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Honesty is a must.  

secret_lade 49F
14097 posts
8/16/2020 6:19 pm
Honesty is a must.


I've seen this before in messages and profiles....

Anonymous screen names with limited profile information that preach the necessity of honesty and discretion.

Hmmm.... Honesty, you say. So, let's be honest.

I honestly think, when I see this in a profile, the<b> owner </font></b>of this profile will never have the balls actually meet anyone from the site. The<b> owner </font></b>of this profile is in fact married, but my guess is, he hasn't been honest with his wife and she has no idea he's out there, secretly hoping find enough courage meet a woman online for the sole purpose of fucking her.

I could be wrong.... but, I honestly don't think so

I was a little surprised when I checked my messages today and found one from a female screen name that was unfamiliar to me.

Women don't normally message me..... Unless it's about my blog.

Thinking it was probably a comment about one of my blog posts, I opened it up and read through it.

It was supposedly from a guy who was using his friend's "account" to find a friend. He had gone into detail about how he was looking for someone honest and it was a must for any future relationship.

Really....

The guy using someone else's profile to send messages has an honesty ultimatum.

Uh, yah. Good luck with that!

Happy Sunday.

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:42 pm

    Quoting  :

"So this honest but discrete person used a second female account to reach out to you. I just eye-rolled, hand-to-face emoji. What a tool."

I agree 100%!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:39 pm

    Quoting  :

If they aren't putting any details out there, they'd better be a chatty cathy if they're expecting to meet someone. I have had lengthy conversations with guys who had limited info in their profiles and found they shared a lot more one on one. This is rarely the case, though....


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:35 pm

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    Statements like that make me think that they're trying to put you on the defensive by making you think "but I AM an honest person." Then they probably won't have to worry about you accusing them of being dishonest. It's preemptive.
I agree. This stuff is lost on me, though. If a guy isn't willing to chat and share a few details about himself before hand, he isn't right for me. I'll keep moving on.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:29 pm

    Quoting  :

Yep! All it takes is one....


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:28 pm

    Quoting  :

I don't think I'd want to lend out my profile, I'm a little selfish. That would make me an in-between, and, I just wouldn't like it. Either that or I would have to give him access to my profile as well, and, I wouldn't like that either.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:26 pm

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I honestly think you're right.

    *insert face-palm meme here *
    (I'd do it myself but standards can't put pictures in comments)
I hate the way they've stripped the standards down to nothing on here.... This time around I chose to remain standard.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:20 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    If I just see just one or two lines written on a profile I tend to pass by. They need to be more open and honest.
I look at the content on profiles too.... Usually if the info is sparse and limited, there's a reason.


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
8/17/2020 1:00 pm

If I just see just one or two lines written on a profile I tend to pass by. They need to be more open and honest.


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
8/17/2020 7:17 am

I honestly think you're right.

*insert face-palm meme here *
(I'd do it myself but standards can't put pictures in comments)

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
8/17/2020 6:03 am

Statements like that make me think that they're trying to put you on the defensive by making you think "but I AM an honest person." Then they probably won't have to worry about you accusing them of being dishonest. It's preemptive.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:55 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    Dishonesty and confusion are in abundance on this site...
    The quality of people has declined over the past several years, one must weed thru acres of weeds to get to anything substantial. A sad state of affairs ~~
You are 100% spot on, the quality has declined. I blame it on marketing. In 2005, when I created my first profile, they marketed the site as a place to meet Adult Friends, and it truly was. Now I see ads that say 'get laid tonight'.... So men come here expecting just that.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 3:49 am

    Quoting srkaficionada:
    My dander goes up when they don’t put anything in the marital status section. 😒😒
I automatically assume that to be married and trying to play the field. I avoid those guys.


