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citizen4722 62M  
67413 posts
4/13/2020 9:22 am

No, you're not picky. You're being practical and pleasantly polite (by not sending them an ego busting reply)


papis_baby_girl 41F
5296 posts
4/13/2020 9:44 am

I have yet to look at a cock pic and say oh boy, I need that.

I have looked at a nice profile pic (anything other than a cock) and say oh boy, I need to meet him.

"The role of a writer is not to say what we all can say, but what we are unable to say."
-Anais Nin

"I am big, it's the pictures that got small!"
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Granny872 67F  
2398 posts
4/13/2020 10:08 am

And despite many women concurring with your preference to not see a penis pic in the profile (myself included), many men STILL post them.

I agree with papis_baby_girl, "I have looked at a nice profile pic (anything other than a cock) and say oh boy, I need to meet him."


VenusRedux2 45F
553 posts
4/13/2020 10:21 am

As maligned as dick pics are in blog-land, I’ve heard whispers over the years that men with dick pics actually do get more attention and responses from women. I’d love to get validation/invalidation of that, but not enough men have given me feedback.

Personally, I have trouble believing it considering that the vast majority of dick pics I’ve seen are God-awful bad (to be fair though, I feel the same way about most of the pussy pics I see, why advertise bad pussy?). Is it really that hard to take a few minutes to get a flattering pic with a good angle with good lighting and such?


positively4you 70F  
3949 posts
4/13/2020 10:28 am

The last one I met from here asked me first after talking a bit. It was nice of him I felt. And he really had bragging rights. He did not have it in profile. Made him even more attractive to me. He didn’t just put it out there. And as I said, he had a lot of room to gloat.


JustLookn439 54M

4/13/2020 10:41 am

Well I have a body shot that does include my penis. That said, there are more female profiles that I come across that actually want to know. Comments such as "looking for well-hung" or some other aspect, such as "groomed". Women are no different..not at all! 90% seem to have breasts featured...and many DO have vagina pics. A woman is often as "proud" of her endowment up top, as a man is down below. Many men ARE attracted to nice, large breasts, so it makes sense that a woman would display it.
I will say this, from my experience, women who are looking for sexual interaction will at some point want to see what a guy has down there. Those that show no interest often have little interest in the sexual side of the relationship. No question that men are more driven sexually than most women and that undoubtedly has much to do with how we see each other. This is human nature and is unlikely to change. In fact, it is common in the natural world around us. Bucks are often horny and ready for mating just waiting for that brief moment of time for the does.
That's my viewpoint....I'm sure there are a number of others that both share and oppose my viewpoint.


easy_going2014 53M
13400 posts
4/13/2020 10:48 am

Hi BJ

thanks for sharing your views on this topic

I haven't shared any pics of any kind on the site

I do luv my silhouette, however, I have requested to have a different view as they only seem to provide one

I feel that this visual of me speaks volumes of the possibilities

I have yet to have any "qualified" candidate from my specific wishlist on my profile contact me, as you know, I even added one of your suggestions to no avail, just sayin'

and, when I evaluate women on this site it is based on the content between their ears as opposed to what I can see

reminded me of this

Schuyler Fisk, Joshua Radin - "Paperweight"

Been up all night staring at you
Wondering what's on your mind
I've been this way with so many before
But this feels like the first time
And you want the sunrise to go back to bed
And I want to make you laugh
Mess up my bed with me
Kick off the covers I'm waiting
Every word you say I think
I should write down
Don't want to forget come daylight
Happy to lay here
Just happy to be here
I'm happy to know you
Play me a song
Your newest one
Please leave your taste on my tongue
Paperweight on my back
Cover me like a blanket

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JustLookn439 54M

4/13/2020 10:55 am

    Quoting papis_baby_girl:
    I have yet to look at a cock pic and say oh boy, I need that.

