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No conversation Ugh. Maybe I'm jaded. But what happened to good conversation? It used to be that a person could have a good talk, get comfortable and enjoy each other. Now it's just grunts. "Clothes off. Penis in vagina. Ug ug ohh gug " This is the main reason I'm so tired of the meet and greet thing. There's no let me put you at ease. Let's conversate. See if there is a mental stimulation between us. Stroke my mind like you would<b> stroke </font></b>my body. |
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Can we talk?
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Yup.....they just need a vessel for the appendage. They have bought the ' sex site ' hype.......and wanna hit it and quit it. They dont care abt conversation , they dont care abt putting anyone at ease.....they dont care abt emotions or connecting. Thats why there is a diff between having sex and making love. Many just need the slam bam thankyou and out the door. Its all abt the vessel. You need to decide if you want to be objectified as this ...or not . I think here is a place for many types of need......just hang in there ...decide and find those which match your need. Good luck ~~
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A'FF isn't what it used to be when I first joined the site. Hell, even then it wasn't always that great. I rarely do anything but come here to blog and read a few blogs that have actual words on them. I've never been to a meetup in my area and now with COVID-19, it would likely turn into a hot mess. Good conversation has to be here online and A'FF's messenger system is broken, at best, and non-functional at its worst. And don't get me started on the elitism of the site's mail system.
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I know exactly what you mean. Just before meeting my wife I was trying to engage with other women and I thought I was looking for no strings- or limited strings- attached. But it began to dawn on e that what I really wanted was someone I could talk to. I don't like to refer to the sex as secondary, but it kind of is in that if you find someone you connect with, the sex is most likely gonna be good. Satisfying. And when you love someone it can appear perfunctory when described to someone outside the relationship but it's far from perfunctory or boring when you care deeply for your partner. Every day it feels as if I found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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the art of conversation has died but there are still a few of us left that enjoy it and know how hmmmmm a free tote bag im thinking.
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Ah, ye cannae beat a guid auld blether McNerd. It's how we get to know each other........ I have to confess that I very quickly lose interest in a girl if the conversation isn't engaging. Physical gratification on its own isn't enough. Hey, I must be getting older and grumpier! 
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True. Thanks for the correction. In elementary school, can and may was such a big thing. Quite a few times, I've been hit with " I don't know, can you?" Lol Forgetting it's may I.
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Yup.....they just need a vessel for the appendage. They have bought the ' sex site ' hype.......and wanna hit it and quit it. They dont care abt conversation , they dont care abt putting anyone at ease.....they dont care abt emotions or connecting. Thats why there is a diff between having sex and making love. Many just need the slam bam thankyou and out the door. Its all abt the vessel. You need to decide if you want to be objectified as this ...or not . I think here is a place for many types of need......just hang in there ...decide and find those which match your need. Good luck ~~
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A'FF isn't what it used to be when I first joined the site. Hell, even then it wasn't always that great. I rarely do anything but come here to blog and read a few blogs that have actual words on them. I've never been to a meetup in my area and now with COVID-19, it would likely turn into a hot mess. Good conversation has to be here online and A'FF's messenger system is broken, at best, and non-functional at its worst. And don't get me started on the elitism of the site's mail system.
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I know exactly what you mean. Just before meeting my wife I was trying to engage with other women and I thought I was looking for no strings- or limited strings- attached. But it began to dawn on e that what I really wanted was someone I could talk to. I don't like to refer to the sex as secondary, but it kind of is in that if you find someone you connect with, the sex is most likely gonna be good. Satisfying. And when you love someone it can appear perfunctory when described to someone outside the relationship but it's far from perfunctory or boring when you care deeply for your partner. Every day it feels as if I found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
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the art of conversation has died but there are still a few of us left that enjoy it and know how hmmmmm a free tote bag im thinking.
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In some respects ; The days of face too face verbal conversation is DYING !!! More so with the current state of affairs !! I've seen couples sitting at a table ; young and old alike ; with phones held in front of them and appear to be TEXTING too each other !!! I guess that may be okay if it is a conversation that you don't care to be overheard !!!
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7/15/2020 5:35 am |
nope i do not think you are jaded... just wrong. that is exactly the reason for coffee dates. for you to discover if you are with your next lover or just another prick. now i understand in this instant world that anything over ninety seconds seems like a lifetime...but sometimes you just have to drink a gigabyte of coffee before you find it. there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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7/15/2020 5:47 am |
Yup.....they just need a vessel for the appendage. They have bought the ' sex site ' hype.......and wanna hit it and quit it. They dont care abt conversation , they dont care abt putting anyone at ease.....they dont care abt emotions or connecting. Thats why there is a diff between having sex and making love. Many just need the slam bam thankyou and out the door. Its all abt the vessel. You need to decide if you want to be objectified as this ...or not . I think here is a place for many types of need......just hang in there ...decide and find those which match your need. Good luck ~~ but butt as you sit across his lust what is on your mind... is it his fire you seek to quench. or is it the burning between your legs you need pounded out. truth be told a male in need only cums in a woman in heat, or the one night stand would be but a myth.  there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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That situation is a hooker experience. Do it, pay her and go. So many here just don’t get it. The way to a woman’s bed is engaging her like she matters. Even if it is not love, as long as she feels admired. Before internet, the old fashion way was how it was done.
