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GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
10/30/2020 8:47 am


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
10/30/2020 9:27 am

As someone who was never bestowed with the privilege of having children......I'm not too keen on your father......

I am sad though........lamenting what might have been in different circumstances.

And


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
10/30/2020 9:45 am

Wow La....

Definitely the sounds of the fallen. I like to believe that there is always hope as long as someone is alive. Sounds like he was a master of maintaining different personas. Too bad he didnt /couldnt man up and at least try to be a dad. I am sorry.....sorry he blew that chance.

Here....its snowing....our first of the season. So i am admiring it from within...the falling snow.

Peace ~~


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
10/30/2020 10:25 am

Per your request, I'll pass on the condolences, but I WILL express sympathy for being in the situation of having to go to a funeral where people might be expecting you to show grief. Speaking of, hopefully it's lightly attended. cuz...Covid y'all.

We had about 6-7" of heavy snow last week...luckily it is finally in the 40's today and hopefully it will melt away so I can do my last raking and lawn mowing.


forgotforgetting 57M
8134 posts
10/30/2020 10:27 am

I heard this in a movie once: "You know, you need a license to drive, but they'll let any asshole with a hard on be a father."

As a father of two, I am completely devoted to them. I can't imagine being any other way.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
10/30/2020 10:45 am

That's some weather you're having!
Just sorry that. you and your father didn't get on
My father died of a heart attack when I was only 14 years old. I never really got to know him as much as I would have wanted too.


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
10/30/2020 11:22 am

Nature has a wonderful way of recovering - look at the bush fires they had in Australia at the start of the year (seems like such a long time ago now) and how the ground is slowly showing signs of recovery.

Same with the fires in the US. While in the short term it does do a lot of damage, in the long term it seems to be the best thing to clear out and start again.

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Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
10/30/2020 11:53 am

First I am sorry for your loss hun, and I can totally sympathize with you here as my father was the same way. He's gone too and I never even got to say goodbye, no tears or anything.

I bet it will be very interesting for you to hear what others have to say about him. And I wish you all the best hun, and enjoy your weekend..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


lonlyforlove2 81M
32704 posts
10/30/2020 1:52 pm

Young Lady, it is a shame that life dealt you such a situation, looks like you made the best out of what was the other lifestyle!! Have a good day and be safe....

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CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
10/30/2020 1:54 pm

My son came up from Norman, complete with pictures of all the fallen trees, so I know this story well. Both he and his girlfriend only lost power briefly, and it seems you're connected to the grid too. Hundreds of miles away, my sister faces days without power in the aftermath of the latest hurricane.

A few weeks back we held the Celebration of Life for my step-son. These times of Covid make all such occasions just that much more strange.

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Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
10/30/2020 3:28 pm

There is a unique sadness about seeing once majestic trees that have been reduced to nothing more than crumbled specimens falling apart in front of your eyes. That was very touching along with your honest & painful memories of your now deceased father.That you shared all of that with us doesn't surprise me Lala as you have always been a straight from the heart blogger.Life is difficult & when one has to overcome an emotionally absent Father than it shows in your fortitude how you've managed to overcome such a hurdle. As always Lala that was a great read.


helen_damnation 61F  
2487 posts
10/30/2020 4:15 pm

All I can say is you sperm donor totally missed out not getting to know your awesomeness. His (great) loss.
Glad you didn't freeze your ass off. Oklahoma weather is a lot like Texas, only hear in CenTex we don't get that many freezes.

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redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/30/2020 4:32 pm

My condolences to you for him not being a good father.

Music suggestion so you don't have to listen to breaking branches:
Crackling Rose - Neil Diamond

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


PonyGirl1965 58F
22090 posts
10/31/2020 1:18 am

My mother was a lot like your father. My FIL is a 2 faced blankety blank blank. I feel the struggle. Distance is best. Hugs!!


lunchandconvo 53F  
4034 posts
10/31/2020 5:05 am

i'm sorry. i don't have a close relationship with my mom. everyone adores her. she's the best friend. the best aunt. and only my brother and his kids know she's a really shitty mom to me. my DIL just posted a photo of my mom with her hand on my brother's check. that was tough. i don't have a photo like that. i keep my distance...


ULIXBIG 69M
9288 posts
10/31/2020 6:07 pm

I am just sad that you didn't have the father you deserved ...


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
10/31/2020 8:07 pm

I'm sorry he was never a father to you and didn't know what a funny and wonderful person you are.
Hopefully you've been OK during the ice storm from this week. It's been quite the mess. I lost power Tuesday morning and just had it restored Saturday evening shortly after 6. Some cold darks nights spent at home...a couple of those nights I couldn't even get out of the garage because of the tree limbs piled in the driveway. I have (or had) 3 huge trees in my hard. There's a lot of daylight showing in those trees now....and a lot of wood on the ground. Next step is cleaning out the fridge and freezer since most of that stuff is now ruined.