    I have looked at a nice profile pic (anything other than a cock) and say oh boy, I need to meet him.
Really? I am surprised that ANY pic would make you say that! Not that I have any basis to doubt you. Even a horny guy like ME, won't feel I need to meet ANY woman based JUST on any pic....erotic or otherwise. That is only the means by which I initially become interested. Conversation is what manifests ones personality, which is essential for me to seriously consider meeting.


seems6666 49F
3895 posts
4/13/2020 11:06 am

    Quoting JustLookn439:
    Well I have a body shot that does include my penis. That said, there are more female profiles that I come across that actually want to know. Comments such as "looking for well-hung" or some other aspect, such as "groomed". Women are no different..not at all! 90% seem to have breasts featured...and many DO have vagina pics. A woman is often as "proud" of her endowment up top, as a man is down below. Many men ARE attracted to nice, large breasts, so it makes sense that a woman would display it.
    I will say this, from my experience, women who are looking for sexual interaction will at some point want to see what a guy has down there. Those that show no interest often have little interest in the sexual side of the relationship. No question that men are more driven sexually than most women and that undoubtedly has much to do with how we see each other. This is human nature and is unlikely to change. In fact, it is common in the natural world around us. Bucks are often horny and ready for mating just waiting for that brief moment of time for the does.
    That's my viewpoint....I'm sure there are a number of others that both share and oppose my viewpoint.
Yes, they say want well hung or groomed, doesn't mean they want to be poked in the eye with it in your profile.
It's always something that can be discussed at a later date should you click or sext or whatever.. and if you're not going to meet it doesn't matter if your hung or groomed or not!
Men are more visually turned on then women,, they can see a nipple or a pair of tits or whatever and instantly get a hard on... I don't think many women see a dick and immediately start dripping


moema999 64M
85 posts
4/13/2020 11:16 am

Interesting read, both the post and following comments. I have yet to put up a profile pic, but it wouldn't be a dick pic. Why? First, not what I want to "sell" - much more to me - I can talk, have a sense of humor, kind, sensitive etc. (humility absent). Secondly, I can't compete if that is what women want - not blessed with porn star attributes, and my profile would be quickly passed by..... and while I'm here, not a lot of experience with a site like this but what quickly attracts me to a woman's profile is a genuine smile! My two cents....


Owatalife 63M
1561 posts
4/13/2020 11:51 am

Preaching to the choir here for sure, even though last I checked mine is still there have never felt a need to use as profile pic. As always enjoyed your blog.

Some goods are very odd indeed.


smartasswoman 62F  
33144 posts
4/13/2020 12:01 pm

I feel a bit of compassion because I get it that most people here don't want to post a face pic (myself included). And a lot of us in the over 50 age group aren't crazy about our sagging, lumpy bodies, lol. So what does that leave? Dick or boobs.

But I agree, it isn't particularly appealing to me. And I think the super well hung guys might be surprised at how many of us have a reaction of being scared, rather than impressed.


FresnoWoman 49F
792 posts
4/13/2020 12:52 pm

superbjversion, I couldn't agree with you more. And it's even worse when a few men "forget" to set their dick pic avatar to "naughty."

JustLookn, the first time I see it should be in the flesh, not as a picture, especially when I've never even met the man. So really, men should wait until women ask to see it. Otherwise, it's flashing, is what it is. Which should be against the law online as well.


MsJaneBondage 50F  
139 posts
4/13/2020 1:27 pm

I agree 100% on this post. A girl can get sick from too much cake. Too many dick picks and less than 1% nice looking, is just a turn off. I love cock, but I hate dick pics. It gives me no reason to respond to the guy.

IMHO... i have long thought that guys with dick pics were seeking guys. I'm a visual creature, but I have yet to see more than a mere few photogenic cocks. Most look dirty or previously used and do not invoke me to say WOW... I NEED to put my lips on that. In fact, there have been many tat I may have threw up in my mouth a little at the thought of "could I lick that".

I look at the profile, and there are a few guys who actually do sub file their dick picks. This is great since I can check it out if I'm interested. I don't feel like I've been slapped in the face with it before I've had the chance to say HI.

