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In retrospect....
In retrospect.... I guess it is about time that I put my history on this site out there, after all, it is not like I have anything to lose right? I first started this profile on a lark at work, it was back in the late nineties, the internet was new to us, and we were all curious when we came across this site if anyone local was on here, and if so, had we seen them in our store before. So one slow day, I opened the account; back then a general (non paying) account had much more access then they do today. We could search the profiles, and view up to ten a day back then. We found a few local people, and even saw that a few had been in the store before, so it we knew that at least some of the profiles were real. Soon the interest faded, and the profile was left dormant for a while, I was in a great relationship, and really wasn't looking for anyone to hook up with or even meet, so it was almost forgotten, and might have totally been but for the bookmark on the browser. A few years later the relationship I was in ended, and while I wasn't looking to get back into one, I found the bookmark and reentered the site for the first time in years to see what might be new. I even uploaded a photo that someone at work took of me to see if anyone responded. I figured that this was a "hook-up" site, people weren't looking for a relationship on here, and who knows, maybe I would find someone looking for the same thing as I was. Back then, on the limited amount of profiles you could see with your free membership, you could also see if someone had posted an old messenger service called ICQ's number on the profile. Since I was a user, I would send out a message to an individual who had that if they sparked my interest. Granted the people I contacted using this were usually many states away, or totally across the country, but I made several friends this way, and still keep in touch with some of them to this day. As time went on the site became more closed off to non paying members, and I really wasn't ready to pay the membership price yet, so I remained a passive member. I did get a surprise when someone in the local area contacted me and wanted to know if I worked at the store, because she recognized the background in my photo. It was interesting, and even though we were not a match, we have stayed in touch over the years, and she found me again on a local Facebook list about a year ago. A few more years went by, and since I wasn't having any luck finding anyone locally, I broke down and upgraded my membership on here to see if I could actively find someone locally that I might hit it off with. Again, while I know what kind of site this is, I tried to be polite and respectful when I sent out messages. I realized that the ratio of men to women on here must be at least ten to one, or even greater, but I had nothing to lose, so why not right? At this point they had added the messenger, but not the cam feature. I would sit there for an hour or so most nights and see if anyone in the remote area would sign on, and if so I would send a message. It was then that I realized that with so many men, (a lot who were pretty crass with their initial messages) out there I was very unlikely to get a response. At least I was trying, and since I was pretty busy with things, it was something I could do at home after work. Again, I ended up chatting with a few people in the chat rooms, or got the occasional response to message, but nothing really promising. When the cam feature was introduced I figured that I would give that a try, but again, with the male to female ratio what it is on here, I ended up getting hit on by men, which I was not interested in. The funny thing about that was while most of the guys who looked in were pushy and crass, there were a few who just wanted to chat, and respected that I wasn't looking for anything from them, so it wasn't a total loss there. In late 2011 I got back into a relationship with someone I knew from way back, and dropped off the grid here again, and stayed away for about two plus years. That relationship didn't really go as planned, so I found myself back on in 2014 and so here I still am. I must say, of all the sites of this kind out there, this one is probably the best, at least they don't have virtual accounts constantly contacting you to persuade you to open a paid account. While I have found that I probably couldn't just hook up with some random person for a one night thing, that is just not me, I am also not looking for my soulmate either. When I first came back, part of the promotional bit was either making blog posts, or replying to some to get the extra months added on. While I never really considered myself a blogger, I did find reading other's posts very interesting, and I even was able to get insight into some of the bloggers by reading what they put up here. So what was the point of all this rambling? If you got this far, I give you credit, and many thanks for reading. So, I know that this is an adult site, for swingers, and most men at least sign up thinking that they are going to get laid within a week of opening their account, but I am not "most guys" I have found that I enjoy coming on here, reading the blogs, and the advice columns, checking out who is new, and perhaps even finding someone local to chat with and maybe even meet up with. If things lead to more than so be it, but I think I have reached the age that it just isn't as important if it happens or not. I will probably write more again on this subject later on, but for now, I think I have rambled enough. Who knows, maybe I'll even get a response or two from all this. Anyway, I hope that you are having a great day, and I thank you for taking the time to indulge reading my thoughts. |
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Love your post and your profile. Bet we could talk for hours!! Wish you were local.
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