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Bella_Joy7 37F  
50 posts
10/13/2019 8:30 pm
In the bedroom, there is no shame

Hey misfits! Long time no speak . So im going get straight the point. I was dating this guy for a short while and his major issue was insecurity which i could work with. Many things im tolerable of but there was thing that he refused admit me. While he claimed he was attracted me he had big prblems getting hard with me. I would do everything from being naked literally all day, throating his cock for hours, and talking him up like he was a greek god; nothing. He would get hard for 45 seconds and be done. We both knew what was going on but he refused talk me about it. I clearly saw the signs of erectile dysfunction and while i didnt judge and made him feel like a king, he was a flop. Literally. He projected his shame onto me and made me the bad guy. Suddenly i wasnt trustworthy, and i was cheating and all these things that simply were not true. He ended up cheating on me with a 20 his junior. She admitted me she wasnt interested in sex with him hence his confidence in cheating; emotional cheating is much easier than forcing an erection.

I write about this because for the entire time i was berated and accused, vervally abused and ultimately abandoned and cheated on despite my efforts, i blamed myself and my appearance for his problem. I began hate myself and question my sexy. I began picking myself apart and allowing his insecurity shatter my security. I want share that regardless of what we may be suffering, whether medically or mentally, a real partner will never judge, never poke fun or never dismantle. A real partner will see you in your brokeness and want work with you and stand with you.

I sat and tolerated months of not being pleasured, not orgasming, not releasing or being appreciated sexually for the sake of his ego. I tolerated his micro penis so he could be secure and i ended up the punching bag.

I wabt you men to know to never be ashamed to your demons. Because you never know what angel you have in front of you help you through it. What you hide will sabotage your destiny.

Be brave and rock on!


tcrossfire05 63M  
297 posts
10/13/2019 8:38 pm

Sweetheart sorry you had to put up with that. Please don't judge all men by one. I'm in my middle 60's and have been a multiorgasmic sex addict since puberty. You are a fabulous looking woman and about as sexy as they come. The things you did for him and foregoing your own pleasure just go to prove the efforts that you went to to make him feel like a king. Obviously, if you ever wanted to be be a very horny and HARD man just give me a shout, anytime.


Bigme8910 37M
72 posts
10/13/2019 8:51 pm

Well his loss. Dude should have got on the little blue pills.

JT19808 40M
7 posts
10/13/2019 8:53 pm

it was the guys loss for sure

Heathen_G 61M
7863 posts
10/14/2019 1:16 am

Making him feel like a King, when clearly he wasn't , was stupid. That only makes him feel worse , and only extends your time without getting pleasure. So all in all , that was stupid.

Some guys just have health issues, which will affect his ability to get hard , and maintain that state. Even guys in their 30's and 40's.

You should have dumped him when you found this problem.

jajo696 65F
2225 posts
10/14/2019 2:58 am

In the world of hunters/gatherers and nurturers/caregivers...i completely get it ! I hope that you were able to escape before too too much of your own self esteem was eroded, and that you learned something . That was a valuable lesson~~

RoanokeDom101 46M
41 posts
10/14/2019 5:24 am

Nice message. Thank you.

Mr00Fun4U 61M  
932 posts
10/14/2019 7:05 am

Hey Lovely Lady....what a fool he was not to see how beautiful you are...inside and out. I envy the new man that will enter your life and hope you get spoiled. You so righteously deserve. Have a great day and enjoy your week ahead.

In the bedroom, there is no shame

ranger111333 41M  
22 posts
12/30/2019 5:27 pm

I am sorry to hear you had to endure such a crappy situation. I am sure you will land on your feet. Stay strong.

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