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The importance of connection for fun, casual encounters
The importance of connection for fun, casual encounters Last Friday I met up with this from Tinder on a whim, and in the aftermath, I was reminded how important it is have at least some kind of a spark in order for both parties involved have a good time. Her profile dropped obvious hints, "here for lust" being the strongest indicator that she would be down for a quick meet and greet. It was a risk that off, at least at first. I picked her up at a nearby<b> shopping </font></b>center and we proceeded head a bar - her choice. I prefer coffee as a first meeting location. It's open, inviting and permeated with the bittersweet smell of freshly roasted grounds stimulating - in theory - a basic conversation. Since this was a spur of the moment and I did not mind. She was attractive, with a nice smile. We had decent conversations about and what our interests are, and had each other laughing. Something was a little off, I felt. I just was not into it. Normally, at this point, I would respectfully end the 'date' with something along the lines of, "it was nice meeting you, I am honestly not feeling it. I hope you find what you're looking for." This was clearly a one-night stand, mutually agreed upon although the terms were not discussed. Next stop, Target, for condoms (I have a REDcard) and back to place. I was aroused for certain, and even more so when she started sucking dick on her knees and undressing. I was ready for it be over. I did what I normally do, and gave her oral for quite some time (which I love do, by the way). Eventually, I admitted not feeling in the mood (lame, I know ... it's the truth) and we got dressed and I dropped her off at her place. Chemistry is such an ineffable condition; we know when we feel it, and we know when we don't. Pushing through in its' absence is not that enjoyable. It's worth taking the time meet up, see if there's a spark, and then move from there. |
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I prefer coffee as a first meeting location me too
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Choosing a bus stop, or under a statue in the park, or just some kind of public nondescript location to meet for a few minutes is better. Then you're free of the uncomfortable situation of bowing out of having coffee if they turn out to have no chemistry with you whatsoever.
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