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Awkward  

AlwaysLace 54F  
160 posts
7/24/2020 5:21 am
Awkward


Doess anyone else find it awkward when you are with a "friend" here on AdultFriendFinder and he<b> cams </font></b>for you but is not able do so privately and we choice openly talk in the room not go private and of a sudden you become an outsider cuz he has started a private conversation with another viewer. It doesnt bother him that others are watching. He kind of likes it. I know how be polite if another is trying barge in and make comments and post in the open, but what can I do but feel somewhat awkward and even a little disrespected when it happens privately.

~Lace


JeffXcitedNow 69M
282 posts
7/24/2020 5:54 am

Hmmm ...interesting dilemma ...if I’m understanding you correctly you and friend have chosen to be having a conversation when friend has sent you (alone) to join them on a public cam / chat n a public room and s/he allows someone else to enter the conversation and you’re left out on a limb. Is that right, coz if it is, yes I’d find it disrespectful.
I guess you could exit the conversation and next time ur invited to participate in same at the very beginning let them know your view on this and clarify whether the chat is just between the two of you and if they say “no” or similar I would politely decline the invitation, similarly if they allowed someone to join after this, they don’t sound like a friend under any definition of the term.
JeffX (hoping I was correct in my assumptions)
Thanx, I’m trying to track down the origin of receiving this blog (glad I did) coz this and another blog of yours interests me greatly as it’s an issue I grapple with.


AlwaysLace 54F  
193 posts
7/24/2020 6:22 am

Close... he received a private post while I was still public. I can tell he is typing. I'm not receiving any posts.

~Lace


JeffXcitedNow 69M
282 posts
7/24/2020 6:35 am

K gotcha.... even worse as far as I’m concerned ...rude, rude, and more rude...my apols ... cart before the horse...Did S/ he mention that they were engaging in conversation...I’m guessing not!
Thanx for your response
JeffX


Four20andOralFun 40M
5 posts
7/24/2020 10:00 am

Not sure why they got rid of private cams. That was a nice feature.


japaneseass 56F  
50231 posts
7/24/2020 11:59 am

I do a lot of camming on this site. So I can speak from my end of view.

If he is not broadcasting privately, but publicly, a viewer should expect there are other viewers watching the cammer. Which means, he/she may or may not be able to chat ONLY with you. Of course, you can send him private messages, and the cammer also privately send you messages, so other viewers don't see what you are talking about. But still that does not mean, he/she is taking care of you only.

I can't stop you from feeling any awkward. But that's the way the public broadcasting on this site works. It's not any disrespecting you, but the cammers are there to entertain other group of people, too. If you wish to be just talked to you, you should ask him to do a private cam session, with you only, on other occasion.

My two cents.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/24/2020 12:28 pm

Ya....i would feel awkward and disrespected too. He chose NOT to go private with you , but another comes along and he goes private with them. Hmmm. If the boundaries are unclear from the onset...you have no choice but to either continue or leave. Yet....as Japanese says, cammers are here to cam for others as well. So...maybe make a time for privacy for the 2 of you only. Like a camdate~~


DJDaddy2016 68M  
1 post
7/30/2020 9:32 pm

I am the guy who "disrespected" Lacey. Lacey and I both wanted to be in a private video chat but AdultFriendFinder would not allow it. We talked about using Skype but she could not do it. So we decided we'd chat with each other but as a broadcast recognizing that there maybe some voyeurs. Some observers sent messages to me which I thought were in the open. I responded with short acknowledgement level messages. I had no intention of disrespecting Lacey, but the whole "broadcast" method was not well understood by me.


buzzduz69 73M
17 posts
8/31/2020 5:37 am

More than once I have been in the situation you describe. In a private conversation and on cam and then others come in and interrupt, but would never allow others to take over the conversation or would never ignore the original person I was with. That is why I often use the kick or ban buttons. Buzz


mikemik1213 69M
4 posts
3/3/2021 8:27 pm

I dont cam here, but I would be careful to give you all my attention.


AlwaysLace replies on 3/4/2021 8:39 pm:
Meaning what exactly?

luvtowatchnshow 62M
128 posts
9/24/2021 2:46 pm

I dont like it when there are private conversations going on while im camming for or watching a friend, it definitely is awkward and makes ya feel like a 3rd wheel... i would cam privately with my friend unless we are just not committed to each other...which i think why private conversations happen,,,i;d play privately with ya Lace and give you my undivided attention,,, its only right


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