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Passion and Compassion  

Ianpoman 79M  
94 posts
8/24/2019 7:15 am
Passion and Compassion

To me passion, like desire, is an appetite. Compassion, though, is feeling another person's or other people's feelings, including how they're handling what's going on in their life. Because there's nothing wrong with my appetites I stay curious about to uh, well, what to eat or sample or whatever the appetite is. But I just can't be okay with what's happening in me. Satisfaction is impossible without "the other" being okay and in a similar place.

With desire for touch, for sex, for intimacy I have to feel a mutuality: it's more than "consent" even if it is at least consent. Mutuality that I think about is more like Yeah, let's get acquainted, check each other out. If there's chem, compatibility, well, that's great. If not, that's okay too. We at least took a step. Our situations just didn't match. But maybe they could or would another time, or maybe we move on with good will just the same.

At this time of my life, I'm a bit fragile emotionally and physically but I'm still passionate and curious and because of who I am, still very compassionate. Makes me happy when others feel the same way. How about you? I am so curious!

pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
10/1/2019 8:26 am

 Compassion's hand maiden is empathy and without both it can be tough to move forward
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Ianpoman 79M  
83 posts
10/2/2019 3:17 am

 Thank you for your comment pocogato. Perhaps we live in a time of what some call "excessive individualism". All of us have similar "appetites" and "digest" what we consume very individually and privately. But just because we have those similar appetites doesn't mean we process them in the same ways. It takes compassion and empathy to get outside ourselves and relate to (connect with) others. I think of compassion as the ability to relate to others. Empathy goes a step further and puts one in the other's shoes, feeling what they're feeling, connecting with (but without becoming) them.


Smooth_Michelle 71T  
26 posts
11/20/2019 5:29 am

 I think it is so important to be passionate, but also compassionate to others. This world is changing to everyone taking the "Me" attitude. I share your feelings of considering others before ourselves!


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