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BTW, not even remotely funny.  

secret_lade 49F
14127 posts
4/25/2020 1:12 pm
BTW, not even remotely funny.


Have you ever unintentionally offended someone as a result of something you said?

When you are having a conversation with someone online, it is so easily done.

Especially if you are like me, socially awkward and kind of bumbling through life most of the time anyway.

I say things I probably shouldn't say, I laugh at inappropriate moments, and wind up doing things that are just plain embarrassing.

If it can be spilled down the front of my shirt, it's there!

If it's within a foot radius and I can trip on it, you better BET I'm tripping!

If I can make an awkward moment THAT much more awkward by laughing, you KNOW I'm going bust out laughing!

The online element only adds another level how wrong something can go so easily.

Having a bad day? You will take my comment as negative as you can!

Feeling a little sensitive about something that you've kept secret but I've somehow managed pick that scab? I'm going be the scourge of the earth!!

I point out a little humor in a photo I've been sent and suddenly I'm the most terrible person on earth!!!

Forget it!

The most unholy of blasphemes....

Someone chop OFF my fingers and never allow me to communicate via internet again!

It's for my own good....

Maybe I'm destined to live out my days with Nose Hairs in one of those tiny fricking<b> houses </font></b>he keeps showing me on his phone. I'm not quite sure where he got the idea that I wanted to live in a tiny house....

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
5/5/2020 1:52 am

    Quoting InnateDesire:
    LOL. As inappropriate as it may be, LOL. Goober girl... I'm not laughing at you. I'm laughing with you. I'm that awkward guy. Ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you, "he's not right in his mind." However, those same people will help me with anything. 🥁 Bang your drum!
It's good to know I'm not the only one out there!


InnateDesire 62M
92 posts
5/4/2020 8:05 pm

LOL. As inappropriate as it may be, LOL. Goober girl... I'm not laughing at you. I'm laughing with you. I'm that awkward guy. Ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you, "he's not right in his mind." However, those same people will help me with anything. 🥁 Bang your drum!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/29/2020 12:12 am

    Quoting  :

I have noticed.... Everyone is quick to jump on a bandwagon and publicly chastise you for the slightest misspeak.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/26/2020 3:45 am

    Quoting  :

I do it way more often than I want to... People always want to read into things.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/26/2020 3:43 am

    Quoting clittywhisperer1:
    I am sarcasticlese. My language use and understanding of alternative or obtuse connections gets me in lots of trouble with overly emotion based low self esteem folks who are on a different tone level .It is not the sender but the reciever who gives a message meaning ,often a wrong one due to self inflicted assumptions and unstated intentions in their own head from their unbalanced mind .I'm ok ,you i am not so sure lol. I learned not to let others irrational thinking effect me at all . my new covid t shirt idea was .... don't make me get the pillow.
I think he had felt a little upset with me to begin with... I wasn't responding to his IM's. I don't really chat on here anymore, so it wasn't anything personal. Apparently it was personal to him.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 11:51 pm

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Yes,

    I do that all of the time

    but, here's the thing

    my grandfather told me, when I was very young, that if there was something that I needed to say to someone, that I might as well get it off my chest, because I might miss the opportunity

    so many times, it has been right on

    however, a few times, maybe, not so much

    stuff happens, let it go

    better to have lost at love than never to have loved at all

    hmm

    Flume - "Take A Chance"

    So you feel all your powers unfold
    Stretching your big wings over waters turning gold
    So tell your story, baby, don't give up
    Just let all it go out, the quiet wishing's not loud enough
    Will you be the one to take a chance?
    Have demands, spill your heart
    Will you be the one to take a stand
    Make the girls dance
    Spill your thoughts
    Will you be the one to take a chance?
    Have demands, spill your heart
    Will you be the one to take a stand
    Make the girls dance
    Spill your thoughts, will you?
    You could break up clouds with your fist in the air
    We're singing out loud as we march up the square
    He always goes to put you in your place
    And now you're chanting out loud so you can't be erased
I didn't love this guy.... Didn't actually know him. He didn't find me humorous at all... The title to my post are his exact words. For a lot of various reasons, my day today has been a complete bust. Ugh....


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/25/2020 8:33 pm

That's a good word... Sure! ❗👍🌹


clittywhisperer1 59M
1415 posts
4/25/2020 6:30 pm

I am sarcasticlese. My language use and understanding of alternative or obtuse connections gets me in lots of trouble with overly emotion based low self esteem folks who are on a different tone level .It is not the sender but the reciever who gives a message meaning ,often a wrong one due to self inflicted assumptions and unstated intentions in their own head from their unbalanced mind .I'm ok ,you i am not so sure lol. I learned not to let others irrational thinking effect me at all . my new covid t shirt idea was .... don't make me get the pillow.


