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Just call me Cautious Carol
Just call me Cautious Carol I’ve been thinking about how to better navigate this site safely. So I’ve poured through a lot of blogs and I realized something. I’ve viewed this site in an immature fashion. I just wanted a fuck. It was Dick R Us for me and while there is nothing wrong with sex, it’s treating people like objects that’s not right. So now I’m actively working on not just focusing on just a fuck and focus now on the person. While I do try to treat everyone in a respectful manner, I can try harder. Of course I’ve had great fun on here, through the blogs and with most people I’ve meet on here. One bad apple won’t spoil the bunch. Though my screening process has got to change. I screen violent guys, but don’t screen for stupidity. Which can be just as dangerous as a violent guy. Through some of the blogs, I’ve gain tips on how to avoid this so bad apples don’t slip though. I won’t tolerate abuse, stupidity and any overall disrespect and violation of my person. |
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Nerdy its a game of give and take my mama said you can't hurry love that song is before your time but the principle still applies , but damn she was hot back in her time the queen of soul music Diana Ross . Rumor has it she kept her singing voice for so long cause she sucked the Devils dick daily but like I say that could have been just a rumor
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So glad to see you back. Missed seeing your blogs. Hope you are well and start to blog again soon. It does take time to realize what you really want from the site and others. It's taken me some time and I have realized I am really on here just to blog right now and maybe meet someone in the future. There is so much more than just the hook up side of it. Take care! Rachel Mae
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I wouldn't blame any woman for treating men like objects here, with their own personal filters applied, for two reasons: First, that's how a large percentage of men approach this place, and approach you, and second, men outnumber women by some wide margin. I don't know that margin, but I wouldn't be surprised by anything from ten to one to 200 to 1 or more. Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.
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Good to see you back. As long as you were up front about you were after there is nothing wrong with it. That is being side I understand what you are saying and good luck! This is a Copy of My Profile Want to know even more about me? Read my Introduction Post. Feel free to drop me a line here: Give me All the Messages. Don't worry it is private! Check out all my rambles here, BlackRayne74!! Desire becomes surrender, surrender becomes power. -Joker
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So very good to have you back and I love your new perspective. (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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Great blog hun and we must always use the screening process with this place..
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Nerdy its a game of give and take my mama said you can't hurry love that song is before your time but the principle still applies , but damn she was hot back in her time the queen of soul music Diana Ross . Rumor has it she kept her singing voice for so long cause she sucked the Devils dick daily but like I say that could have been just a rumor I have heard that sucking dick can help your vocal range.
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So glad to see you back. Missed seeing your blogs. Hope you are well and start to blog again soon. It does take time to realize what you really want from the site and others. It's taken me some time and I have realized I am really on here just to blog right now and maybe meet someone in the future. There is so much more than just the hook up side of it. Take care!
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I wouldn't blame any woman for treating men like objects here, with their own personal filters applied, for two reasons: First, that's how a large percentage of men approach this place, and approach you, and second, men outnumber women by some wide margin. I don't know that margin, but I wouldn't be surprised by anything from ten to one to 200 to 1 or more.
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Good to see you back. As long as you were up front about you were after there is nothing wrong with it. That is being side I understand what you are saying and good luck!
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Welcome back young lady
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So very good to have you back and I love your new perspective.
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The need to always move forward, won't let me stop. Though I had to pause to grieve a loss and to learn from an action I regret, it did give me time to gain this new perspective. Your advice about balance really helped me and I'm grateful for it.
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Thanks. I've been drilling those words into my mind for weeks now, trying to get it to take root that stupidity can be dangerous.
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Great blog hun and we must always use the screening process with this place..
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Hooray your back,,I was being to wonder if you would return.
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12/7/2016 5:13 pm |
It's good to see you....welcome back!!! "Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250
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12/7/2016 9:32 pm |
LOL.. don t you just hate it when you realize you have to grow up and act mature. i'm 63 and just 4 yrs ago i came to the same realization.... LOL what a surprise to see you back on my watch list. welcome back. face piles of trials with smiles.. MOODY BLUES please feel free to visit my blog happy blogging
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Good to have you back.
