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Enjoying a Threesome to the MAX!!!  

davidh19694 54M
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3/7/2020 7:39 pm
Enjoying a Threesome to the MAX!!!


Threesomes can be an amazing experience if done well, with planning and utmost respect for all participants. Like learning any new skill, it can take take a few attempts to get it right. You can have someone with experience and commonsense to guide you through it.

I have found doing threesome with the same group of people gets better and better. No-one gets it right first time.

Here is what I found works and reduces those awkward moments:

0. Respect the woman (or women, if multiple women involved).

This is the most FUNDAMENTAL rule of all. A key principle of swinging is CONSENT. That means getting permission from the woman. Do not assume she gave you permission. ASK for permission. No swinging activity can take place if women are treated disrespectfully. NO MEANS NO. STOP MEANS STOP. If you can not respect the woman or her wishes, get out! Failure to obey this fundamental rule gives the women every right to kick the guy(s) in the nuts!

1. Take care in choosing who you want to participate with.

Check them out over coffee / drinks / a meal. Make sure you know what you are looking for. For example, how does the guy feel about touching another guy during the play? It is inevitable there will be some bumping / rubbing against each other and so men DO get funny about it.

Another important criteria is whether they enjoy sharing the fun with everyone (rather than hogging the show for themselves) and allowing others to take turns in the pleasure.

It also important to ask participants if they have been STI tested. There are local STI clinics which offer free testing and offer great service. Also get yourself tested regularly (especially if you are sexually active and have multiple sex partners). You have every right to ask about the use of protection and insist protection be used. If a woman wants to receive oral, guys have every right to ask about her sex history - if there are any plumbing issues (eg: yeast infections, periods, menopause, medication - all these things can affect the taste / smell of her pussy).

If you have great rapport with the participants, it is okay to play on first dates - provided you cover the other aspects covered in this blog (either at the meeting place or in private).

In this day and age with flus / viruses going around, no harm in asking if the person has been unwell in the pass few weeks or any symptoms. Better safe than sorry!

2. Establish ground rules.

This is absolutely important! The host(s) needs to cover areas like “no go areas”, “safe phrases”, eg: “Need a drink of water” for a break or when you want to stop. What kind of acts are permissible / not permissible, eg: kissing, rimming,<b> anal </font></b>sex, etc. There needs to be absolute respect for the woman - without her presence, there cannot be group play. It is VITAL all participants (including the host) respect the boundaries. If a participant breaches the boundaries, it is game over! Will there be photos / video? If so, will it include face shots? Need to get approval from other participants first. Fr example, I am okay with photos / video but prefer no face shots. Back of head is fine.

3. Think about what toys / accessories you want to have.

Not always necessary, but if you like using sex toys, then by all means discuss these with the other participants. Bring the condoms, lube, massage oils (be careful not to use oils which affect condoms), box of tissues. Make sure the sex toys have been cleaned prior to play.

Make sure you have water bottles / jug glasses of water ready as group play can be a workout in itself!!!

4. Communication is crucial before, during and after.

People talk about having a drink to loosen up. Personally, I find alcohol does the opposite with regards to loosening up - alcohol is known to make people sleepy and adversely affect the functioning of sex organs! So I tend to stay away from alcohol before and during play. Stick to water! I have found just sitting around closely and discussing what the issues covered in this blog and acts you want to do is just as good icebreaker / foreplay!

My experience is planning / discussing the play greatly reduces the awkward / uncertain moments. Take the time before things get frisky to discuss rules, no-go areas, how you want to start / what positions you want to try or do, do you want dirty talk, kissing, oral sex, etc? Talk about rotating the men, who is going to going to lead / oversee things, what you want happen when things finish - hang around in bed or get dressed and go?

5. Cumming / orgasming

This is perhaps the least discussed / planned moment and perhaps the most overlooked sex activity.

Guys need to talk before playing about how fast they are likely to cum, what are the triggers (eg certain speeds or positions). Talk about strategies to slow things down like slow sex, rotation, giving oral or resting. Talking about this actually reduces the sex performance anxiety a lot of men experience during group play.

An important topic to discuss is where and when to cum. For example, I did a MFM play with a couple - the guy was a bit of a selfish dick (pardon the pun!) ... I had been giving her the most awesome oral sex, we ended up enjoying the 69 position for a while. Then we changed positions and he decided to cream-pie her not once but twice! This meant I could no longer go down on her (unless you are one of these guys that likes to lick up the other guy’s cum plus her juices!). This was very annoying and killed the mood. So, I encourage you to discuss where and when the guys should cum so the fun can continue.

Some women love to swallow. Some do not. Some women love the guys cum on her face, boobs or butt. Some do not. Others just use condoms from start to finish so there is no yucky moment. Do not assume what she wants. Discuss all these. It is okay for her to swallow her partner’s cum but not the other guy’s (unless she knows him really well or has been tested) - so do not feel put out if she does not swallow your cum.

Similarly, women need to discuss their orgasms. Some women take a while to orgasm. Some women are really sensitive. What turns them on? Do they squirt? How do they want to orgasm? If they squirt you know to watch out and perhaps have towels under her.

6. Getting into the groove … slowly!

Once you have communicated things amongst your group, you will all be getting excited. Start slowly with kisses, hugs, slowly undressing each other, massages, tongue baths, etc.

7. Control your jealousy!!!

This is ABSOLUTELY vital otherwise it is game over. If anyone displays jealousy there must be a discussion immediately. In fact, during the participant selection process, participants need to be screened for traits of possessiveness, extreme controlling behaviour and jealousy. Extreme controlling behaviour is very different to dominant play.

What needs to be practiced is compersion - this is the opposite emotion of jealousy. It is the emotion of enjoying watching others experience pleasure with others. I love watching people experience ecstasy with others - it is a turn on!

8. Speak up!

If something is amiss / unpleasant / not right / inappropriate / disrespectful at ANY time, speak up now! Do not put it off until later because if you do not it will be considered as a sign you accept that behaviour and the behaviour will happen again.

If a position is uncomfortable, speak up.

If you need more lubricant, speak up. If she is getting dry, it is a sign she is not enjoying things as much or needs a break and a drink of water.

9. Expect awkward moments (especially during first play together).

It is not going to be like a beautiful porn show during your first play together!!! There will be moments when the third person will be going Uh Oh?!?!?! Help them out. The hosts are best placed to guide things along. Be optimistic. Enjoy the moment. Be grateful you can participate in such an exhilarating experience!

10. It is okay to have a rest.

Group play can be hard going at times. It is okay for participants to have a breather, sit back and enjoy the show. It is also a good idea to rotate so that the guys do not cum so soon!

Wishing you all the best and lots of sweet and sweaty, memorable fun!!! Remember, it will get better with experience, especially if you stick with the same group. You know where to find me if you are looking for a partner in crime!

Would love to hear your thoughts on this post.

Regards, David

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