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Three Month Theory  

BlondeWifeMom37 44F
224 posts
12/10/2015 10:43 am
Three Month Theory

Three Month Theory

I had dinner and drinks with a guy the other night who I met from here. We actually initially chatted over a year ago, but we weren’t at the right places for what the other was looking for. He contacted me again a few weeks back and we started chatting like old friends. Thankfully he doesn’t read my blog, lol. Because this post is all about him. (giggle)

On an interesting note, I was my usual standoffish self, but he was more persistent this time. This time, he didn’t lead with his cock, he opened the door with a conversation and some insite into him. Which last time, I wasn’t sure he even was gainfully employed. Plus, in our prior brief chats, I knew he had several others on the line too. I don’t particularly like “collectors”. So he got cut short fast.

Fast forward several months and here we are again. Now he’s cleaned up his image, lol. I have softened over time. We somehow seemed to find some common ground. Right around the kinky area of the playground. lol How do you meet in the middle? You both give a little.

So, we meet the other night. First off… very very enticing man in person. I was surprised at how much I had shared about me in the 24 hours leading up to meeting, when I was with him as well. But we actually read one another easily in text, so one on one was natural. He opened up quite a bit in return to me. Our conversation was very free flowing and in depth. Plus, whenever you meet someone who isn’t afraid of their inner sexual desires, it's a kinship that bonds.

What he did say to me though that I haven’t gotten out of my mind is that he feels all of these “connections” have a lifespan of about three months. For him, at least, he then feels the edge is gone. The initial excitement, getting to know someone, sexual experiences….

I contradicted him and said, but don’t you think it depends on your partner? I mean I had a lover for over three years and it was fucking phenomenal even when we hooked up a year later.

He agreed that there are the rare situations that have the potential to outlive his “three month theory”. But, he isn’t looking for another wife, ex fiance, or ex girlfriend. He just wants to have a hell of a good time and enjoy his sexual side with someone who is after the same things.

Like a gentleman he walked me to my car, kissed me passionately, let me feel exactly how hard he was and we parted ways. Definitely leaving me wanting more...

The question I pose to any of you reading this… What are your thoughts on this “three month theory”?

Here is what I walked away thinking..
First of all… Am I willing to engage sexually with a man who has outright told me this will not last past 90 days.

How do I handle this as far as contact? Do I still give it my all and have a hell of a ride. Or do I go in reserved and stay a bit detached because he clearly doesn’t want the warm fuzzy stuff.

What I can tell is that he is much like me. We are very hard working, dedicated ppl. I know that when he is with me, he will be with me completely. I know that his mission is to see me satisfied in every way possible. He is the kind of man who is aroused by pleasuring his partner and the more I cum, the harder he is going to get. He is the kind of lover that leaves no desire hinged.

Normally I would hate to place myself amongst the ranks of just another three monther. I have learned I really don’t play nice with others when I have to share a man’s attention. In this situation though, he isn’t looking to play with a collection of women, it’s just a brief span of time. He’s even not just looking for once, he likes getting to know a woman's body and what makes her tick. He wants more than once.

And I am not one of those foolish women who think they are going to be the one to change him. I don’t want him to change, I like him how he is. Plus, when you enter into any relationship expecting things to change or be different, you’ve already set it up for failure. He gave me the rules. I have the choice of playing by them or a nice memory of a fantastic kiss and wet panties.

Maybe I can get an extension on the three months since the holidays fall right in the middle? lol Hmm, I wonder what I might use as negotiation to add my holiday time on the backside….

Sitting here wondering how or if I am actually capable of making this “three month theory” a worthwhile endeavor.

SensuDom 60M
42 posts
5/6/2017 3:26 pm

I've found that many live by the 3 month (or less) theory, whether they say it to you or loud or not, whether they know it or not. I'm not sure if it's an ADHD approach to sex, a lack of interest or ability to connect, or just where someone is at that point in time. It's just not my world. I don't find it worth investing time and energy in a good thing to only to move on to what one hopes will be another good thing. It's been my experience, if the first time is good, the second, third, and tenth time has a good likelihood to be great, and great can lead to amazing. Life is too short for good when amazing is possible.

CuriouslyPervy 54M
28 posts
4/10/2017 8:17 pm

I live by the exact opposite timeline.. that I only hook up every 3 months ... maybe that was what he was actually talking about - hence the extreme hardness that he was displaying for you when you left him in the parking lot!! \8

BlondeWifeMom37 44F
35 posts
2/10/2016 6:29 pm

Most of you pegged it dead on. Not my thing.

Cool dude, good looking, great personality. BUT, you are telling me you are over me before we even start. Might as well be a ONS. Plus, I kept wondering if he'd even take the time to get to know me and if we'd remain friends, or if at 3 mos he'd go radio silent. A colossal waste of time.

I decided to not put myself in that kind of position.

seekfun1900 53M

12/15/2015 8:17 pm

I think the three month thing is an excuse. Unless he is just looking for sex. If he's looking for a friend, who he is attracted to, and who he wants to learn how to really please her, then it will last much longer.

So, do you want to be his sexual object for 90 days, or find a lover, who will want to find out more and more about you?

But, then, who am I to talk.

khuz69 51M
76 posts
12/13/2015 10:53 am

make 3 months be "clock time". If you meet for 2 hours, take takes two hours of the 3 month clock. Texting/emailing don't count, but calls do.

Also, email me when the time is up..

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