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It's good to see you....welcome back!!!
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Hooray your back,,I was being to wonder if you would return.
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LOL.. don t you just hate it when you realize you have to grow up and act mature. i'm 63 and just 4 yrs ago i came to the same realization.... LOL what a surprise to see you back on my watch list. welcome back.
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Good to have you back.
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...you're back On a separate note, I will however counter your statement about bad apples, as I've learned one can very easily spoil the whole bunch -- at least if the bad one isn't quickly isolated and/or thrown far, far away Oh yeah, and if you're going by Cautious Carol can I be Paranoid Pete? ......mostly because I can't say that I'm interested in being a Dick R Us products - for anyone -- despite the social acceptance and (I'd say) expectation that guys should want to be a dildo for whoever is wanting to use him as such. (call me crazy, but I think it'd be a lot more fun to snuggle up with someone where there's mutual respect for each other as human beings)
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Yea for your positive return! GG. Don't let 'em grind ya down.
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I just wanted a fuck. .. That isn't immature. A person just wants to fuck, they go to a sex site. Makes perfect sense. It was Dick R Us for me and while there is nothing wrong with sex, it’s treating people like objects that’s not right. .... It's not wrong either. When a person is on this site, instead of on Match or eharmony [29 dimensions of compatibility], then being sexually objectified, is perfectly reasonable on here. So now I’m actively working on not just focusing on just a fuck and focus now on the person. .. You can do that, but you would also be making yourself more vulnerable to getting hurt. Why? Because this is a sex site. Unless he is a perfect loser, he would be getting sexual attention from other women. Even worse, if you're trying to non-objectify women. While I do try to treat everyone in a respectful manner, I can try harder. .... Don't beat yourself up. They are all grown up, they know where they are, they know how to read. They can treat you with respect by acknowledging you're on this site for sex.
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I just wanted a fuck. .. That isn't immature. A person just wants to fuck, they go to a sex site. Makes perfect sense. It was Dick R Us for me and while there is nothing wrong with sex, it’s treating people like objects that’s not right. .... It's not wrong either. When a person is on this site, instead of on Match or eharmony [29 dimensions of compatibility], then being sexually objectified, is perfectly reasonable on here. So now I’m actively working on not just focusing on just a fuck and focus now on the person. .. You can do that, but you would also be making yourself more vulnerable to getting hurt. Why? Because this is a sex site. Unless he is a perfect loser, he would be getting sexual attention from other women. Even worse, if you're trying to non-objectify women. While I do try to treat everyone in a respectful manner, I can try harder. .... Don't beat yourself up. They are all grown up, they know where they are, they know how to read. They can treat you with respect by acknowledging you're on this site for sex. Even though, we are on an sex site does not mean I should objectify anyone. You are very harsh, at times, but you are never abusive. In fact, I think you are very intelligent and funny. There are those who feel they can dehumanize others and it can turn into abusive language or other negative actions. There should be at least be a basic respect for another person.
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...you're back On a separate note, I will however counter your statement about bad apples, as I've learned one can very easily spoil the whole bunch -- at least if the bad one isn't quickly isolated and/or thrown far, far away Oh yeah, and if you're going by Cautious Carol can I be Paranoid Pete? ......mostly because I can't say that I'm interested in being a Dick R Us products - for anyone -- despite the social acceptance and (I'd say) expectation that guys should want to be a dildo for whoever is wanting to use him as such. (call me crazy, but I think it'd be a lot more fun to snuggle up with someone where there's mutual respect for each other as human beings)
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Yea for your positive return! GG. Don't let 'em grind ya down.
