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I really don't have any answer to your question, but have to say I really like the new profile picture.
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1/7/2018 7:31 pm |
Wish I had a woman at my work like you. In response to question. He is associating sex with deeper stuff. Doesn't realise though. He wants it sucked but surely you must love him if your going to do that. Turn it around and ask for a good pussy eating from him.
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Eh, I never really understood saying anything like that. It's just another example of people trying to control something out of their control. Your brain doesn't make decisions for your heart. Saying something doesn't mean it will happen. Emotion and emotional attachment happen regardless of what your brain wants. I know this isn't exactly an answer to the question...
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I really don't have any answer to your question, but have to say I really like the new profile picture.
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The heart wants what the heart wants... no matter what we say. lol Thoughts from the Garden...
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it will happen regardless of who says what. the person who says the NSA is already done; they're saying NSA just to hear themselves say it. it doesn't have to be 'the sex' but something seemingly innocuous as the way the other person smiles, or laughs, the way they smell, or talk game of thrones, or xbox with the best of them and suddenly there's a shift *boom* somebody's caught the feels. the end.
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I don't think it's that clear cut Even those who can be that strong not to "attach" can somehow develop feelings Unless they are very selfish and set in their ways, I don't see many who don't form some sort of attachment one way or another. Not love, but at least caring.
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I think they use it as their mantra, to remind themselves not to get emotionally involved so yes... people that have to say it, or worse, keep repeating it, are usually doing it for themselves imo. Then again, a lot of men think emotional attachment means answering a text within 10 minutes so.... That or he's vain enough to assume everybody is going to fall for him hard so he gives a blanket warning. Thirds to liking your new pic.
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First off, as far as your indiscretions go, don't feel bad at all. I think I still linger around this site precisely because I have fantasies about doing just that. You got to do it, not dream about it. For that, I'm a little jealous. As far as his repeated (and unnecessary) insistence on No Strings, I'm rather convinced people do this when they're setting you up for something. He's about to do something he thinks will be hurtful and is trying to establish his justification. That alone isn't so bad, since it isn't something likely to even be hurtful (you haven't developed feelings) .... my issue with what he's doing is that he's trying to blame whatever he's doing on you. He's doing something he believes will be hurtful, and he's making it YOUR fault! That I am not cool with. I'm seeing major red flags in all this.
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I've posted about this stuff a lot over the years. I've landed on the conclusion that, for me, love is inevitable if I can stand someone long enough to be in the same room long enough. However, attachment to any particular outcome is a completely different thing. You love someone and let them go - in fact, I've let people go because I loved them. Attachment is selfish, and more about getting/having/keeping a person. In my experience it's guys - especially the 'NSA' guys - who can't tell the difference, and they're the ones who get their undies in a bundle about the whole thing. The guys who are the most defensive on this front are the least likely be capable of a rewarding sexual experience for me. So, move on?
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