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
4/25/2020 6:20 pm

Yes,

I do that all of the time

but, here's the thing

my grandfather told me, when I was very young, that if there was something that I needed to say to someone, that I might as well get it off my chest, because I might miss the opportunity

so many times, it has been right on

however, a few times, maybe, not so much

stuff happens, let it go

better to have lost at love than never to have loved at all

hmm

Flume - "Take A Chance"

So you feel all your powers unfold
Stretching your big wings over waters turning gold
So tell your story, baby, don't give up
Just let all it go out, the quiet wishing's not loud enough
Will you be the one to take a chance?
Have demands, spill your heart
Will you be the one to take a stand
Make the girls dance
Spill your thoughts
Will you be the one to take a chance?
Have demands, spill your heart
Will you be the one to take a stand
Make the girls dance
Spill your thoughts, will you?
You could break up clouds with your fist in the air
We're singing out loud as we march up the square
He always goes to put you in your place
And now you're chanting out loud so you can't be erased

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secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 5:27 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you... I'm glad to hear that. I'm kind of hardwired to be sarcastic and funny, it's hard for me not to be.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 5:25 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I've offended people in text messages as well as online, it's hard to gauge emotion in print.
Some people are just overly sensitive.... too.


mc_justmc 63M

4/25/2020 5:10 pm

I've offended people in text messages as well as online, it's hard to gauge emotion in print.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 5:01 pm

    Quoting wanna4playU:
    lol, I find that being on here while drinking some beers has a way of making me say things I normally would not! at the time I think it is making me braver, but in reality it makes me think I have been blocked by many on here lol
Im drinking, and commenting right now. I'll have to monitor whether or not I get blocked by anyone. Lol


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 4:59 pm

    Quoting tickles4us:
    misunderstandings, the things that keep life interesting...sometimes. Lol The predictive spelling or whatever they call it on these cell phones are a pain at times and can make even an innocent enough text into a mess. Sarcasm and humor are difficult to get through in print sometimes. Then trying to interpret the reply when you realize the message you sent could be read in ways you didn't intend...

    I was surprised how many selfies I see from women in bathrooms on dating sites. Especially when I've seen so many women bitching about mens pictures being taken in bathrooms public and private for both. I guess those mirrors are too tempting for some people.
Do people not own mirrors in their bedrooms anymore? I'm kind of baffled.... this guy got really, really mad at me. I totally didn't mean to offend him, if he'd read my blog ever, he would have known it was sarcastic humor.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 4:55 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    It would seem to be.
    He's married to that girl with her back to us.
    They sort of kept their distance... but?
    Can you see how messed up that might have been?
    It's her sister.
    So... I think... he THINKS he's built up an immunity?

    Yeah... Bathroom pics are.... less than good. 👍
Safe word is red, btw.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 4:52 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    Lol....You're right about the guy selfies! I've seen lots of them, both naked and clothed, that are taken in a public restroom. If someone gets offended over something like that being pointed out, they possibly need to realize there are worse things that could happen to them.
My thoughts exactly. There is one I see on here all the time, someone who lives near me, and his photo is literally his erect cock with only a toilet bowl in the background. Couldn't be any more unsexy if he tried.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 4:48 pm

    Quoting stoneleighman1:
    Why would anyone want to throw rotten fruit at you? We all make the occasional gaffe, and online comms deprive us of the other signals we unconsciously use to put someone's words or actions into context. Keep well and stay safe.
It was a funny... because I'm in the stocks. Midevil times.... but, thank you, you stay safe as well.


wanna4playU 56M  
265 posts
4/25/2020 4:02 pm

lol, I find that being on here while drinking some beers has a way of making me say things I normally would not! at the time I think it is making me braver, but in reality it makes me think I have been blocked by many on here lol


tickles4us 62M
7262 posts
4/25/2020 3:51 pm

misunderstandings, the things that keep life interesting...sometimes. Lol The predictive spelling or whatever they call it on these cell phones are a pain at times and can make even an innocent enough text into a mess. Sarcasm and humor are difficult to get through in print sometimes. Then trying to interpret the reply when you realize the message you sent could be read in ways you didn't intend...

I was surprised how many selfies I see from women in bathrooms on dating sites. Especially when I've seen so many women bitching about mens pictures being taken in bathrooms public and private for both. I guess those mirrors are too tempting for some people.

Vive La Difference


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/25/2020 3:19 pm

It would seem to be.
He's married to that girl with her back to us.
They sort of kept their distance... but?
Can you see how messed up that might have been?
It's her sister.
So... I think... he THINKS he's built up an immunity?

