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When your sleepover date has no interest in "sleeping" with you....  

secret_lade 49F
14388 posts
11/24/2019 5:41 am
When your sleepover date has no interest in "sleeping" with you....


My gut, and especially my anxiety, tell me this is a bad sign.

Just stamp a giant L on my forehead cause I feel like a giant loser. Spent the entire night literally just.... sleeping. And, not even the good spooning type.

fwblook4unow 48M

1/20/2020 7:07 am

I would have loved to "sleep" with you....and I would have been in a perfect position to " spoon you"😁


justme51 72M

11/25/2019 4:42 am

What a shame of a wasted sleep over.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 7:04 pm

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    wow!!!

    you have too much patience secret_lade

    although, just because I have slept in the same bed with a woman, has not always culminated in sex, for various reasons

    and, none of them related to my desires

    when a woman says no, that is no, that may mean "never again" for me, because I'm a quick learner

    reminded me of this

    Hayley Kiyoko - "Sleepover"

    I don't wanna talk about it
    I don't wanna think about it
    I'm just feeling low, feeling low
    Even when you're next to me
    It's not the way I'm picturing
    I'm just feeling low, feeling low
    You wanna be friends forever
    I can think of something better,
    I'm just feeling low, feeling low
    Sleeping here right next to me,
    But will you ever mess with me? No.

    But at least I got you in my head, oh yeah
    At least I got you in my head, in my head,
    Sleepovers in my bed, oh yeah
    At least I got you in my head, in my head
    In my head
    In my head
You have a song for everything.... How does one person know so much music?


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
11/24/2019 3:51 pm

wow!!!

you have too much patience secret_lade

although, just because I have slept in the same bed with a woman, has not always culminated in sex, for various reasons

and, none of them related to my desires

when a woman says no, that is no, that may mean "never again" for me, because I'm a quick learner

reminded me of this

Hayley Kiyoko - "Sleepover"

I don't wanna talk about it
I don't wanna think about it
I'm just feeling low, feeling low
Even when you're next to me
It's not the way I'm picturing
I'm just feeling low, feeling low
You wanna be friends forever
I can think of something better,
I'm just feeling low, feeling low
Sleeping here right next to me,
But will you ever mess with me? No.

But at least I got you in my head, oh yeah
At least I got you in my head, in my head,
Sleepovers in my bed, oh yeah
At least I got you in my head, in my head
In my head
In my head

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secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 12:27 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    What I would tell myself.....he is not attracted to me or he can’t perform.
    If he sees me as just a friend, he could of slept in the guest bedroom. If he was too tired or too drunk, the next morning would be a good time. Can’t beat morning sex. If he left without anything, then he is not into it.
    If a man is in my bed, he can go for it or hit the bricks.
He did leave without anything.... It was nice just to relax and watch a few movies, though. I enjoyed the company, at least.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 12:22 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I love Ozark! Can't wait for the 3rd season! Got a major crush on Laura Linney!
I've always had a thing for Jason Bateman, myself. Lol


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 12:22 pm

    Quoting seems6666:
    I'm not sure how I would have dealt with this... was it your first night together?
    That's quite an odd thing to do... If he had spooned you and cuddled you and went to sleep,, I would have slightly understood and maybe been a bit flattered or put out... I don't know
Not the first time together.... I'm just going to have to wait and see what happens.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 12:18 pm

    Quoting Teyjj:
    I did that once. I didn't want to just sleep but, at the same time I didn't want to make a move, be rebuffed, and then not be invited back because I crossed the boundaries or could not be trusted.
    And that wasn't just a cross-town visit. And I did lose my place in the "line", never to be recalled!

    Sometimes the signs are hard to read for a guy.
I agree, sometimes signals are hard to read.... for the girl too.


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
11/24/2019 11:13 am

What I would tell myself.....he is not attracted to me or he can’t perform.
If he sees me as just a friend, he could of slept in the guest bedroom. If he was too tired or too drunk, the next morning would be a good time. Can’t beat morning sex. If he left without anything, then he is not into it.
If a man is in my bed, he can go for it or hit the bricks.


mc_justmc 63M

11/24/2019 10:24 am

I love Ozark! Can't wait for the 3rd season! Got a major crush on Laura Linney!


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
11/24/2019 9:59 am

I'm not sure how I would have dealt with this... was it your first night together?
That's quite an odd thing to do... If he had spooned you and cuddled you and went to sleep,, I would have slightly understood and maybe been a bit flattered or put out... I don't know


Teyjj 56M
4122 posts
11/24/2019 8:38 am

I did that once. I didn't want to just sleep but, at the same time I didn't want to make a move, be rebuffed, and then not be invited back because I crossed the boundaries or could not be trusted.
And that wasn't just a cross-town visit. And I did lose my place in the "line", never to be recalled!

Sometimes the signs are hard to read for a guy.


Teyjj 56M
4122 posts
11/24/2019 8:36 am

I did that once. I didn't want to just sleep but, at the same time I didn't want to make a move, be rebuffed, and then not be invited back because I crossed the boundaries or could not be trusted.

Sometimes the signs are hard to read for a guy.


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
11/24/2019 8:09 am

Maybe this was just a test.A test of the urgency how fast sex him!

Or maybe it was the mixed message system.It wouldn't hurt to ask
before you pour over all the negative possibilities or at least
before you start seeing yourself in one of those freak show
circus mirrors!

Using more than all the road!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 7:21 am

    Quoting  :

A very wise suggestion.... I think you are right. I tend to internalize everything, when I should not.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 6:49 am

    Quoting 6inchjoey:
    awwww sounds like you need real cuddles but least you got a good sleep
I did get a pretty decent sleep. There are times when I miss sleeping next to someone....


6inchjoey 54M

11/24/2019 6:46 am

awwww sounds like you need real cuddles but least you got a good sleep


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 6:45 am

    Quoting  :

Yep...


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/24/2019 6:19 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Ya had a sleepover? 🤔 Really?
    Dja serve chocolate chip cookies 🥠 and milk 🥛?
    So... THEN what happened? 💦 🔥 😶
I did, and no cookies. We watched Ozark.... in bed.... lights off. I snuggled up to him at one point, put my arm around him, said I was bored with Ozark. No interest.... so, I rolled over and fell asleep. This guy is the reason I had socks in my purse.....


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
11/24/2019 6:10 am

Ya had a sleepover? 🤔 Really?
Dja serve chocolate chip cookies 🥠 and milk 🥛?
So... THEN what happened? 💦 🔥 😶


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