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Why do so few people meet & where has the integrity gone in society-STATISTICAL EVALUATION.
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Why do so few people meet & where has the integrity gone in society-STATISTICAL EVALUATION. We have been trying meet quality men for over 6 years between our profile here (newer than 6 yrs old) and our other accounts on other swing sites. STATISTICAL EVALUATION from a couple where MR has 10+ years experience in the Lifestyle First some scientific or more so psychological research behind why so few people actually meet entice some provocative thought DATING SITE ARTICLE We feel this site being community created is the lesser of the evil compared other sites. We tend be more analytical than most and willing chronicle our experience in hopes that other people have the same interest in making the community better for all of us. So we invite a few men ONLY ensure that a few will show up as the statistics on this are so poor-- NOT only do our own stats PROVE it ---so does science and numerous studies by psychology today and many others The truly surprising part is that 30% to 70% of members on ALL dating sites , no matter what type-vanilla or otherwise , have ABSOLUTELY NO intention of meeting at all. SEE ARTICLE -https://www.elitedaily./dating/use-tinder-for-sa… Title"People Aren't Using Tinder Date Or Hook Up, Science Says" --- Our hypothesis: Many are using as an ego boost or illusory fantasy of popularity -like having 2000 friends on faceboo There are many articles in psychology today explaining the same. Truth is DATING sites are MULTI billion dollar entities all often owned by one carrying company---if they actually reported REAL numbers ---who would buy membership...ALSO if they were so successful at matching people ---you would have significant attrition in membership and thus loss of profits--- SPOILER ALERT ---dating sites are NOT entirely designed to be good at matching people--- Keep in mind NO STUDY can take into account how many married men pose as a single that have absolutely no real availability to meet and use the site more as a fodder for masturbation stringing along otherwise sincere couples or single women that want to meet. Also the advent of technology and cell phones offer instantaneous information and opportunity for the bigger or better at a moments notice otherwise diluting the value of peoples integrity to meet. So few people whether her or in the vanilla world keep to preset plans often waiting till last moment to see if there will be "something better to do". If you look at the era of CORDED phones ---once you left the receiver on the wall, you expected that the time, date and location you gave would be adhered to ----and it often WAS---why because you had limited opportunity for contact so people had the expectation that you would do what you say --NOT be ten minutes late, or offer a late excuse via on why you now cant make it. Why is it that so few men actually show up when invited out meet AFTER they confirm 1 week prior meeting date and AGAIN confirm same day of agreed meeting date, yet cancel last minute or result in no contact , no shows? It would be normal if all men we invite were NOT double confirmed both by email then via cell phone, and then still DONT SHOW UP . It our most frustrating complaint about the lifestyle and human nature in general. **2016 May 14th --invited 8 men -- 3 showed June 18th --invited 6 men ---2 showed July 15th --invited 3 men --1 showed August 15th --invited 6 men -- 2 showed August 27th --invited 3 men --0 showed ----ZERO not even email or message after confirming that they would be there!!! September 26th invited 5 men -- 1 showed October 29th invited 4 men -- 1 showed December 19th -invited 8 men ---4 showed 2017 January 21-- invited 1 guy - 1 guy showed -happened to be a repeat from previous meet in Atlantic city March 11- invited 4 men to meet -ZERO SHOWED UP April 15, - invited 8 men to meet-2 showed May 20th,-invited 4 men- 1 showed July 8th & 9th- (OVERSEAS) -invited 15 men to meet 4 showed apparently the issue is NOT geographically isolated the the USA  July 29th --invited 8 men --Atlantic city NJ4 showed August 19th -invited 8 men -2 showed ---it is just ridiculous -consistent statistics, why say you are coming to meet and then not show!!!! September 16th -invited 6 men- Philadelphia location--1 showed up -- all 6 RSVP'd 1 week prior & again early afternoon---by night time -usual cancellations and no shows September 28th -invited 8 men - Charlotte NC- 2 showed up -again all were double confirmed prior and either cancelled last minute or no show at all Oct 28th- Atlantic city NJ - invited 8- 2 showed Nov 11th- invited 4 men - ZERO SHOWED UP December 16 Invited 8 men - 4 showed up -GREAT GROUP -everyone stayed and<b> partied </font></b>at night club- she made great connection with ONE 2018 January 20th- invited 15 all week in advance- vetted-screened and double confirmed-- 3 men showed up** 2019 Invited 55 men meet - Only 15 showed meet this year 1 sexual connection so far for the year So far in a years time we have had 5 grandmothers pass away on a saturday approximately 7pm for most which was about 3 hours from our meeting time--pension for death on Saturdays we guess (WE DO APOLOGIZE FOR THOSE THAT DID SINCERELY HAVE A GRANDMOTHER DEATH but you must imagine that statistically the probablity is low for all of them match dates and time frame of our preset meet dates) 9 car accidents ONE which sent picture of accident illustrating a rain storm (HAD NOT rained in 3 weeks lol--smart guy), Numerous fell asleep, plenty ofi was too drunk , 3 broken limbs, 8 hospitalizations, over 20 . i have my that weekend AFTER knowing the date upfront and committing, We are still awaiting our first ALIEN ABDUCTION and DEMONIC POSSESSION excuses-- NOW that would be original and unique --- We invite a few men to meet on same night does NOT mean we are looking for gangbang. This is a chance to meet, nothing more. ALL OF The men