Yeah... Bathroom pics are.... less than good. 👍


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
4/25/2020 3:08 pm

Lol....You're right about the guy selfies! I've seen lots of them, both naked and clothed, that are taken in a public restroom. If someone gets offended over something like that being pointed out, they possibly need to realize there are worse things that could happen to them.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 2:50 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Most terrible person on Earth 🌎?
    I doubt it.
    Most terrible person resting in your head?
    THAT'S, your call.

    Nah... I'd stop with the self recriminations and just chill.
    Otherwise... you'll go crazy 🤪.
    Cheers 🍷 🍷 😎 ❗
    It's all good. ❤️

    That pic...? Everyone has a story to share. 🌹
It might be just me.... But I find bathroom selfies poor taste. Nothing says "Feeling cute, might take a piss" quite like a photo of someone with a toilet in the back ground. Better yet, an instructional on proper hand washing to the right of the mirror.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 2:46 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Nah...
    I wouldn't worry about it.
    Life is short.

    Here's where I was this afternoon. Life... is about measuring boundaries isn't it?
    Measure yours with diligence. It's all good.

    Here's what I was watching. Lurking in REAL life is FUN.
    🍷🍷😎❗
WTF?! Four parking spaces.... What an asshat. Is that some kind of a redneck social distance date?


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 2:44 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    I find that I can get into trouble with text on the phone, sometimes I don't type it properly, sometimes the phone just says what it wants to, and sometimes I read it wrong and answer before I realize I read it wrong, my texting can go down hill in a heartbeat.. I guess it could be that way on some of the site provided chat pages..

    We all got some of this to different levels, have a nice day, be safe..
Been there, done that too.... LOL


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 2:42 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    So now you leave us hanging on what you said. We all need to learn.
In case you're wondering.... I pointed out that most guy selfies are taken in a public restroom, at least the ones that get shared with me here, in this venue.

Put me in the stocks and chuck some rotten produce at me, I say!


stoneleighman1 65M
69 posts
4/25/2020 2:37 pm

Why would anyone want to throw rotten fruit at you? We all make the occasional gaffe, and online comms deprive us of the other signals we unconsciously use to put someone's words or actions into context. Keep well and stay safe.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/25/2020 2:34 pm

Most terrible person on Earth 🌎?
I doubt it.
Most terrible person resting in your head?
THAT'S, your call.

Nah... I'd stop with the self recriminations and just chill.
Otherwise... you'll go crazy 🤪.
Cheers 🍷 🍷 😎 ❗
It's all good. ❤️

That pic...? Everyone has a story to share. 🌹


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/25/2020 2:28 pm

Nah...
I wouldn't worry about it.
Life is short.

Here's where I was this afternoon. Life... is about measuring boundaries isn't it?
Measure yours with diligence. It's all good.

Here's what I was watching. Lurking in REAL life is FUN.
🍷🍷😎❗


lonlyforlove2 81M
32704 posts
4/25/2020 2:22 pm

I find that I can get into trouble with text on the phone, sometimes I don't type it properly, sometimes the phone just says what it wants to, and sometimes I read it wrong and answer before I realize I read it wrong, my texting can go down hill in a heartbeat.. I guess it could be that way on some of the site provided chat pages..

We all got some of this to different levels, have a nice day, be safe..

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
4/25/2020 2:21 pm

So now you leave us hanging on what you said. We all need to learn.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
4/25/2020 1:17 pm

Have you ever unintentionally offended someone as a result of something you said?

When you are having a conversation with someone online, it is so easily done.

Especially if you are like me, socially awkward and kind of bumbling through life most of the time anyway.

I say things I probably shouldn't say, I laugh at inappropriate moments, and wind up doing things that are just plain embarrassing.

If it can be spilled down the front of my shirt, it's there!

If it's within a 10 foot radius and I can trip on it, you better BET I'm tripping!

If I can make an awkward moment THAT much more awkward by laughing, you KNOW I'm going to bust out laughing!

The online element only adds another level to how wrong something can go so easily.

Having a bad day? You will take my comment as negative as you can!

Feeling a little sensitive about something that you've kept secret but I've somehow managed to pick that scab? I'm going to be the scourge of the earth!!

I point out a little humor in a photo I've been sent and suddenly I'm the most terrible person on earth!!!

Forget it!

The most unholy of blasphemes....

Someone chop OFF my fingers and never allow me to communicate via internet again!

It's for my own good....

Maybe I'm destined to live out my days with Nose Hairs in one of those tiny fricking houses he keeps showing me on his phone. I'm not quite sure where he got the idea that I wanted to live in a tiny house....


In case you're wondering.... I pointed out that most guy selfies are taken in a public restroom, at least the ones that get shared with me here, in this venue.

Put me in the stocks and chuck some rotten produce at me, I say!


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