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What would happen if?  

secret_lade 49F
14389 posts
12/19/2020 5:24 pm
What would happen if?


Life is about choices...

Some good, some bad.

I'd like to think I was one of those people that always make the right choices....

Based on knowledge and experience, that don't leave you second guessing and feeling doubt.

Um, yah...

You've read enough of my blog posts to know that sometimes this is true, but sometimes I'm just a nitwit bumbling around through life.

I started my day yesterday by burning my tongue with hot coffee.

Bad choice #1

I hadn't slept well the night before and Thursday was kind of a long, emotionally draining day for me, so I was starting my day already exhausted.

Fantastic!

I breathed in the the fresh brewed aroma and immediately took a sip of my coffee.

The lasting effects of that decision still plague me.

I should have known this would be the precursor to the rest of my day, but at this point, I was choosing to see the positive side of things.

The KFC luncheon would soon tarnish THAT pipe dream....

I had vastly underestimated the amount of food people would consume and ended up way short on food.

Bad choice #2

After watching more than one employee grab a pot pie, a mashed potato bowl, and 2 sliders, I realized I worked with a bunch of fucking pigs.

Who eats that much food in one sitting???

Nobody does, that's who.

People were grabbing food to eat AND bring home with them.

Are you kidding me??

In a half hour span we went through 30 pot pies, 30 mashed potato bowls, and 30 sliders.

I ended up having to place another order for 30 more mashed potato bowls and 30 more sliders only to have them gone within a 45 minute span as well.

In a moment of weakness, I ended up venting to Nose Hairs about how I had gotten into it with the Wicked Bitch of the West over the luncheon and then had to ask her to go pick up MORE food for the employees.

Bad choice #3

Never vent to your coworkers about your real thoughts and feelings. Now they have leverage over you that they can keep concealed until it becomes useful to them at some point in their future.

Especially when you are venting about their boss...

He ended up being supportive and telling me not to worry about it, and I found myself looking up into his eyes while I was vehemently whispering to him that his boss a fucking bitch and thinking to myself, if he weren't my coworker and didn't have a live in girlfriend, I could really like this guy.

Bad choice #4

Stop those thoughts immediately.

When it comes to men, I'm a fucking moron. The bad choice meter is going out of control and the sound of bells dinging is deafening.....

Even my ex husband was a bad choice for me.

So, I ended up spending the night with Bad Choice #5.

It was a comfortable, familiar feeling.... Even though it's been a while since I had last seen him.

And, damn! I'd missed having sex!

The Downstairs Nightmares heard more than just my snoring last night....

But, alas, Bad Choice #5 really is just... a bad choice.

Aside from sex, he has no interest in me.

Even though I've lost hope, deep down, I really do still wish I could find that right partner in crime. Dare to dream...

topherific 61M
5209 posts
12/21/2020 9:10 pm

ok i'm jealous


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/21/2020 2:11 pm

I certainly hope so.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/21/2020 2:10 pm

    Quoting fwblook4unow:
    How was the sex Secret_lade? Did you trim your kitty before the sexual encounter?😘
Nope... Au Naturel. Fortunately, this particular gentleman "likes a little frosting on the cupcake." I can only grow a little, so, it works out perfectly.


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
12/21/2020 9:39 am

There's still hope for all of us


fwblook4unow 48M

12/21/2020 4:01 am

How was the sex Secret_lade? Did you trim your kitty before the sexual encounter?😘


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/21/2020 2:15 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Hmm...
    That's a lot of choices.
    KFC... THAT was a good one though.
    Didja make any good ones recently? 🤔
I'd like to think that I have...