Yes.... how many amazing guys did I throw to the waste side just because they have no idea of how to entice and/or seduce a woman to want to meet them. I get a lot of apologies if I happen to respond with a few tips, then they ask for a second chance, but they have already blown it with me with their nasty introduction, and I still don't know what they look like. And yes, I need to see a face that I may potentially kiss, not a dick that can't speak for itself.

I have been on this site going on 5 years. I used to do a cam talk show so to speak so I had a large number of followers. I've interviewed hundreds of members on many different topics. One of them being, the dick pic or the profile pics and the emails sent at introduction.
I found that there are a large number of fake women’s profiles that are either bots or men posing as women. Those men, said they pose as women cause they get off on the guys chatting with them and sending them dick pics or doing one on one cam for them. They are basically catfishing for dick.

Now I do know a number of women who love the dick pic, the question is, what percentage want it thrown in there face before it's asked for?

I'm with BJ... she's a smart lady, I love her blog, I love her confidence and the way she thinks. I relate to her. And I'm happy to hear, she and I feel precisely the same about the Dick Pic.

Love you BJ... keep the thoughts "And Poems" coming.


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4/13/2020 3:26 pm

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JustLookn439 54M

4/13/2020 3:38 pm

    Quoting FresnoWoman:
    superbjversion, I couldn't agree with you more. And it's even worse when a few men "forget" to set their dick pic avatar to "naughty."

    JustLookn, the first time I see it should be in the flesh, not as a picture, especially when I've never even met the man. So really, men should wait until women ask to see it. Otherwise, it's flashing, is what it is. Which should be against the law online as well.
FresnoWoman, I totally agree that no man should SEND a cock pic (I refrain from referring to a penis as a "Dick" since it is akin to "Cunt") to a woman.
Posting one is VERY different than sending one via email or IM without being asked.
NOW...that said, for woman who DO care about what it looks like, which may include several on this conversation, I respect you don't wish to see it until YOU "unwrap" it. Let me ask this...what if you don't like it once you unwrap it? Wouldn't that be incredibly awkward, if not demeaning? If all is going well, but THEN.....you suddenly lose interest once he undresses, it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to know what put you off.


JustLookn439 54M

4/13/2020 3:51 pm

    Quoting VenusRedux2:
    As maligned as dick pics are in blog-land, I’ve heard whispers over the years that men with dick pics actually do get more attention and responses from women. I’d love to get validation/invalidation of that, but not enough men have given me feedback.

    Personally, I have trouble believing it considering that the vast majority of dick pics I’ve seen are God-awful bad (to be fair though, I feel the same way about most of the pussy pics I see, why advertise bad pussy?). Is it really that hard to take a few minutes to get a flattering pic with a good angle with good lighting and such?
Hi Venus,
Only those who DON'T like them tend to blog about the subject. Therefore, it gives the impression that is the way it is. Sort of like a good product; most who like a product say nothing, but those who don't are very vocal.
I have cock pics and body pics without my cock included. I found that I got very few views and hotlists when I featured my body pic. I did have a fully dressed pic without my face, of course. Same thing...minimal views. It IS true that the increase with more explicit pics includes many men (I'm straight) but it also includes many women....generally 30-50 age group.


JustLookn439 54M

4/13/2020 3:55 pm

I would agree that men are more visual. But some women are also visual. Whether you are talking erotic pics or g-rated, women often state they want "attractive". That infers that visually appealing pics are important. Of course, WHAT is appealing varies from woman to woman.
By the way....my pics aren't 3-D...so no eye-poking going on here! LMAO!!


JustLookn439 54M

4/13/2020 4:05 pm

Something else to consider....women have a very diversified array of garments that accentuate their "assets" that they can wear to look sexy. Men have really nothing. So think about this...If a man takes an ass pic, many interpret that to be gay or bi-sexual. If I took a "leg" pic that generally is considered "feminine". If I take a cock pic, you may be offended. If I take a FACE pic...I will be offended! LOL (well not offended haha...but it won't happen here)
So....I have ONE safe possibility...if I wear a shirt doing so, nothing sexy about that and pretty sure that given you probably see 10,000 men just like that each week, it wouldn't be eye-catching.