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srkaficionada 70F

11/1/2020 10:18 am

I know you said not to, but still condolences. On the fact that you didn’t have a good relationship and the fact that you had a father who obviously shouldn’t have been a father/ allowed to have children and inflict pain on them, especially emotional pain.

I hope his passing gives you peace. And maybe some insight into what made him who he was.

For all my extended family dysfunction, my father was a rockstar and still is a rockstar to us. My mother was there by his side every step of the way. 41 years they’ve been married and together for 50. They did right by us and I can say that with the wisdom of being an adult. As a teenager and in my 20s, I resented them but now? I think I’m the only person in my loose group of friends whose parents are still together and being that boomer asshole who wants to teach you the ways of the world while slipping me money anytime I pop up for a visit and using EVERY opportunity to brag about how great their kids are doing.

From that place of having good parents whose only sin is embarrassing us whenever they can, I’m offering my condolences


tickles4us 62M
7262 posts
11/1/2020 7:01 pm

Sorry you got short changed in the Father experience. Mine was around a bit when I was a kid but not much though. Probably just as well as he had problems when he drank and he liked to drink. He came back around later and eventually remarried my Mother. Imagine my surprise when I left the Air Force and returned to Vermont to find them together again. He had abandoned his then current wife in Oklahoma. I'm not sure if she was his third or fourth wife but I didn't think much of him for just up and leaving her especially as I knew he had used her for the entire time he was married to her and I'm certain he left her in bad financial condition as he was always spending money he didn't have. I don't have many pleasant memories of him from childhood in fact they are almost all bad memories. My mother took him back though so I had to put up with him for her sake. Their relationship was up and down over the years though, cause he had not changed and still had a drinking problem which continued to create more stress and of course he was still a cheater too. So he never got my respect but I did sort of forgive or maybe I should say accepted him for being the asshole that he was but only because my Mother did have some good times together with him over the years before he died. But I never forgot just what kind of an asshole he was. So I can understand where you are coming from. Maybe you were better off without him around as it could have been much worse potentially with him around.

Vive La Difference


tickles4us 62M
7262 posts
11/1/2020 7:26 pm

P.s. I had a tree fall down in my back yard a few weeks ago when some high winds were blowing through the area. I was lying in bed at the time as it was late at night. I heard a loud crack and the crashing of branches and such and dove for the end of my bed as I knew there are lots of large trees out back that are tall enough to reach my bedroom and crash through the roof and crush my ass in my bed. Of course they would crush my ass on the floor at the foot of my bed too but it seemed a safer place to be. Not that it mattered as i hesitated to long and heard the tree branches at the top of the tree crashing off the side of my garage before I got near the end of the bed. I guess the wind was blowing faster than my ass was moving. I think it was 30 to 60 MPH winds. Nothing like those tornados out there in OK. but they do blow trees over around here. We get those ice storms too where the trees are incased in ice and it usually takes out lots of power lines as well as the weaker branches buy the trees look so nice with the sun shining on the ice coated branches.

Vive La Difference


japaneseass 56F  
50231 posts
11/2/2020 4:22 pm

he sounds like my ex...he never really cared much about our daughter...especially since we were split up and divorce was finalized...he never paid a dime for the child support, which was not much, like $40 a month...and he told my daughter's half brother, he is proud himself, for not paying child support for any of his children. he had three, including mine. Last time, we heard was when my daughter turned 18...(she will be 27 this year) he sent her a birthday card with $100 personal check in it. My daughter cashed the check. Turned out to be bad check. My daughter's bank took the $100 plus $20 for fee. so basically she paid $20 for nothing on her birthday...for the asshole sending her a bad check...since then we completely cut ties with him...although i see him on facebook, he is still around...but i don't talk to him...my daughter doesn't think he was her father...my current hubby is more close to her, as he raised her from young...

still, sorry to hear him passin...but either way, this was the last chapter in your book with him...so yah...the end....period...done...move on...the new caper begins...


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
11/3/2020 3:55 pm

Condolences for what could have been if he was a better man. I'm in a position to completely understand what you mean when you say you feel... nothing. Which, in a way, makes me feel a little tiny bit guilty, like I SHOULD, but I don't so... there it is.

(((hugs)))


freespirit11501 53M
1542 posts
11/9/2020 4:55 am

LaLa, I’m happy for you in the sense that you were able to come to the realization that it wasn’t you, it was him. So many people never get to that point and take on that guilt and carry it with them their entire lives. So good for you! Being a father has been one of my greatest achievements and the thought of not being a part of my children’s lives is unimaginable.

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hippiechick1967 60F  
13154 posts
11/15/2020 12:27 pm

I can relate to having an absent father; my lovely mother took it a step further and made sure I knew he left because of me, that he detested me and my red hair. What's up with that? You can KNOW it was him that was fucked up, not you, intellectually, but somewhere deep down inside there's still a child who fears the worst-that you are inherently unworthy. *sigh
I'm sorry your father was such a jerk.

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