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The Man Who Will Smash The Stars  

Sunslammer1988 35M
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6/25/2017 1:30 pm
The Man Who Will Smash The Stars


This is something of a repost from another social media site I'm on, but this is kinda important cause I'm tired of awkward coffee meetings.

So, given certain discoveries about my mental health, I've realized that perhaps it may be time to make something of a 'user's manual'. Yes, I'm aware that I am a dominant-leaning switch (although my profile ID's me as a hedonist), and so that sorta thing isn't really expected. These kinds of things are seen more on people who bottom, not top more often, but frankly?

dun care

So! Let's begin! I'm writing this because it has recently come to my attention that I am very likely on the autistic spectrum. I do not have a diagnosis and will be seeking a second, professional opinion to see if this is indeed true, but it is looking like it, and for now I've chosen to regard it as true because even if I don't, the measures I'm taking will help with my social anxiety.

I'm Benjamin, aka Azuriyuu, aka Sunslammer. I often don't understand people, although I want to, and I have a hard time connecting with others when it isn't related to one of my hobbies. Fortunately for you fine folks here on fetlife, 'kink' and 'fuckin' count as two of my hobbies! Unfortunately those alone do tend to lend themselves to being kind of a plain and for many people very shallow kind of interaction, so I'll include another few things.

I want to meet people. I want to bond with people, and I would be happy to bond over cooking, confectionary, writing, singing, improv comedy, video, board, and tabletop gaming, and dancing.

These are all interests of mine, and a great way to keep my attention. Speaking of my attention, due to my anxieties, I have decided not to attend parties or munches on my own. This does not mean I'm unwilling to meet in public or even in a kink setting. I would be more than happy to come by a munch or party if invited and chat for a short while, discuss interests there, let you see that while I can be awkward I'm not a creeper, in a public setting.

But truly, honestly? I want to meet people over activities. The whole 'meet over coffee or tea' has always left me extremely awkward, and I don't honestly think I show off my personality all that well - and I don't think other people do either. It's awkward. Who knows what to talk about? I wanna do stuff with you. No, I don't mean rub your genitals. Well, maybe. But let's talk about things I would love to meet over, and if you have an idea, that sounds fuckin' great! I'm excited to meet new people and learn new activities.

I would be lying if I said that at times, that activity hasn't just been going to a<b> play party </font></b>or inviting someone over or going to their place with a safecall set up; there are some times when that connection and desire to play online is just that intense, but let's say we're not doing that. Let's say we wanna suss eachother out, which is 99% more likely.

I say we could meet over...

Finding out we both love a song and meeting for the first time to try covering it together - even badly
Dance Dance Revolution Date
Going for a walk in the park bringing some various foodstuffs we made
Going out dancing
Meeting to record an improv comedy podcast (i'm fucking serious mate)
A game of D&D, GURPS, or Whatever - even a one-shot
Going to a game jam together and trying to make something
Amateur Hour Photoshoot
I know those of you reading this probably think that's really fucking weird; what kinda asshole would rather meet up and take photos of eachother in a bunch of trees instead of meeting for coffee like adults? What kinda person says 'Hey, wanna chat shit about arcane horrors and forbidden science into a microphone even though this is the first time we're meeting?'

Me. I'm that kinda guy. I'm a hedonist. I don't wanna talk politely over coffee. I wanna have fun.

So take my outstretched hand and let's have a goddamn blast like men, women, and nonbinary folks without the limitation of the expectations of the world around us.

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