sex, the past is gone, the future is absent, the outside world ceases. Transcendent sex "forgets everything about others" as the song goes. There are only two realities involved: 'now,' and 'us.' 2. Connection, alignment, merger, being in sync. Extraordinary sex requires a strong relational foundation. Transcendent sex requires a deep and strong connection between the partners—a sense of synchronicity; an effortless 'click' and plenty of ‘chemistry’. It involves a confluence, the sense of two merging into each other of the kind frequently described in poetry and song: two hearts become one. 3. Deep sexual and erotic intimacy. In great sex, sexual attraction is combined with a sense of security and emotional closeness between partners. This involves a complete acceptance of self and the other. The partners extend each other deep human dignity, in sex and beyond. 4. Extraordinary communication, heightened empathy. In great sex there is real mutual attentiveness, mutual support, absolute openness, and the ability to express desires without fear and with sensitivity and alertness to the partner’s reactions. 5. Authenticity, being genuine and uninhibited; transparency. Extraordinary sex is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. It is a finely tuned ensemble. It involves an authentic expression of yourself without reservations and without keeping score. You feel free to do anything, show everything, see everything, feel everything, and say everything, without embarrassment, without guilt, and without considerations of what will or what will not be later. Transcendent sex is spontaneous, courageous, creative, generous, liberated, and liberating. 6. Transcendence, bliss, peace, transformation, healing. Sublime sex is experienced as harmony, joy, and happiness; as ecstasy. Transcendent sex is a revelatory experience not only on the mental and physical levels but also existentially. Windows open to new realms of experience and energy. Great sex changes how we experience and understand the world, ourselves, and others. It is experienced as a revelation, often joined with mystical elements. Supreme sex is mending, restorative, curative; it heals and releases. Many participants described the experience in religious terms, as a sense of the presence of the sublime, the divine. 7. Exploration, interpersonal risk-taking, fun. Great sex is experienced as a surprising journey, a fun ride, an enjoyable and challenging adventure. The partners open fully to the experience, let free their natural curiosity, follow the instincts of discovery and revelation, and are willing to explore unknown regions, taste the new and different, and discover things about themselves. They play, laugh and enjoy. Great sex is not afraid of games, laughter, messiness and silliness. On the contrary, it allows and contains them. 8. Vulnerability and surrender. Extraordinary sex requires us to shed our everyday defenses and come to the encounter naked. We let go of anxieties, calculations, and ego and surrender to the encounter, the flow and the feelings in the rolling present. This is surrender in the sense of giving—giving unconditionally; giving out of love. This is Surrender also in a sense of release, as a person who decides to jump off a cliff into the water throws himself into the air and releases himself to the mercy of the law of gravity. Surrender in this context also denotes deep devotion to another, from a position of trust and faith in the other and in the moment. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Zoe you are hitting a lot of the components. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Lol Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Hi -E', it was wasn't a group of "experts", but a group of sexual experienced individuals, kid of like of AdultFriendFinder blog family. The funny thing is, if you look at the comment of our friends, they have hit on themes of all 8 components identified by the researchers. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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sex is like air, the less you have it.. the more you want it. Looking at those 8 components I would have to say I agree, they are very key to great sex, but I think they can all be summarized under one point True caring and understanding of your partner Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Well, the participants were of different genders, age, nationality, ethnicity, sexual orientation, and 20 certified sex therapists... so I thing their findings covers everyone. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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