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
8/17/2020 3:27 am

I love the profiles that insist on honesty and discretion! OK...not really. I get the honesty part. But when it's coupled with discretion it immediately makes me wonder what he's hiding. I understand keeping your private life private. But when someone insists on discretion, my first thought is he's married or attached and hiding his activity from his wife or gf. If that's not the case, he better have a good explanation for why discretion is so important.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 2:34 am

When it comes to that stuff, I just pass on it. I never liked that movie, either. LOL


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 2:32 am

    Quoting dogslife2live01:
    yup! seen many of them honesty signs... mostly from 36 year old,white porn stars from ghana that say "age is just a number"

You men have it way worse than we females do... I feel for ya.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 2:31 am

    Quoting jolielaide:
    using someone else's profileyea, i don't really see the logic in doing that. be an adult and make your own. it's like, the couple that splits but then the guy, typically, is the one that keeps on using the profile as a couple. NOT KOSHER.

    or the person lists their location but the moment you decline because logistically they are just too far away, they tell you that they're actually closer in the next county (or something). really? well, now i don't know what to believe so the answer is still gonna be no.

    congratulations, you played yourself!
My first question was.... Why aren't you hooking up with the 'friend' who has the profile you are using? And, who lets someone else use their profile?? A friend will help you set up your own.... Don't even get me started on the distance thing. Or age!! There is a man on here who has sent me several messages, and each time his age is different. After about the third message with a different age on his profile I finally responded back and asked what his real age was because I'd seen 46, 42, and 40. He said 50, and I still think Lies!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 2:23 am

    Quoting Kamfun2020:
    Post 4339620
    Well I’m real. I’m get verified shortly and then go through the process. ID and all that... it’s a bit of a pain but I’ve been on here before so hope it’s the same. The honesty these days for me comes to if both parties want to play and have fun after then they should be able to move forward without being jealous. Maybe my ex is on here but oh well. Also personal opinion here: with all the apps out there to explore in the open or not I think being honest and not hiding is the way of a lot of relationships.
I do think honesty is essential, no matter the type of relationship. If people take the time to get to know each other, they can usually uncover whether or not someone is being honest. On here, though, I tend to find it's the dishonest people who put such an emphasis on 'honesty'. It's because they know all their tricks they've used to be.... dishonest.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
8/17/2020 2:22 am

Dishonesty and confusion are in abundance on this site...
The quality of people has declined over the past several years, one must weed thru acres of weeds to get to anything substantial. A sad state of affairs ~~


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 2:18 am

    Quoting LadiesR2B1rst:
    I put honesty is great on my profile after meeting a young lady that was falling down drunk when I met her. I left it on my profile because I still believe there are a few honest ladies out there . But, I can see your point of view also. All the best !
I can tell from your profile pic, that you are probably a very open and honest person, and to look for someone who embodies the same qualities as yourself, I can completely get behind and understand. All the best to you too!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
8/17/2020 2:13 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Yep, I agree. That don't sound right.
Not right at all.... I think that, if you are looking for and asking for honesty, you should be honest as well.


srkaficionada 70F

8/17/2020 1:23 am

My dander goes up when they don’t put anything in the marital status section. 😒😒


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
8/17/2020 1:13 am

True lies?


dogslife2live01 71M

8/17/2020 12:22 am

yup! seen many of them honesty signs... mostly from 36 year old,white porn stars from ghana that say "age is just a number"


there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


jolielaide 52F  
1754 posts
8/17/2020 12:03 am

using someone else's profileyea, i don't really see the logic in doing that. be an adult and make your own. it's like, the couple that splits but then the guy, typically, is the one that keeps on using the profile as a couple. NOT KOSHER.

or the person lists their location but the moment you decline because logistically they are just too far away, they tell you that they're actually closer in the next county (or something). really? well, now i don't know what to believe so the answer is still gonna be no.

congratulations, you played yourself!


Kamfun2020 44M

8/16/2020 10:40 pm

Post 4339620
Well I’m real. I’m get verified shortly and then go through the process. ID and all that... it’s a bit of a pain but I’ve been on here before so hope it’s the same. The honesty these days for me comes to if both parties want to play and have fun after then they should be able to move forward without being jealous. Maybe my ex is on here but oh well. Also personal opinion here: with all the apps out there to explore in the open or not I think being honest and not hiding is the way of a lot of relationships.


LadiesR2B1rst 60M  
2735 posts
8/16/2020 10:03 pm

I put honesty is great on my profile after meeting a young lady that was falling down drunk when I met her. I left it on my profile because I still believe there are a few honest ladies out there . But, I can see your point of view also. All the best !


mc_justmc 63M

8/16/2020 6:58 pm

Yep, I agree. That don't sound right.


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