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/21/2020 2:12 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Nope! I disagree quite firmly! The problem is not "slipping, not as cute, or as young". I think you have the same issue I have. We have grown into a type of jigsaw puzzle piece with the things we will and won't accept in a partner which makes finding a match very difficult. In our youth we could overlook bad qualities in a partner as long as they were attractive, always thinking our differences would shrink over time. Now we know better. And we will no longer tolerate that.
    pffffft!! "not as cute", I know better, and I've got proof in pictures.
I've given some thought to your comment.... And, you are 100% correct. We do now know better... Those bad qualities don't just go away or fix themselves and no amount of overlooking them can allow you to completely unsee them. So, we become particular....


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/21/2020 2:02 am

    Quoting KX450F2016:
    Sex? what is that? I have forgotten. In 10 more days I will have gone the entire year without it!!
That's a long time... After the birth of my first son, I was traumatized, in a way. I think back now and remember how upset my ex-husband would get with me, I'd refused to have sex with him for 2 years... Sex meant pregnancy and I just never wanted to go through that again. Everything eventually has a way of turning for the better... You just have to give it time.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/21/2020 1:51 am

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Sometimes bad choices in a day are like dominoes. Once that first one falls, all you can do is ride it out. As for the fifth choice, I’d say he was just a talking dildo. You needed that release and you chose to use him with no other expectation than gratification. Was it a mistake to choose him? Who really knows. All that matters is that it was your choice, right or wrong, and that’s a huge deal

    We all falter but as human beings we have the amazing capacity to overcome any obstacle. And hogging pot pies? That’s just plain wrong
I'd expected the employees to be bitching and complaining like crazy when we ran out of food... Not one person complained to me. I'd like to think it's because they know I'm always going out of my way for them and if sometimes things don't go as planned, it's not for lack of effort.


MrWrong4RghtNow 57M
2439 posts
12/20/2020 11:47 pm

Sometimes bad choices in a day are like dominoes. Once that first one falls, all you can do is ride it out. As for the fifth choice, I’d say he was just a talking dildo. You needed that release and you chose to use him with no other expectation than gratification. Was it a mistake to choose him? Who really knows. All that matters is that it was your choice, right or wrong, and that’s a huge deal

We all falter but as human beings we have the amazing capacity to overcome any obstacle. And hogging pot pies? That’s just plain wrong

My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment


KX450F2016 55M
193 posts
12/20/2020 4:36 pm

Sex? what is that? I have forgotten. In 10 more days I will have gone the entire year without it!!


mc_justmc 63M

12/20/2020 8:14 am

    Quoting secret_lade:
    I feel un-matchable.... This has never been an issue for me before. I'm slipping, I think, not as cute as I used to be, or young.
Nope! I disagree quite firmly! The problem is not "slipping, not as cute, or as young". I think you have the same issue I have. We have grown into a type of jigsaw puzzle piece with the things we will and won't accept in a partner which makes finding a match very difficult. In our youth we could overlook bad qualities in a partner as long as they were attractive, always thinking our differences would shrink over time. Now we know better. And we will no longer tolerate that.
pffffft!! "not as cute", I know better, and I've got proof in pictures.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
12/20/2020 7:17 am

Hmm...
That's a lot of choices.
KFC... THAT was a good one though.
Didja make any good ones recently? 🤔


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/20/2020 5:41 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    The people I work with make sure they get 2nds band 3rds and when my night crew comes in they usually find nothing when we have "spreads". It pisses me off. I know what you mean as far as trying and failing to find any kind of a match.
I feel un-matchable.... This has never been an issue for me before. I'm slipping, I think, not as cute as I used to be, or young.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/20/2020 5:28 am

    Quoting  :

I believe that! I knew Friday morning, the moment I got up, I needed to stay home and take an emotional support day.

But, because my job is stressful and I ALWAYS have a heavy load of responsibility and people relying on me, I could not. New hires can't onboard themselves, orientations can't facilitate themselves, and luncheons can't fall apart gracefully without help....