invited above CONFIRMED and RSVP times prior NOT showing up. We explain upfront, that you may be meeting with other men due the significant level of cancellations that we always endure. Each time this is explained we get men that say 100% i will show up if invited-As you see from stats, we have LESS show up than invited and confirmed meet. PLEASE SHOW UP IF INVITED-THIS IS OUR #1 ISSUE WITH THIS SITE AND online LS. IF you say you want meet -DO WHAT YOU SAY -Have some courtesy and appreciation for how many hours of calls, emails, planning and schedule coordinating this takes for a quality couple with busy lives make plans. It is frustrating get no contact, no shows last minute after a lot of effort and work!. OR TONS of emails 1 hour before trying to meet with questions you had opportunity to ask much earlier We have offered over 950 invites to meet us over the last 6 years, all double confirmed. ONLY 250 men total have physically shown up to meet -representing a 29% success level on actually meeting--- She has chosen 11 to with in the 6 year time frame out of the 250 men met--A true success level of 4%. We say this offer direct and honest communication- We love have fun but the chemistry and interaction must be a combination between physical attraction and social ability. There is much more the decision than just showing up and being present/ We started initially trying meet one man at a time,over a six month period having invited one man meet almost every weekend for 6 months... that’s 24 opportunities, we met only 3 people that actually showed up, all others CANCELLED or NO SHOW, and none were direct matches for her, for a multitude of different reasons. So we analyzed our method and found that statistically cancelled on 21 times out of 24, Thats a 87.5% failure rate and truthfully 100% failure rate if you take into consideration that out of the 3 we met ...NONE were a quality connections. There is a complete misunderstanding about our profile-WE DONT MEET IN LARGE GROUPS. We have since become very busy in our corporate careers , We have only ONE DAY A MONTH to meet lifestyle people. We will NOT COMPROMISE our own quality time for the sake of the lifestyle. So How do you increase the odds FIRST that people will actually show up....and second that there will actually be a quality match??? We have learned even the most well intentioned males tell us "I AM 100% to show up" they RSVP , reconfirm same day .. then 1 hour before we are to meet we get some excuse, malady, emergency or no contact at all ,and they don’t show up. You are reading a profile with almost 2 years of data, same consistent results. So, we decided with limited time available in our schedules, due to busy corporate travel, to MAKE MORE INVITES to compensate for the ill will that most single men display,so that at least some one shows up to meet, that we have already "vetted" emailed, screened and had conversations with. Even with all that effort, we get no shows. OR we get men that show 10 years older than pic, 50 pounds fatter, ask for sex within 15 minutes, completely misrepresent their personalities or agenda and a whole host of stories we could continue to tell. However , the initial problem still exists-no matter what an online persona is ...ONLY 25% of those invited even show up for a chance to meet, talk or have a drink no matter what they look like,no matter the fact that they insisted they would show up, and no matter that they confirmed the very same day. So our method is very simple... knowing that only 25% show up ... means mathematically that we have to invite approx. 4 to have one show .....8 to have 2 men show etc.. Over almost 2 years expressed in our profile we have had only 4 show up at most even though we had offered far more invites...since SO MANY CANCEL last minute - we truly DONT MEET IN LARGE GROUPS We are also very cognizant to give everyone equal time and treat it as more of a meet and greet scenario, she never chooses to play with anyone without a few hours of exposure and comfort. In essence ,HELL the same type of meet and greet you may put yourself in by going to a vanilla bar where 3 to 4 men are vying for position for an attractive singe woman, no? We set the stage that we do not expect any competition/testosterone battles and may even mediate ourselves if we see such behavior, pretty well versed in managing behaviors and managing up front before they happen. In fact this gives us a great deal of input as to how the person interacts with others, what stories they decide to tell, how keen they are on conversation skills, attention to detail, body language and much more as far as interaction, and can be far more telling than meeting alone where some one's best or even "fake" persona is leading the way. Any sexual opportunity will ONLY arise after there is an established level of connection, good conversation, social ability , attention to detail ,ability to read body language, physical attraction etc.... We say this because we are not your average couple and the best way to connect with her is to attract her brain, the largest sexual organ she has. We do like sex and want to meet quality men for her but she does not know if she will extend an offer until there is an established level of natural attraction. We also list the items above ,since sadly, many men, although extremely attractive, do not possess the above qualities in combination enough to capture her attention. |
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Aliens are cumming or we hope so  Seems you get little feedback from most mens minds. Bet they want to talk about people when they do show, right?.... We have never stood anyone up, ever. The BS we have heard is amazing to say the least. Sounds like you had a full time job...
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3/29/2018 12:06 pm |
Another good topic would be: "Why do women hesitateto reply, or never reply, to reply to polite, cordial emails, but respond immediately when it is hostile?"
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