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The Signals I Give When I'm Sexually Attracted to a Guy
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The Signals I Give When I'm Sexually Attracted to a Guy On many of my AdultFriendFinder dates the guy gets my signals wrong. When this happens the date isn't going to end well for either of us. Sometimes the guy assumes I am very into him and I'm not. But just as often I'm very interested but somehow he does not get the message and we wrap up with a sexless date or we end up wasting an hour or two leaving us with practically no time to get the deed done once we figure out the feeling was mutual. I hope this blog entry can illustrate some of the signals I have been told I give off or I have seen my girlfriends give off when we have made up our minds to sleep with someone. First of all, most women are open to sex if we agree to meet at all. It is not a done deal just yet but the guy is halfway there. When I'm thinking about having sex with a guy I'm about to meet I choose an outfit that will showcase my body in the best possible way. I dress fairly conservatively most of the time but if I'm showing some deep cleavage or wearing a tight top that shows off my boobs my dates should assume there is some serious interest on my part. If we don't feel the chemistry or the mood just isn't right we might start to subtly cover up. But if I'm attracted to a guy I'll freeze to death no matter how chilly the A/C is before I put on my jacket if my blouse is showing off my assets. if your date is smiling a lot and agreeing with every comment or joke this is usually the first sign she's into you. I know I like to show some appreciation and that I'm enjoying his company when I'm into him. The best way I can do this is to let my date know I'm having a fantastic time. I've been told by numerous girlfriends that when I first meet a guy and he turns me on, I start touching my face and hair. I've only caught myself doing this a few times but I keep hearing it from people who know me. Sometimes if the guy gets up to use the restroom I have instinctively freshened up my makeup and this may be part of what my friends are talking about. When your date touches your arm or knee, this is a signal that she feels comfortable with you. This does not always happen in public but if you are meeting in a private location it is a very clear signal. Another sign the woman is increasingly comfortable is when she accepts a second or third drink. Usually when I'm with a man I don't know very well I hesitate to drink too much, especially if I think there's a good chance the date won't go well and I'll end up driving home sooner than I thought. Usually before I meet a man I chat with him online for a while and we often get into some pretty graphic detail about what we like sexually. When I'm into a guy and he starts to talk about some of what we've discussed, that can actually be a big turn on. For every woman we like reassurance that men find us sexually attractive so if you indicate how aroused you got from our previous conversations and she responds positively, you're probably going to get sex. I often find myself crossing and recrossing my legs if I'm wearing a short skirt and start to feel turned on and a little wet down there. Ladies, am I the only one who does this? When this happens I'm not just attracted to my date. I've reached a point where I want to have sex with him and soon! For most of the women I know, it is rare to just say to a guy we just met and say "I'm incredibly attracted to you. Can we go back to your place?" We are more subtle and I suppose want to be able to back out without embarrassing ourselves too much if the guy decides he does not want to sleep with us. Men should not be waiting for something that obvious and I know this tip may be very frustrating for a lot of guys. But if a man picks up on the signals I talked about above and is not rude about it there's nothing wrong with just suggesting we go back to your place or someplace we can be alone. A girl could still change her mind but when i get to this point I've already made up my mind and only something very dramatic is going to cause me to change my mind. Do not be offended if she wants to follow you in her car. I'm rarely comfortable enough to go home in the guy's car on the first date and even had a few negative experiences where I got stranded and had to call for help after we were done. I hope this is helpful. I'd love to find out if you agree or disagree with what I'm saying. I look forward to reading your responses. |
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very helpful to me babe. Sometimes it is hard to read you ladies
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9/19/2017 7:05 pm |
Love your thoughts and advice! It's always helpful to hear a ladies perspective on dating. I know I'll be looking for these signs on my next date. Thanks for the advice and great blog!
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Good information, but get into the habit of saying what you want. If the men don't pickup on you, say "Bye" . Don't waste your time. There is something else. You're not actually dating if there has been no sex. At the very best, you are just hanging out . Nothing even close to actual "Dating". And men [even women] should always apply the "3 Date" rule. If nothing sexual happens by the end of the 3rd time out with each other, say "Bye". People "Wait" too much. Too much "Time" is wasted on dead ends. On average people "Wait" 5 to 9 times [intended dates] before they have sex. That's just ridiculous. Don't think of "Dating" as exclusive. It really isn't. If you want to date other men [or other women], and by that I mean, "Have sex with others", don't feel pressure, don't feel guilt, don't feel shame, to make it exclusive.
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And the first meeting? That does not count as a "Date". In fact that first meeting should not be longer than one hour at the very most. The only exception to that is if the meeting turns into a lust orgy of sexual interest. Then you're dating.....and longer than one hour.
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thank you so much on what to look for
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Those are great examples SexySweet. It is very important that we all pay attention to the non-verbal communication when in an intimate setting. Lala is right that these won't be all exactly the same for each woman, but some of them are vague enough to be universal. -Leaning in during the conversation versus slouching back -Maintaining eye contact and smiling -Casually extending your hand to touch the other person Of course if you're really just not sure, maybe the other person was nervous and gave off erratic signals, no harm in putting a feeler out though. "How about we take this someplace quieter" or the like. It doesn't guarantee that you'll both ultimately want to go all the way, but it will definitely give you an idea of whether it is still a possibility!
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great read with some very good advice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Good tips. Wet lips. Sexy mind. Good find. Anything done half-heartedly will net you an equivalent result. ~CH
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..You're not actually dating if there has been no sex. At the very best, you are just hanging out . Nothing even close to actual "Dating". How did that trip you up? And men [even women] should always apply the "3 Date" rule. If nothing sexual happens by the end of the 3rd time out with each other, say "Bye". .... Yes, don't waste your time. Clearly sexual interest is questionable or nonexistent. What's confusing about that? If it's not a date until you have sex ... That's right. The intention is to have sex each time invited out on a date, that is why the event is called a "Date". Understand now? how can you not get sex until the third date? ... They're not interested. You may not even get sex by the end of the 3rd intended date. It's a "3 -intended- date rule", [3 date rule]... Each time the person is invited out, the intention is the event together will be a "Date". But out of respect, one may choose to allow the 3 intended dates slide as "Hanging out" together, up until the end of the last [3rd] intended date. But by the end of the 3rd date [because that's what it was intended to be] if nothing happens, you say adios, and move on to the next on your list. It's funnier you can't understand this concept at your age. But out of goodness, I'll help the reading-challenged. Now, no worries, you will understand this, eventually. .
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Interesting. Thank you for sharing.
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That's funny... but even so. The "3 date" rule stands with many, women, too.. If nothing sexual happens within these 3 intended "Dates", then time to move on.
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For women from online, one meet and greet to see if there's attraction, ... Applies to men , too. You have you initial meeting. To sense each other out. Never said you don't have this first meeting. Many erroneously think a first meeting is a date. It could end up that way, but typically it isn't. if they don't want sex after that I don't make a date. .... If they don't want sex after that, you don't go out [with them] anymore. If I make a date that doesn't result in sex I don't pursue it at all. ... That's right, you made an "Intended date", with the "Intention" of having sex. If "Having sex" doesn't happen, you didn't make a "Date". You inadvertently invited someone to "Hangout" with you. The three date rule is a ploy to get you in a relationship. ... No . The "3 Date Rule" is your finish line, so you don't waste time with women who really don't want to have sex with you, but only want to see how much attention you'll give her. Besides, not everyone wants to date for commitment. Mostly dating is considered not exclusive, unless otherwise felt [never "Said"].
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I will pay closer attention to these pointers in the future as I am not a good reader of signs
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