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Hey Men, love ya all but a few girl tips
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Hey Men, love ya all but a few girl tips Never say How Are You. 98% of men open with that and its so old. Try opening with a compliment instead For over 90% of females on here, dont bring up meeting until you get to know her and find out what shes all about if not seeking Refrain from talking about yourself (true for us girls to). It shows a lack of self confidence or being needy for validation Ask questtions Start and stick with one conversation at a time Please !!! Avoid using a cell phone for chatting . Its too slow and irritating for her. Be aware that the girl you email or chat page on here probably talks to 5 or 10 men a week online so dont feel she replies because its you. She doesnt know you. Avoid subjects like the weather, hobbies, vacation travel or favorite foods. This isnt a normal dating site ! Dont assume you will stay in touch with her using only a chat. Get her email address to stay in touch. |
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Welcome to blogging and thanks for sharing your thoughts. I hope to read more from you. I've heard that most women on the site are drowning in attention and typically not stylish attention. With your stunning photos I can only imagine you face a deluge. Is that the case?
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If the men aren't supposed to bring up meeting until they get to know the woman they have messaged, how are they supposed to do that if they don't ask things like hobbies, favorite foods, vacation travel? There's more to life...and getting to know someone...than asking what her favorite position is for sex. As Lady_Jayne_Layne pointed out, it's better than asking my bra size (or what size my tits are). Personally, I'd rather he ask about hobbies. Also, how is the man supposed to refrain from talking about himself? If she's at all interested, she's going to want to know about him...which means he's going to have to talk about himself. I can guarantee if any man I chat with doesn't tell me something about himself, I'm immediately wondering what he has to hide. The chat/IM function of this site is certainly not reliable, but I'm not going to just give out my email address so someone can keep in touch with me. This site has email. Use it to get to know a bit about someone before giving out your personal email and moving off this site. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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Very interesting points... Unfortunatley most woman dont know those rules.
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Be respectful, even if this is a sex site, people want to be treated with respect. That doesnt mean bored them to dead, but keep the conversation open without breaking respect. Have a nice relaxed conversation for a first date, dont pressure things, if things move along they will progress on their own. Been caring and a gentleman would take you places. You could ended up making out... but hold for sex for a new date, that way you keep the anticipation open for a future encounter...
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is she for real?
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Personal preference is, well personal, one size will not fit all. The weather here is great, I am sure you are emotionally healthy (this is AdultFriendFinder after all), you are soo beautiful and have a great personality ... bla bla bla ... I am just too old to play B S ego games and successful applicants will be as interested as I am in meeting up.
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Never say How Are You. .... On the intenet? Yes, don't say, "How are you" when you don't know her, can't sense her, never spent time together.. Just a , "Hello" , maybe an introduction, and get to your point. 98% of men open with that and its so old. ... No, that's not it. it's just not realistic for a cyber environment when you've never met before. Try opening with a compliment instead ... NO!! Absolutely not! She's been getting those since puberty. For over 90% of females on here, dont bring up meeting until you get to know her ... That's just stupid too!! You want to get to know a person? You spend some time with them organically. That's the only way , "Getting to know" someone is going to happen. Refrain from talking about yourself (true for us girls to). It shows a lack of self confidence or being needy for validation .... That's good advice for men. Say you meet in person, she's actually attracted to you. You do not want to screw that up by telling too much about yourself in great detail. Mostly just nod agreeably, and get her into bed. The more you say about yourself, the more likely she's going to come up with a reason not to fuck. Ask questtions ... All depends on what kind of questions. Keep in mind you're meeting to see if there is a potential to have sex. Start and stick with one conversation at a time Please !!!... Ha.. if you've met a guy and he's a chatty-cathy, tangenting all over the place,.....he is probably gay. Avoid using a cell phone for chatting . Its too slow and irritating for her. ... Fuck that. Meet the woman in person as soon as possible to do your chatting. Don't waste your time online. Be aware that the girl you email or chat page on here probably talks to 5 or 10 men a week online .... See that's why you want to get her offline, too meet you in person, right now. As soon as possible. The longer the girl keeps you online, the more likely you will lose your chance to meet her. So get her ass offline, and to a meeting place, as soon as possible. She doesnt know you. ... That's why you don't say, "How are you". Avoid subjects like the weather, hobbies, vacation travel or favorite foods. ... No this is okay. In person this is fine if you need time to feel comfortable. Otherwise, if you are feeling confident, go ahead and talk about sex. This isnt a normal dating site ! ... For this era? Yes it is. You're on here to "Date" [have sex].... so don't waste time. Establish if there is any sexual chemistry and get to it. Dont assume you will stay in touch with her using only a chat. ... Look, if she won't meet you that day, or the next day, drop her. She is not interested, or scared. Get her email address to stay in touch. ... No, don't! You can do that ONLY after you meet, and ONLY if she will have sex with you!!!! Don't go around collection a bunch of waste-of-time email addresses.
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What a great post! You created a lot of controversy! Personally, I have found it difficult many times to know whether to start aggressively with sex questions or go the more vanilla route. In my experience, there are both kinds of women out there and probably everything in between. If you start vanilla she might lose interest because she'll have 20 other guys trying to get her attention on IM with more aggressive approaches. Its nice to know how you yourself want to be approached!  I agree that this isn't a normal dating site. People dont' put out the normal info you'd want to know about a person before considering them as a gf/bf. I also completely agree its better to start with a compliment. "how are you" rarely works. Great post! PS...So what is your favorite postion? 
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People have all manner of opinions on this topic. My experience is that it comes down to personal preferences. And, since it impossible to know someone else's preferences before-hand, it is best to be yourself. Regardless whether you a sweet person or an obnoxious arse, being yourself is the only honest way to let others know who you are. Welcome to the blogs. “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” ― Oscar Wilde
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9/11/2017 11:05 pm |
These sound like the one right answer for you rather than the one right answer, though the constant inquiring about how you are haws got to get old, especially for an attractive young woman. Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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interesting blog - some good points made both ways. I learned a few things today - thanks!
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12/11/2019 11:34 am |
Personally, I think you should just introduce yourself and tell the person honestly why you are talking to them and what attracted you to them in the first place. Theoretically that should initiate an open dialogue between the two of you and then whatever transpires after that is the icing on the cake......or not!
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12/12/2019 2:51 pm |
If a girl is wanting to know a mans hobbies and what books he reads, it sounds to me that she is looking for true love. Do any girls on a site like this look for that? This is a sex site not a normal dating site no? I wonder how few people out there have never been told by their parents....ok have a good time and when your there remember not to talk about yourself. Its common courtesy not to. Also people who go on and on about themselves often lack self esteem or self confidence. I cant ever tell a man onlne why i contacted him in the first place because i never contact anyone onlnie. Aggressive confident men do the contacting or should. I wish i had time to answer all of these comment. Thank to all of you.
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I think your advice is valid. And if I might add another tip, I've heard from a lot of women that are turned off if their profile pic is a cock. I know men love to be proud of theirs, but c'mon, we all have one. Be a bit original.
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Thanks for tips
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Everyone has different views I alyays try to find out what are hobbies what the lady likes and dislikes, even types of food and drinks also if dinner is part or lunch is part of the the first meet one has to know type of food, is it wine and the type of place the meet will be arranged at, all in all treat the lady like a lady needs to be treated
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6/2/2020 2:39 am |
Excellent tips. I wished I had these tips when I was 20. Like a dum ass I missed out on mature ladies.
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