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People don't like to be treated as a walking dildo. ... Then they came to the wrong kind of dating site. Totally appropriate behavior , here, on this kind of site, to tell a person, "Hey I just want to fuck". [If mutually inclined, you both take necessary steps to make that happen]. If you, telling them that, breaks their heart, remind them what site they are on. Just like I wouldn't want to be treated like a cum dumpster. ... Then you too, are likely putting too much emotional emphasis [expecting too much] on the results you'll get from this kind of site. I still do not want a committed relationship, but I do want a Fwb. I dont get emotionally attached and I'm not possessive. ... That's fine, but you're still going to find males who just want a cum dumpster , because that's what they want. That's an appropriate "Want" from this place. You can't fault them for that. Better they are here, instead of eharmony. That attitude wouldn't fly over there. Even though, we are on an sex site does not mean I should objectify anyone. .... Doesn't mean you shouldn't/can't, either. If you're going to sexually objectify people, this is the appropriate site to do it. You are very harsh, at times, but you are never abusive. In fact, I think you are very intelligent and funny. .... Thank you. There are those who feel they can dehumanize others and it can turn into abusive language or other negative actions. .... What is considered dehumanizing, or abusive language, and even negative actions, can be a very subjective call. On this site , anyone , by their own free will, joining this site, should be sharp enough to understand this isn't a MaryPoppins vanilla site. There should be at least be a basic respect for another person. ... Accordingly, sure. But respect the site. Respect the type of people you're extremely likely to find on a site like this, looking for what they want. If you go into the deep jungles of South America, you respect the critters who thrive there.
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People don't like to be treated as a walking dildo. ... Then they came to the wrong kind of dating site. Totally appropriate behavior , here, on this kind of site, to tell a person, "Hey I just want to fuck". [If mutually inclined, you both take necessary steps to make that happen]. If you, telling them that, breaks their heart, remind them what site they are on. Just like I wouldn't want to be treated like a cum dumpster. ... Then you too, are likely putting too much emotional emphasis [expecting too much] on the results you'll get from this kind of site. I still do not want a committed relationship, but I do want a Fwb. I dont get emotionally attached and I'm not possessive. ... That's fine, but you're still going to find males who just want a cum dumpster , because that's what they want. That's an appropriate "Want" from this place. You can't fault them for that. Better they are here, instead of eharmony. That attitude wouldn't fly over there. Even though, we are on an sex site does not mean I should objectify anyone. .... Doesn't mean you shouldn't/can't, either. If you're going to sexually objectify people, this is the appropriate site to do it. You are very harsh, at times, but you are never abusive. In fact, I think you are very intelligent and funny. .... Thank you. There are those who feel they can dehumanize others and it can turn into abusive language or other negative actions. .... What is considered dehumanizing, or abusive language, and even negative actions, can be a very subjective call. On this site , anyone , by their own free will, joining this site, should be sharp enough to understand this isn't a MaryPoppins vanilla site. There should be at least be a basic respect for another person. ... Accordingly, sure. But respect the site. Respect the type of people you're extremely likely to find on a site like this, looking for what they want. If you go into the deep jungles of South America, you respect the critters who thrive there.
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While I don't put too much or any emphasis on the emotional aspect, I still want sane, safe and consensual sex. ... You can still do that , and perceive him as a sex object. It's like a business transaction. Each wants an amicable deal. If a man is getting all weepy because you just want to hit-it and run, then you should back off and find another. He's on the wrong site. I'm not looking for an vanilla guy, I'm looking for a fuck. ... Yes, and you're on a good site to find that. Make good use of other fuck sites , too. I do agree with you. It's just hard to say what I really want to without actually saying it. And that's where I think the confusion is from. ... "Bluntness" is the best policy. But since I can't, as of yet talk or blog about it with others, .... Then don't. Not with your current profile. Instead set up a different profile, one that isn't actively participating in these gossip rags, and with a more mysterious picture [unidentifiable]. Then state bluntly what you want within that profile. Then never use that profile to interact with the "Community" here, on any venue. I did blog about what I personally learned and how my perspective has changed from my experience. .... Yes, you did, and now you have a bunch of followers, on this profile you're using. Make another one, and exercise more discreetness. Target only those whom you believe you'd have a good chance of meeting up to see if a good fucking is likely.
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