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Pleasure is not pushy  

Ianpoman 79M  
94 posts
8/14/2021 3:35 am
Pleasure is not pushy


Just thinking about pleasure and wondering why our (US) culture seems more intent on competition and winning than on the benefits of sane pleasuring. Also, it seems that there is far more toleration for violence than for affection or pleasure or satisfaction. Why is that? It is fashionable to abhor violence and to think that it will never happen to me and mine. But the newspapers and news media tell a different story. Violence dominates the news cycle, or else competition (which team wins, is better than others, matters more, sells more).

The thing about pleasure, as I see it anyway, is that it doesn't thrive on being pushy. Pleasure takes time, reduces tension in the long run, prepares us to feel better about ourselves and about others.

I'm tempted to say "Pleasure isn't pushy. It's pussy!" But that's just too clever a word . It is of course true how pleasurable pussy is but really just want it to be mutually enjoyed or solo or at least uncoerced--in other words not pushy. It may be fun to role play "pushy pussy" but only if those involved agree.

My point is that pleasure is so important to well being in contrast to the fear and<b> anxiety </font></b>that comes from unwanted pushiness, coercion, competition, impatience. There's plenty to enjoy if we allow it to happen. Can't make it happen without damaging something vital in us. Yeah, I'm a grandpa but not a grump pa. Just want more loving around.

Smooth_Michelle 71T  
26 posts
8/14/2021 7:48 am

So very well said. It does show the "importance" of scores and sport rankings rather than how violence is taking over. I truly love your thoughts of not being pushy. I don't want someone pushy, aggressive, or dominant. Friendship and companionship first to enjoy each other, and a willing pussy will be "open" for enjoyment!


Ianpoman 79M  
83 posts
8/15/2021 3:25 am

Thank you Smooth Michelle. Friendship and companionship come first for pleasure to lead to happiness. Totally agree. That takes time, trust and thoughtfulness.

Your comments are very insightful, BiggLala. I was thinking of sexual pleasure--you're right. For me sex has been pleasurable and I tend to equate the two. But, I know better and you're right: It sometimes isn't. Do you think sex education would help to stop sex from being so risky, so impulsive, so pushy? Are looksism, ageism, sexism, porn factors that interfere with genuine, natural, sexual pleasure?

For sure there are many other pleasures that can be obtained through other means and with less risk. Thank you. Wise and true.


Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
9/6/2021 9:32 am

Words well written!!


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