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Frustrated in Old Town
Frustrated in Old Town Does anyone else get frustrated? I like this site, but I get frustrated with how hard it is to meet nice people as a standard member. The chat is always a bit wonky. Anyways, I just had to vent my frustration. I like meeting people even if for coffee....seems the dating scene downtown is complicated to say the least! Anyways, I hope everyone is having a wonderful day and finding what they want. Cheers! |
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Thanks for those that actually looked at my blog. First time trying this out actually. Anyhoo, just a wet and rainy day that is most fitting for indoor fun!
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no prob
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Don't waste your time with people who "Just want to meet for coffee".... In fact don't meet anyone who wants food or drink while they talk to you. The concept of meeting, is to "Meet" , discover who you each are.... not guzzle down food and drink. With a Gold membership, there won't be any guarantees of meeting "Nice" people either. But you do increase your chances.
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Well, I always thought meeting for coffee or something similar would be a safe and comfortable way for people to meet. There are some bad apples out there, and unfortunately being careful is just how we have to be today. I get your point that the intent is not coffee or food, but it is at least a way to continue a conversation only carried out online. Too many people hide behind computer screens and portray a persona that is not real or highly inflated. Public place meetings are a way to validate and then go from there. Also, a good way to not hurt anyone. If not your cup of tea, pun intended, then leave. Just my two cents.
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Why is it so hard to chat with people on this site? I've tried nice, normal and sending a PG pic.....what am I missing?
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Am I that old? Seriously???? Wow...just amazed at the lack of response to a civilized chat request. What am I missing?
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Ok, I have tried pictures, cordial responses....nothing seems to work around here. Please tell me how to improve my game?????? Seriously.
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Ok, I'm trying to keep this conversation alive. Someone help me please.
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Well, I always thought meeting for coffee or something similar would be a safe and comfortable way for people to meet. There are some bad apples out there, and unfortunately being careful is just how we have to be today. I get your point that the intent is not coffee or food, but it is at least a way to continue a conversation only carried out online. Too many people hide behind computer screens and portray a persona that is not real or highly inflated. Public place meetings are a way to validate and then go from there. Also, a good way to not hurt anyone. If not your cup of tea, pun intended, then leave. Just my two cents. There are some bad apples out there, and unfortunately being careful is just how we have to be today. .... This is true, but, "Drink or food" , isn't going to make a person , " A good apple". I get your point that the intent is not coffee or food, ... That's not the point... the point is, "It's a meeting to learn if there is sufficient attraction in person, not drink and eat". ...Also women tend to take advantage of a "Meeting" situation because they know most men are fools enough to pay for food and drink [for her]. The woman gets food and drink, and tells him. "This isn't going to work, bye." but it is at least a way to continue a conversation only carried out online. .... Don't do long conversations online... keep it short and on point... the objective is to meet. You can continue a conversation standing at a Bus Stop, or sitting on some bench in the park. ...To repeat; don't have long conversations online.. ..... If you have their attention that very first day, right there and then, you tell her, "I want to meet you". ["Telling" her, instead of, "Asking" her for permission to meet, is more confident. Better for you.] Then give her a time and place to meet, that day or tomorrow. .....NOT on the weekends, and NOT after dark. You only need to meet for 10 to 60 minutes maximum. Could be as short as 20 minutes or less. Who can't do that?!! If they say they can't meet you [and don't give you an alternative time and place]... take that as a, "Not interested". Move on. No more online chitchat with that person. Too many people hide behind computer screens and portray a persona that is not real or highly inflated. .... That's why you set up a meeting time and place right now, and keep online chitchat to a necessary minimum. Public place meetings are a way to validate .... Sure, and you can do that without consuming drink and food. Also, a good way to not hurt anyone. .....Don't worry about that. There will often be rejection, and you don't need to cushion that with feeding them food and drink. If she wants to buy herself food and drink? Fine. She's paying for it.
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Am I that old? Seriously???? Wow...just amazed at the lack of response to a civilized chat request. What am I missing? They know , that picture, is inviting them to potentially meet up. Your objective should not be , "Have an online conversation", when they live within your area. And if they are living far far away, such that you'd never meet anyway, that woman would still feel more comfortable seeing more detail.
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Ok, I have tried pictures, cordial responses....nothing seems to work around here. Please tell me how to improve my game?????? Seriously. Read her profile. Get a feeling for the personality of whom you want to chat and meet. Women often say, or show memes that say, "Seduce my mind and you can have my body".....That doesn't always mean ,"Be a nice guy". Read her profile, learn things. Don't get discouraged if you get her upset , calling you names, when in fact you know you read her profile...... Lots of women just make up profile characters to get attention and validation... but can't provide that character in real life....so she lashes out.
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I can't get discouraged. I do understand that. Just frustrated about the difference between standard members and those paying. I think that standard members should be able to contact others without so many restrictions. If this is about discretion, then having to pay counters that. Just my two cents.
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Ok, still nothing and I have chatted with a few women on here. It is hit or miss. I will say that most are very nice and friendly, but not up for meeting anytime soon. Just frustrating with what this site is about. Ugh.....
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Looking and looking...trying and trying....wtf? Does this site actually work? Haven't seen proof yet.....
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Just sad....a good dude trying to find a connection and no joy. Why is this so difficult. Some will say get a "Gold" membership, but that defeats the purpose. You should be able to meet people without paying money. Sorry, but I don't buy into the advertisers' games.
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Ok, I tried being forward and rather explicit. Nothing worked. Definitely questioning the validity of this site. Doesn't seem to work very well.
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Good morning, it's a new day and going to have that positive attitude that it might be different today. If I don't then I realize I will go crazy
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Post some pics of yourself , join groups that interest you. Messenger does not work well , email is better. I totally agree with public coffee , as yes there are rotten apples here. Best of luck.
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