JustLookn439 54M

4/13/2020 4:13 pm

LOL...this whole site would be against the law...based on just the advertisements, then!


pacnwlover42 51M
7996 posts
4/13/2020 4:40 pm

I'm guilty of showing off my cock a lot, including when I've cummed. Also, my ass quite a bit, and my chest and feet. I don't really worry what anybody thinks because I love my body. It is nice to get positive comments whenever I can. I do my best not to brag about my body, we all have imperfections. I do enjoy showing off my body even more when I'm outdoors in a beautiful setting.

Funny women are incredibly sexy!


Paulxx001 63M
16583 posts
4/13/2020 5:17 pm

i don't lose any sleep over it either...


BiggLala 48F  
28500 posts
4/13/2020 6:17 pm

    Quoting JustLookn439:
    FresnoWoman, I totally agree that no man should SEND a cock pic (I refrain from referring to a penis as a "Dick" since it is akin to "Cunt") to a woman.
    Posting one is VERY different than sending one via email or IM without being asked.
    NOW...that said, for woman who DO care about what it looks like, which may include several on this conversation, I respect you don't wish to see it until YOU "unwrap" it. Let me ask this...what if you don't like it once you unwrap it? Wouldn't that be incredibly awkward, if not demeaning? If all is going well, but THEN.....you suddenly lose interest once he undresses, it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to know what put you off.
You said, "I will say this, from my experience, women who are looking for sexual interaction will at some point want to see what a guy has down there," in your first comment. I think this is an accurate statement. Personally, however, I want to be the one to decide when I want to see it. Which brings me to answer the question you asked in a later comment...

Let me ask this...what if you don't like it once you unwrap it?
-I have NEVER not liked the look of a man's penis when I'm attracted to HIM. That isn't to say all the penises have been [what I consider] 'perfect', but not liking it has never been an issue.

This is only MY opinion based on MY experiences.

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BiggLala 48F  
28500 posts
4/13/2020 6:25 pm

    Quoting JustLookn439:
    Hi Venus,
    Only those who DON'T like them tend to blog about the subject. Therefore, it gives the impression that is the way it is. Sort of like a good product; most who like a product say nothing, but those who don't are very vocal.
    I have cock pics and body pics without my cock included. I found that I got very few views and hotlists when I featured my body pic. I did have a fully dressed pic without my face, of course. Same thing...minimal views. It IS true that the increase with more explicit pics includes many men (I'm straight) but it also includes many women....generally 30-50 age group.
You received more views and hotlists. However, how many of those views/hotlists led to genuine communication and, eventually, meets?

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BiggLala 48F  
28500 posts
4/13/2020 6:34 pm

I'm not offended by dick pics either. I have just become numb to dicks altogether. I find it very difficult to get excited about them anymore. I think there are two reasons for that; we see just any dick while one here all day long, and it seems most men aren't interested in arousing women...just hit and run because they're horny and want to get off.

One thing I learned from my experiences meeting men here is that the type of pic he chooses to post communicates what he seeks:
1-dick pics only and/or as main pic = sex, and sex only, you will not get any communication from him;
2-body pics without face = he's *somewhat* willing to chat a bit before meeting or moving to sex, but still wants sex rather quickly and you might not hear from him if you have sex; and
3-face pic = engages you in general conversation and allows things to flow freely before worrying about sex happening, he will actively ensure you've developed mutual interest, you're more likely to have something ongoing with this guy.

This is one reason I don't rant about dick pics. They pretty much communicate all I need to know. Sooo...post away.

