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AK_Snowflake 44F
564 posts
11/16/2014 8:22 pm
Is sex that important?


My past relationships have started from sex. I like test driving before I purchase. I have always based staying with someone on the sex. The was the past. I have been trying to be doing something different because it didn't work for me in the past. I am just not sure how well it is working for me now.
The current guy is everything women want. Good looking, cooks, picks up the dry cleaning, takes the out when I work too late, is nice to my family, super awesome. Just not that into sex. At first I thought it was me. I thought he was just not that into me but then I realized he just isn't into sex.
I thought us both traveling for work would be good, we would have all this built up energy and want to fuck like rabbits. Nope. He wants to cuddle.
I have tried blow jobs-don't work. I tried stripping- He got excited, was able to have sex for a few minutes then lost it.
So maybe I should give up on sex.

TurnLock 63M
577 posts
11/17/2014 7:21 am

The first thing that comes to my mind is gay. Everyone has an interest in sex, but may be motivated by the same gender. ED is always possible, I know I have it and i desire sex like any other man and will find a way to make love. You can rule out ED, if his dick gets hard and stays hard. Why a healthy man would not want to make love to a woman is gay or crazy. I think you should be looking at an exit strategy unless you're looking for a girlfriend.


pytimesx 60M
941 posts
11/17/2014 1:53 am

To answer the question is: it appears to be important to you.

But thats not to assume its important to every man and women. And its not to be assumed the womans style of sex is what will keep a man erect and intrigued.

Imagine for a moment the inexperienced teenage girl who jumps on top and bounces away like a bunny cracking this young mans eggs with every landing. The only reason he keeps it up is - he's a teenager. All his wiener needs is a small breeze and the view of her boobies. Try that on a 40-50 year old man and he's not going to last very long.

There are many other factors to consider that are not appropriate to publically republish here for copyright reasons but you can read some books on it or ask privately.

In the end, whats important to you?


demonicsexkitten 45F
10701 posts
11/16/2014 10:22 pm

I was going to mention erectile dysfunction too, but Scorpio beat me to it. If that's what it is then it's fixable.

Though my cousin was married for 10 years to a guy that just didn't like sex. Once every few months for about 5 minutes was plenty for him. She ended up divorcing him... though sex wasn't the reason. She didn't know it could be any different until after the divorce.

I'm terrified of getting into a relationship with a guy that doesn't have a similar or compatible sex drive.


Lynn1812 50M  
4937 posts
11/16/2014 10:12 pm

I couldn't live like that...


FunPleasurable 56M
3999 posts
11/16/2014 10:06 pm

Keep him, and find a stuntman double for the action parts (the sexy part)

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ak_bigbadwolf3 47M  
2630 posts
11/16/2014 10:02 pm

Don't give up on sex, and honestly have him take a low t test if your that into him I had to work through my issues and turns out that was it.

Don't compromise yourself! You are all you've got!


ScorpioNOV1972 47M
417 posts
11/16/2014 9:20 pm

Maybe erectile dysfunction? Could be anything, but a man that doesn't like sex is a rare thing indeed. As for you, you shouldn't have to give up on anything, but if he is perfect in every other sense, than I guess you need to decide whats more important.

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