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Learning the Anal Orgasm  

JaniceJanes 49T  
707 posts
7/10/2018 11:44 am
Learning the Anal Orgasm

Last night while on this site, I received an from a young Crossdresser in Tennessee with a problem that I’ve heard before.

When she tried Anal Intercourse for the first time it hurt her so much she made him stop. She wondered what was wrong with her.

I told her I would share my experiences and advise with her on my Blog today. It was too late to give her a complete answer through IM’s. So, here we go Cindy.

I have talked to many, many Crossdressers who want to have more than Oral sex. They need to fell more complete as a desirable woman by having a man make love to them. They want the ultimate feminine sensation of feeling a hard, erect cock inside of them and to experience his orgasm. However, like Cindy, or for others reasons, they are either reluctant to try it or they have tried it and failed to enjoy it.

Anal sex can be enjoyable and pleasurable if done correctly, with forethought, and a thoughtful partner.

A few things to remember when having Anal sex.

* The Anus does not have a a natural lubricant that is released during stimulation like a woman’s vagina.

* The Anus does not have as many nerve endings as a vagina.

* The Anus muscles are stronger than the vaginal muscles.

* Anal sex has been around since the beginning of human life. It’s not a new trend so it must work.

* Anal sex can be performed in all gender relationships. Two men, a man and woman or two women. The last couple would normally involve dildos or vibrators.

* Not all people, either mentally or physically, enjoy Anal sex.

In the Crossdresser or pre-op Transexual (like me) community, Anal sex is normally a vital part of our sex life. Again, some just don’t go this far for various reasons. For those of us who lack a vagina, by necessity, we practice Anal sex. It can be enjoyable for both participants when a few simple steps are used.

Stimulate the Anus. Have your partner gently use their fingers or tongue on your anus to allow the muscles to relax and become more pliable. Don’t start with hard, quick jabbing motions. Slow and easy and don’t rush it. As long as possible is a good rule.
Use a good lubricate to allow easy penetration. Don’t over apply. A little goes a long way and you will enjoy a slow entry with some sensual felling. You want to feel the natural texture of a cock as it glides into you.
Make it easy for a man to enter you by getting into a accessible position. I prefer the classic Missionary position with my legs in the air or wrapped high on my partners upper body. Others find “Doggy Style” easier for both.
An Anal orgasm takes longer to achieve than a vaginal orgasm because of the fewer nerve endings that transmit the sexual pleasure to the brain. Be sure your partner knows this and is prepared to stay erect for awhile. Slam, Bang, Thank You Ma’am doesn’t do it for most fo us.
When your partner is ready to climax, alternately tighten and relax your anus muscles to the same rhythm of his trusting motions. This is his reward for doing the things you need and want and it will get you the closest to a female orgasm.
It is perfectly alright to masturbate while being fucked or alter he climaxed. They already know you are not a natural woman and have a penis that need to be stroked for an orgasm.
NOTE: I, and others I’ve talked to, can reach orgasm without stoking myself when having sex in the Missionary position. Feeling his thrusting body on my cock gives me the same sensation as manually massaging it.

Try some or all of these suggestions to have a more pleasurable time during Anal Intercourse. Let me know what works for you.

If you have any questions, feel free to contact me.

Happy Fucking,
Jan

EmileeCTCD 61T
16 posts
10/31/2018 9:18 am

 If Cindy (or anyone else) wants to keep the "training" part something to share, she can have her partner use fingers - thin and small, then thicker and longer, then combinations.

I'm generally not a fan of fingers, but I like this over toys because then the partner gets to know your responses and boundaries and feel it more. And learns patience which we know is extremely importance.

When I use a strap-on with a partner, I cannot feel her response as well. So when to push a bit more or pull back? When to take off the limiter or go to town? Fingers can give you that feedback better and you can alter their shape and angle better.

Enough on that. Hope it helps!


Gina_L07 67T
387 posts
7/20/2018 7:09 am

 I would add that she should buy some dildos to train her ass for such an experience. Start with the smaller one and then work up to the larger size. Also learn to prep properly. Resources on the net can tell you the best methods. Take care and be safe. Ciao.

Gina {=}


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