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travelnottourism 45M  
102 posts
4/13/2020 7:08 pm

    Quoting JustLookn439:
    Something else to consider....women have a very diversified array of garments that accentuate their "assets" that they can wear to look sexy. Men have really nothing. So think about this...If a man takes an ass pic, many interpret that to be gay or bi-sexual. If I took a "leg" pic that generally is considered "feminine". If I take a cock pic, you may be offended. If I take a FACE pic...I will be offended! LOL (well not offended haha...but it won't happen here)
    So....I have ONE safe possibility...if I wear a shirt doing so, nothing sexy about that and pretty sure that given you probably see 10,000 men just like that each week, it wouldn't be eye-catching.
This take on what men wear was actually recently taken up in a podcast I listen to, "Nerds Who Swing" by Margo and Miller. Thoroughly entertaining.


travelnottourism 45M  
102 posts
4/13/2020 7:11 pm

Perfect. I have read that before - still as funny a decade later!


travelnottourism 45M  
102 posts
4/13/2020 7:14 pm

In response to a request from someone, I actually took my very first dick pic (two actually) the other morning while the glory was on my side.

The discussions did remind me of the atteched image. We sell it on a greeting card at work.

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HeartCollector 63F  

4/13/2020 8:46 pm

I got a nicely worded intelligent email about a month ago so I went and met him. One, because he had a few pictures of his whole self doing normal things and he sounded interesting. I guess that’s two things...I am plowing ahead, Coronavirus or not! I’m happy I got to anticipate something. ❣️❣️

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azriel1970 49M  
29996 posts
4/14/2020 5:06 am

I Used to post them But I mean half the planet has one so what is the big deal??? However, I have been asked to send one believe it or not! SO IF requested I will send these days but those requests are FEW and FAR between ha ha ha.


pal334 66M  
40532 posts
4/14/2020 6:53 am

Why can't they be a bit more discrete . I selected the alternate file set up. That way nothing is forced onto any one

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travellerabc123 50M
3820 posts
4/14/2020 7:02 am

Nobody ever sent me a picture of their naughty bits.
Oops, I take that back. A guy did it. LOL

Embrace the suck


JustLookn439 54M

4/14/2020 7:22 am

    Quoting BiggLala:
    You received more views and hotlists. However, how many of those views/hotlists led to genuine communication and, eventually, meets?
3 led to meets. 2 led to ongoing fun (no not at the same time). 1 lasted 4 years and the other followed up with 2 years after I rejoined. This obviously isn't my first time here


JustLookn439 54M

4/14/2020 3:08 pm

First, thank you! I do like good conversations even when we sometimes have varying viewpoints. I typically look for blogs that could be debatable. No fun if we all see it the same way and just voice agreement, is it?
I do try to avoid being confrontational and I think responses to mine were respectful as well.
Regarding the 3 that I met, I am sure my pic was only the initial "I'll peek at your profile" moment. We chatted via the site, then texted before finally meeting. My pic may include my penis, but it also includes pretty much my whole body as you may have seen, already. BTW, I did change to this chest pic for the duration of this blog conversation out of respect for the women that didn't want to see that. I wasn't trying to respond to provide a dozen views of my penis to make a point of any sort!


tickles4us 58M
7196 posts
4/14/2020 6:28 pm

I experimented with what I put up for pictures after I had been on the site a bit. So I went from a blank picture and virtually no one viewing my profile to a picture that didn't include any intimate personal parts that got a bit more views. Then just to see if it would make any difference I posted a "dick" pic as my main profile pic. The views definitely went up from both women and men but mostly men. Which I figured isn't surprising given the demographics of the site. Being as I have never been interested enough in the situation here to pay for a subscription I decided I would leave the dick pic up but moved it from the main profile pic so that other standard members could still see it if they wanted. I have deleted and posted different versions over time to reset the view count just for shits and grins. I figure it this way as far as the people who find it offensive... This is a very sex oriented site so please can the being offended crap if you happen upon a dick pic in someones profile other than the main pic and if you are really offended by them then set your picture viewing ratings accordingly. And yes I have been approached on here because of the dick pic...by both men and women and couples. I've never made a date though. So advertising works according to the desires of the viewer. Lol

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BiggLala 48F  
28500 posts
4/14/2020 10:34 pm

    Quoting JustLookn439:
    3 led to meets. 2 led to ongoing fun (no not at the same time). 1 lasted 4 years and the other followed up with 2 years after I rejoined. This obviously isn't my first time here
Just so I'm clear on the "3 led to meets," and to Miss BJ's question, "those 3 meets were with women that initially contacted you because they liked your penis?"