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That situation is a hooker experience. Do it, pay her and go. So many here just don’t get it. The way to a woman’s bed is engaging her like she matters. Even if it is not love, as long as she feels admired. Before internet, the old fashion way was how it was done.
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Ah, ye cannae beat a guid auld blether McNerd. It's how we get to know each other........ I have to confess that I very quickly lose interest in a girl if the conversation isn't engaging. Physical gratification on its own isn't enough. Hey, I must be getting older and grumpier!
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In some respects ; The days of face too face verbal conversation is DYING !!! More so with the current state of affairs !! I've seen couples sitting at a table ; young and old alike ; with phones held in front of them and appear to be TEXTING too each other !!! I guess that may be okay if it is a conversation that you don't care to be overheard !!!
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I hear you. But it didn't always be like that. I met my best friend on here, plus many other good friends where the conversation was great. I'm not looking for love. But the first step to really great sex is mental stimulation, at least for me. Maybe you're right and the era of conversation is dead.
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I know exactly what you mean. Just before meeting my wife I was trying to engage with other women and I thought I was looking for no strings- or limited strings- attached. But it began to dawn on e that what I really wanted was someone I could talk to. I don't like to refer to the sex as secondary, but it kind of is in that if you find someone you connect with, the sex is most likely gonna be good. Satisfying. And when you love someone it can appear perfunctory when described to someone outside the relationship but it's far from perfunctory or boring when you care deeply for your partner. Every day it feels as if I found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
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99.999% have bought the hype the rest are crusaders marching with their purest thoughts before them, with the intent of converting the lost to the light. but butt as you sit across his lust what is on your mind... is it his fire you seek to quench. or is it the burning between your legs you need pounded out. truth be told a male in need only cums in a woman in heat, or the one night stand would be but a myth. ......and that pounding stuff.. nah....i ll pass~~
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People both young and old don't seem to realize how far a conversation or should I say.. conversations will get you. Many times a supposedly conversation is one sided and the other person has no clue as to what is being said to them. I'm a person that even in a sexual friendship love to hear what a person has to say.. gives me much more insight as to what they enjoy and are looking for. Foreplay begins in the conversation.
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7/16/2020 12:34 am |
Those males in need need to locate those women in heat . Sounds like a perfect match. The others who are more discerning will wait. The original poster sounds like she could, if she wanted to, get her heat quenched.....she is asking for a bit more... ......and that pounding stuff.. nah....i ll pass~~ just as i would not go to McDonnald's for a fine stake, i would not go to AdultFriendFinder for true love. As i myself lean more to love rather than i quick fuck... i tend to stick to the forums. i do enjoy the chatter bonne chance there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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7/16/2020 3:32 am |
You have one of the best blogs on here. Keep up the good work. I struggle often with this site and what is on here. I guess in the end I'm kind of looking for someone to talk to - even if it's only to say I had a crappy day, or that I'm in a good mood. I think the whole mindset of 'instant gratification' has definitely set in on here. I try to steer my kids away from that, but have to be careful not to get caught up in it myself. I'm considered essential (railroad job - hence the screen name - have to keep explaining that it has no sexual connotation - LO  . At work we have had to deal with corona head on. I was out 2 weeks in May with it - was never too sick, but other were not so fortunate.Anyways, seems like I'm just rambling - see I needed to talk after all. Take care.
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1 post 7/23/2020 9:11 pm |
We agree we would rather sit and converse first maybe have a drink or two to lighten the mood and get to know each other
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It is the ubiquitous "...what'cha doin now ? " syndrom Probably having to do with a certain atrophy on the muscles, hence the one handed typing on the keyboard ...  And you know my lady, that symptom creeps into real life ... Keep the lost art of eloquence alive, and ... Cheers - P
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Maybe folks don't want to talk in general on a real level. coz y'know there's a lot of heavy on the head and people in general don't really have too good a grip on it at all, do they? Even the most glib and eloquent wordsmith might not actually have anything conversation worthy to say. In fact if they do they're likely bullshitting since they're all fucking crazy out there, love.
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Boy oh boy do we live in two different worlds down here you have to talk and talk and talk some more just to get a phone number that when you call does not answer leave your name and number and I will get back to you . At the beep leave a message . Well damn almighty you have to pour your heart and soul out in a twenty second recording . Now remember you are not sure what you were going to say in the first place . It's stage fright I tell you I get all tongue tied and forget my call back number not only that I forget just who I called in the first place especially if they say something like . " Hi this is Elizabeth Sally Ann have a blessed day and leave me a message and you have a wonderful and a blessed day " Well doggone and hope to spit in the wind . Now I don't know if she wants to save my soul or fuck me dry till my eyeballs dry up and turn to dust .. not to mention my poor old dick all raw and red and sore as that elusive potato bug . You just never know so I admit I get straight to the point and leave a message that sounds along the lines of " Well well I just called to tell you , if you really want to know I can talk and talk as well as I dance and I can dance to make that closest dick sucker John Travola look like a fool in his fancy go to town tight britches with those sparks coming from his high heel shoes . Me personally I wear Justin work boots if I put a little polish on them I can make them shine so be sure and wear a dress without panties so I can see the refection of your monkey when we dance the light fandango. Of course by the time I get that out the recording has stopped .
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"Mental stimulation" is least important. If there is no physical stimulation [turned on by what you see], nothings gonna happen. So , physical stimulation first, mental stimulation [if at all really needed] last. The second thing to ponder is , was he good enough to get together for a second time.... if not, then walk away.
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