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How was my day?
How was my day? Kinda terrible. If there was an award for Scum Mom of the Year, I think I've probably earned it. I received an explanation of benefits from my insurance company the other day for appointments that I was certain were not my sons. I even verified with him that he had NOT seen a doctor while at his Dad's house. I never took him to the doctor..... There was most certainly fraud afoot! After calling my insurance company and 3 hospitals to find out where the mistake was made, he finally admitted today that he had been seeing a psychologist at the wellness clinic in his school. His dad and I just looked at each other. Dad - Well, we know what's going on now. Me - Why didn't you tell me?? Do you know how many phone calls I've made about this? - It's hard for me to talk about this stuff. Dad - It says psych evaluation. What are they doing? - I'm having a hard time opening up to people, I wanted to talk to someone about it. My heart sank when I heard that. He's always been so secretive, I hurt at the thought that my own can't talk to me. I ended up telling him I understood, I wished that he had just been honest with me, but if this was something he needed, he should continue seeing the psychologist. I feel as though I've let him down. In other news today.... Boss #1 and Boss #2 have recently started parenting my interactions with Nose Hairs. It's kind of weird, I've got to be honest. When Nose Hairs stopped by my office to ask for a report this morning Boss #1 made his presence known by sliding my window open and standing in it. Apparently they don't feel he's being on the up-and-up with his interactions with me. This should be interesting. |
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Maybe he is seeing the psychologist because of you. Or, maybe he thinks he is seeing the psychologist because of you. Or maybe the whole thing has nothing to do with you. ???? Here's what I would suggest. Since it could be one of many scenario cases that are the problem, and since you don't know more than you do know at this point. Assume good things. Assume it has nothing - if nothing else, nothing in reality to do with you. Like I said before, I know how easy it is to automatically blame ourselves for everything that goes wrong with our kids. There is always something to feel guilty about. But in the end, beating ourselves up does no one any good at all. One last thought . . .If there is a way that you can find out more about what is happening at school, with the physiologist, that could be helpful. I wish you and your family well.
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Wow. That stuff with your son is heavy. You taught him something though. To have the strength of character to seek help - when he needed it. Some... would completely disappear. You know what I mean?
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Your son didn't tell you because he has a hard time opening up to people (including you) and he's seeking help (on his own) to rectify the problem. I'd be happy to know that my son is mature enough to not only see the problem, but taking the initiative to fix the problem. You didn't let him down, you did a hell of a job raising him. Good for you! How old is he?
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I admire him for going there. So many kids don’t and it can lead to a lot of problems. He is smart enough to know to find some help.
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you know...i get it...there were lot of things i could not tell my parents, when i was younger...as i knew if i told them, i know i would make them sad...and make them worry about me....both my parents are gone now, so they have never had a chance to hear, i never told them...it was always more comfortable for me to talk to professionals...you know...cus they are not related to me, so i told them, about my problems, my burdens, so i can clear my mind without worrying about anything else...maybe your son, might be feeling like that... don't blame on yourself...it's not your fault...maybe he might open up more and talk to you about his burdens...maybe not, just like me...but i can assure you, you are always his mother, and he knows you are special...
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. Thank you Part of me is worried that he's seeing the psychologist because of me. Here's what I would suggest. Since it could be one of many scenario cases that are the problem, and since you don't know more than you do know at this point. Assume good things. Assume it has nothing - if nothing else, nothing in reality to do with you. Like I said before, I know how easy it is to automatically blame ourselves for everything that goes wrong with our kids. There is always something to feel guilty about. But in the end, beating ourselves up does no one any good at all. One last thought . . .If there is a way that you can find out more about what is happening at school, with the physiologist, that could be helpful. I wish you and your family well. Anything done half-heartedly will net you an equivalent result. ~CH
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I can understand your feelings. I would probably blame myself too if it were me. But you know, this a scum mom does not make! Sometimes it is hardest to open up and talk with the ones we are closest to. Don't be so quick to beat yourself with the bad mom bat. I think you should go to McDonald's - Because, you deserve a break today! Part of me is worried that he's seeing the psychologist because of me.
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Seems to me that you're being hard on yourself there McLade?? Weans have a way of hiding things........ Sounds like #1 and #2 are really good people to work for!
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Wow. That stuff with your son is heavy. You taught him something though. To have the strength of character to seek help - when he needed it. Some... would completely disappear. You know what I mean? ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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12/12/2019 6:51 pm |
Your son didn't tell you because he has a hard time opening up to people (including you) and he's seeking help (on his own) to rectify the problem. I'd be happy to know that my son is mature enough to not only see the problem, but taking the initiative to fix the problem. You didn't let him down, you did a hell of a job raising him. Good for you! How old is he?
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I admire him for going there. So many kids don’t and it can lead to a lot of problems. He is smart enough to know to find some help.
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you know...i get it...there were lot of things i could not tell my parents, when i was younger...as i knew if i told them, i know i would make them sad...and make them worry about me....both my parents are gone now, so they have never had a chance to hear, i never told them...it was always more comfortable for me to talk to professionals...you know...cus they are not related to me, so i told them, about my problems, my burdens, so i can clear my mind without worrying about anything else...maybe your son, might be feeling like that... don't blame on yourself...it's not your fault...maybe he might open up more and talk to you about his burdens...maybe not, just like me...but i can assure you, you are always his mother, and he knows you are special...
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I can understand your feelings. I would probably blame myself too if it were me. But you know, this a scum mom does not make! Sometimes it is hardest to open up and talk with the ones we are closest to. Don't be so quick to beat yourself with the bad mom bat. I think you should go to McDonald's - Because, you deserve a break today! Anything done half-heartedly will net you an equivalent result. ~CH
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Seems to me that you're being hard on yourself there McLade?? Weans have a way of hiding things........ Sounds like #1 and #2 are really good people to work for!
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