Did all three women contact you first? Or, rather who made initial contact, you or them? To be sure, by "contact", I mean sent a first message, not flirt or view profile.

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JN63JPN 57F  
26290 posts
4/15/2020 4:19 am

My impression of profs with dick pics is that the dude's a prick with no substance, therefore not worth my time. That being said, ironically, I've met a couple of fun playmates who are on A FF and have cock pics as their main prof pic, but I met them at a party a couple (who happened to live nearby as well) were hosting. Had they contacted me directly, I would've ignored them unless the message itself piqued my interest.

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JustLookn439 54M

4/15/2020 2:23 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Just so I'm clear on the "3 led to meets," and to Miss BJ's question, "those 3 meets were with women that initially contacted you because they liked your penis?"

    Did all three women contact you first? Or, rather who made initial contact, you or them? To be sure, by "contact", I mean sent a first message, not flirt or view profile.
All 3 flirted, hotlisted, and repeatedly viewed. Two sent emails, but as a standard, I couldn't respond, so I later initiated IMs with some points I accumulated, when I saw them online. The third I did send the first IM (no emails).


JustLookn439 54M

4/15/2020 2:28 pm

They didn't specifically say they contacted me because of my pics. Since I get considerably more views, etc. with erotic pics would indicate there is a link there.


1952MichaelE 67M  
22 posts
4/15/2020 4:13 pm

I believe that most men post pics their cock for one reason, and one reason only - they like seeing their cock. It seldom has anything to do with women.


JustLookn439 54M

4/15/2020 4:30 pm

LOL...absolutely! I'll go back to the pics that work best after I finish engaging in this blog.
But, given that the women/men that are engaging here mostly don't like those pics, I respect it enough to not flaunt it for this post.


kzoopair 69M/67F
25849 posts
4/24/2020 5:46 pm

I've done the same thing- been put off by dick pics. Granted neither I nor my wife were ever here shopping for cock, but a penis photo is a really intimate photo and even comes across as somewhat aggressive. When I first began blogging here I kind of avoided members- pun intended- with a main photo of their cocks. But that was a fuck up on my part because I unfairly prejudged spunkycumfun and he turned out to be one of my dearest friends on this site. He's unfailingly polite and considerate in addition to being an entertaining, creative and often hilarious blogger. I miss his posts terribly and I wish he was back here and blogging, massive cock and all!

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fashionablegma 77F
7663 posts
4/30/2020 9:19 am

Oh most guys talk through it or with it when it comes to us ladies,so,no surprise to me they have it up as their main profile picture but once you seen one you seen them all and i have seen a lot,over the many years,though most look ugly,maybe they think it will improve the rest of them,prefer to see a hot body,if not a face,rather than the dick picture


Paradox12121 50M
111 posts
5/8/2020 11:09 am

Point taken. Thanks for the advice.


missthee 54F  
4230 posts
5/20/2020 1:50 am

I consider myself a person with curiosity... in the National Geographic sense, where my curiosity is of the scientific inquiry type (although I am not a scientist), to know what the human body is like.
In that sense, I find these pics are valuable.
Though I understand why women would shy away from them - most dick pics are aesthetically unappealing, and not likely to be sexually arousing. On the other hand, there is a statistical value to these pics.... one can get a good idea of what the 'average' male appendage is likely to be.

I would encourage more men to look at as many dick pics they can stomach. So that they may understand why dick pics are usually bad photos. That for me, is the real problem with the pics. Most men that post dick pics are seeing only their own dicks, and not their terrible photographic skills.


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