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Am I a Dom or a sub?  

TexasSexMagick 50M/49F
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5/24/2021 4:36 pm
Am I a Dom or a sub?

Basically a "Dom" prefers be dominant during sex. While a sub prefers to submit, i.e. be dominated. It follows that a sub pursuing another sub, or a Dom pursuing another Dom, is looking for something that his<b> love </font></b>object can't really offer. avoid this kind of heartache, you should figure out whether you are dom or sub, and how much so. Maybe you even swing both ways, although I believe this isn't very probable.

What follows will clarify the concept of doms versus subs.

Sexual dominance needn't accompany other forms of dominance. The literary image of the bold politician or CEO who leads others in mighty enterprises, only head home be tenderly spanked by his wife, has its counterparts in reality. People who are only mildly dominant or submissive probably find themselves in such paradoxical situations more often. In other words, being submissive doesn't make you a pansy.

Being submissive is certainly not worse than being dominant. It is what it is. Desires in the bedroom has nothing do either way with demanding social, political or economic inequities. If feminism numbers among its demands female pleasure during sex, allowing oneself be hogtied can, for the right person, be an act of supreme feminism.

Admitting that you are submissive or dominant does not oblige you experiment with B/D, much less S/M. Sexual power relations can be expressed in less overt ways, such as choice of sexual position, style of dirty talk, fierceness of pumping, and selection of lingerie.

Dominating someone in bed does not mean being mean them. Actually it is the nicest thing you can do if they are submissive.

Being a submissive man, or a dominant woman, doesn't mean that you're gay. Sexual preference in general is independent of whether one is a dom or a sub. Gay people are just more likely be aware of both preferences, since both members of a gay couple obviously can't subscribe society's stereotype of dominance and female submissiveness. It's harder for straight people say things like "I wish I could go out with a man in a woman's body" or "I feel like a lesbian in a man's body" because they've been living in a mental straight-jacket.

Discussing this topic with your partner is important. Anyway it goes, I hope that your conversation at least "degenerates" into some erotic talk!

Be happy with yourself! ?*


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