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I agree with you completely. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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It's really all about trust and friendship, ................. and maybe a nice butt. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Pink: Trust is imperative if it's going anywhere. There is an element of submission for women built into copulation by our anatomies. The delicate balance between trust and uncertainty in any new sexual encounter is a sort of razor's edge. It's exciting, but fucking scary, too- for girls. People play with this balance in BDSM and enhance their sexual experience doing it. There are cultures where the BDSM thing is completely unknown. They simply do not view sexuality the same way we in the "advanced and sophisticated' world do. To them it's as natural as breathing and eating. But we do not have their cultural advantages. Fucking is just fucking for "primitives", without all the cultural baggage. But we can't shuck all that baggage overnight- it's ingrained and we're stuck with it for some time to come. So we have to work with what we have and that means acknowledging that males in our culture have been dominating- and abusing- women for millennia. You can't change that overnight. It will take many years of being trustworthy to accomplish that. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Trust is very important in any relationship The degree may differ when one is baring oneself ...clothes ..emotions ...soul Trust has to be there
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Pink: Trust is imperative if it's going anywhere. There is an element of submission for women built into copulation by our anatomies. The delicate balance between trust and uncertainty in any new sexual encounter is a sort of razor's edge. It's exciting, but fucking scary, too- for girls. People play with this balance in BDSM and enhance their sexual experience doing it. There are cultures where the BDSM thing is completely unknown. They simply do not view sexuality the same way we in the "advanced and sophisticated' world do. To them it's as natural as breathing and eating. But we do not have their cultural advantages. Fucking is just fucking for "primitives", without all the cultural baggage. But we can't shuck all that baggage overnight- it's ingrained and we're stuck with it for some time to come. So we have to work with what we have and that means acknowledging that males in our culture have been dominating- and abusing- women for millennia. You can't change that overnight. It will take many years of being trustworthy to accomplish that.
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If you don't have trust and honesty combined, you have nothing. start over with somebody else,, cause the relationship is going nowhere without having either trust or honesty or both.
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Trust and honesty go together for me, both are essential for any relationship involving intimacy, whether sexual or simple friendship. Not always had that attitude, it has evovlved over my life experiences. I understand those who have been "burned" through my own experience. If they can't overcome those feelings it makes it difficult to form new relationships. Everyone has their own timetable when it comes to emotional healing, that I do understand/appreciate, too. I hope to continue working on improving my emotional/spiritual self for the remainder of my life. It is challenging task for anyone. [post 3570127]
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I suppose it depends on the situation, there needs to be a certain level of trust even in a once or twice hook up situation. like you mentioned, sexual health is a big one in this day and age. but if you are just getting together for hot, sweaty personal gratification, other details might not be too important. if you are entering into an long term FWB situation, then trust becomes much more important. to me "trust" and "friend" are two things that go together. If I don't trust you, you are not my "friend" the human race has kicked me in the balls too many times. it all depends on what the other person wants to share though. If I am interested in you as a friend, then I will ask deeper questions to try and learn more about you as a person and not just a nice ass. I am pretty open about my life and will usually answer any questions about it. but there are some things (that have nothing to do with a physical relationship) that are just nobody's business but my own.
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Emotional chemical and personal connection are probably more important overall, but as far as trust is concerned, it is vital re: sexual health, fidelity and woman's mental health!
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... VERY important to me... I need to be able to trust the person, no matter how tiny or big things it's about but he has to be able to open up and be straight. The ability to be open is important also in sex... so this is about the whole relationship, no matter how close or open relationship... I think I'm not able to let go in bed if I cannot trust my partner! Only universal or also in Scotland Where to start my day or is it month Of course I39ll change I39ll do whatever you like Heatseeking missiles Squirter's life
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Everything you say is true. But cheating is a bad word. Cheating on your lady is done by people who want to hurt someone. Those people do things with no discretion. They don't try to hide what they do. Should someone leave a relationship if it's not perfect? If everything is good except one small part? Is the next relationship going to be better because that person does what's missing? Is it not better to deal with one's own issue without dragging your partner into it especially when it only involves sex? How many years can you complain about something if you know it can't change? You need a massage you get it. You need a smoke you get it. You need to talk to someone you do it. You want something sexual all of a sudden we are into a whole different set of rules. Why because you think you might lose your husband or wife? I think the singers on this site may have the best of both worlds but that's not for everybody. This is only my take on this. My lady is my life. I would die if she ever found out. Only because it would hurt her. That is front and center with anyone I meet and there aren't many. And yes you do get attached a bit to others. I feel worse about that then the sex. Then you start to compartmentalize. It is not easy being an honest cheater or whatever you want to cal it. It's because you know how you would feel if you were the wife that you can't do it. And that's ok. At least he didn't lie to you about being married. In many ways that rare person I meet is truly a good friend. I'm going on and on. Insatiable man
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There are only a few people that understand or that can relate to this moral dilemma. Having sex with others after you were married must have been put in place to hopefully make sure you weren't raising someone else's kids. Because it certainly doesn't seem natural. Even people who don't have affairs dream of it. And don't tell me "not true"
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XLNT post. Trust is hard to find in general, and particularly here.. Important for all the reasons you stated. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I could care much about my fwb's past sex experiences, but knowing what's what on the VD-front is important, I also don't inquire about their past because then mine comes up, my last gf before we got serious asked me some questions bout my sexual past, then when I answered truthfully about ball-parking the number of women I'd been with she said "I'm gonna be okay?" Which, I've thought the same thing a time or two about a few of my other partners. As detached as I'd like to be with an fwb, it kind of impossible esp if its going on over some extended period of time, feelings to some degree will come into play in some form. Trust is one of the key features, if not the key feature that bind people to one another.....just look at our screwed up system of money, its probably one of the most corrupt systems on earth, yet we use it via trust and it binds us socially...The More You Know Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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The key words in your last statement were "marriages that were over". Some of us are in for the long run. Not perfect but not bailing either. Different approach. Nothing to do with comfort. And good luck finding perfect. It does not exist. Just saying. You're 44 and 2 marriages and you think your way works? I don't know what the answer is and not saying you're wrong.
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Trust is important....I was in a relationship with a married woman. She and I had fun, then I found out she had another guy besides me....remember she is married right...so she had her husband, me and the other guy.....wow....She kept me in the dark with the other guy, her husband is oblivious to me and the other guy, and the new guy new about me and her hubby! Very weird relationship! I told myself never again. Trust has to go both ways....if one does it the other doesn't then what do you have? “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64
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to become naked with someone,to share body and mind,infers a definite need for trust. we expose our vulnerability in becoming intimate
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I agreed with you in the first place. And yes its true you are not cheating on anyone. Good for you. But I think I'm happier than you even with my double life or whatever it is. BTW are we fighting? LOL Only people on here know what I have done. And nobody here knows me. And nobody here cares. It's like confession. So bless me PinkxxxKisses for I have sinned. lol Did I ever tell you I was an altar boy. It will go to the grave with me.
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I don't know, I'm in a rotten mood today. Hope your weekend was better than mine, Miss Pink.
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