Every ounce of me, though, wanted to stay home.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/20/2020 5:22 am

    Quoting dogslife2live01:
    yup! i've had those days as well. sometimes you need a chicken leg
    sometimes you need a good fuck. sometimes you need both...
    and in the morning they you wake with regrets
    but as they say it ain't the mistakes that count... it is how we correct them that defines us
Friday, I needed both.... There was no doubt about that.


mc_justmc 63M

12/20/2020 5:10 am

The people I work with make sure they get 2nds band 3rds and when my night crew comes in they usually find nothing when we have "spreads". It pisses me off. I know what you mean as far as trying and failing to find any kind of a match.


dogslife2live01 71M

12/20/2020 1:13 am

yup! i've had those days as well. sometimes you need a chicken leg
sometimes you need a good fuck. sometimes you need both...
and in the morning they you wake with regrets
but as they say it ain't the mistakes that count... it is how we correct them that defines us

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2020 10:32 pm

    Quoting flannel_light:
    I have had day like that. Girl this guy I have been talking to for over a year wanted to come over this weekend and just like you I want that right partner and I told him no. I can't believe I did that but I stuck to my guns on it
That took a lot of willpower, good for you for sticking to your convictions.


flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
12/19/2020 9:28 pm

I have had day like that. Girl this guy I have been talking to for over a year wanted to come over this weekend and just like you I want that right partner and I told him no. I can't believe I did that but I stuck to my guns on it

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2020 5:25 pm

Life is about choices...

Some good, some bad.

I'd like to think I was one of those people that always make the right choices....

Based on knowledge and experience, that don't leave you second guessing and feeling doubt.

Um, yah...

You've read enough of my blog posts to know that sometimes this is true, but sometimes I'm just a nitwit bumbling around through life.

I started my day yesterday by burning my tongue with hot coffee.

Bad choice #1

I hadn't slept well the night before and Thursday was kind of a long, emotionally draining day for me, so I was starting my day already exhausted.

Fantastic!

I breathed in the the fresh brewed aroma and immediately took a sip of my coffee.

The lasting effects of that decision still plague me.

I should have known this would be the precursor to the rest of my day, but at this point, I was choosing to see the positive side of things.

The KFC luncheon would soon tarnish THAT pipe dream....

I had vastly underestimated the amount of food people would consume and ended up way short on food.

Bad choice #2

After watching more than one employee grab a pot pie, a mashed potato bowl, and 2 sliders, I realized I worked with a bunch of fucking pigs.

Who eats that much food in one sitting???

Nobody does, that's who.

People were grabbing food to eat AND bring home with them.

Are you kidding me??

In a half hour span we went through 30 pot pies, 30 mashed potato bowls, and 30 sliders.

I ended up having to place another order for 30 more mashed potato bowls and 30 more sliders only to have them gone within a 45 minute span as well.

In a moment of weakness, I ended up venting to Nose Hairs about how I had gotten into it with the Wicked Bitch of the West over the luncheon and then had to ask her to go pick up MORE food for the employees.

Bad choice #3

Never vent to your coworkers about your real thoughts and feelings. Now they have leverage over you that they can keep concealed until it becomes useful to them at some point in their future.

Especially when you are venting about their boss...

He ended up being supportive and telling me not to worry about it, and I found myself looking up into his eyes while I was vehemently whispering to him that his boss a fucking bitch and thinking to myself, if he weren't my coworker and didn't have a live in girlfriend, I could really like this guy.

Bad choice #4

Stop those thoughts immediately.

When it comes to men, I'm a fucking moron. The bad choice meter is going out of control and the sound of bells dinging is deafening.....

Even my ex husband was a bad choice for me.

So, I ended up spending the night with Bad Choice #5.

It was a comfortable, familiar feeling.... Even though it's been a while since I had last seen him.

And, damn! I'd missed having sex!

The Downstairs Nightmares heard more than just my snoring last night....

But, alas, Bad Choice #5 really is just... a bad choice.

Aside from sex, he has no interest in me.

Even though I've lost hope, deep down, I really do still wish I could find that right partner in crime. Dare to dream...


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