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Sex, Drugs, Dildos and Rock n Roll: The MEET-UP!  

CarpeJamie 51M
41 posts
9/21/2021 9:35 am
Sex, Drugs, Dildos and Rock n Roll: The MEET-UP!


The Meet-Up, The Meet and Greet, The Get Together: different names for an event where people in a chat room or on a dating service meet each other, in person. This weekend past, my cherry has been popped. I’m no longer an AF.f chatroom virgin…. well maybe that isn’t quite accurate … maybe the metaphor is more like my cherry is intact and I had heavy petting. I attended my first meet and greet. It was an afternoon affair, for 2 hours a small group of us chatters hung out outside a coffee shop and talked like we do in the chat room. I was nervous before the event (see my going to the meet-up blog post) not knowing anyone really well in advance and going “alone” to the meet. The advice I got from other AF.f members in advance was to bring condoms and be my authentic self. Thankfully, a chatroom member that I had been communicating for a while needed a ride to the event and took me up on my offer to drive her there. I am thankful that she took the risk to travel with me, virtually a stranger. She was so helpful in settling my nervousness because by the end of the drive I had a new friend. I had the opportunity to get to know her better and I had someone who I could cling onto if I needed a security blanket to get out of my shyness. She was so easy to talk to and just her presence gave me the confidence to continue on with meeting the rest of the chatters who’d arrived at the meet. Interestingly, all the other members who showed up, also didn’t come alone, perhaps they felt the same nervousness as I did in coming to the meet and they wanted to ensure they had someone they could fall back on if needed.

The other piece of advice that I was given in advance of the meet, was to be aware that clusters of people form and that I would not meet everyone. That advice was definitely right; even though we were a small group of 8 people; clusters did form where different conversations were had. Before the meet I had planned to not get confined to one group of people; but, in reality I fell into old habits -- I took a seat and stayed there for the entire meet-up. So, I ended talking to only a few people for a long time. I did want to talk to everyone, for just a bit--but it didn't happen. Oh well, I'll just have to go to another meet to talk to those people I missed. At the very least was able to say hello to everyone and just as I have come to know in the chat room, everyone there were friendly, nice people with interesting stories to share. I heard about past meet-ups from long-time AF.f members and some random stories of the fun times had at those events. I was welcomed into this group of long-time members and I was glad to get to know them better.

I'm very glad I went. It was eye opening, meeting in person reveals so much more than the cybersphere does! Attending meet-ups is definitely worthwhile as it allows for you to see if there really is a connection between you and other people you have chatted with on-line. Also, as everyone who has been to a meet-up says, it’s great to put a face (and a name) to the on-line handle we know so well. When you chat on-line you form pictures and ideas in your mind of people you text with; (as I wrote in my meet-up blog post) in person, those preconceptions become reality tested … communication becomes 3-Dimensional and more. Body language, facial expressions, subtext reveal the true you. My fellow chatters had a window into my soul and I theirs. How do you reconcile the pedestals that you’ve formed for each person you met on-line with the person you meet in real life? That is the benefit of meet-ups, facades begin to fall away and a living, feeling person comes alive in each member you meet.

Sex, Drugs, Dildos and Rock n Roll -- the meet didn’t even come close to the stories of wild meet-ups of the past (no condom needed but probably better to be safe than sorry). Maybe it was tame because the meet was COVID friendly, outside, in the middle of the afternoon and not in a night club. However, I enjoyed meeting my fellow AF.f chatroom chatters and moved further along the process of building friendships and connections with people who I’ve come to know and like over the past month. Who knows where this will lead? But I’m enjoying the journey and I look forward to the next time we meet up.

Do yourself the favor, of taking the risk, to experience a meet-and-greet if one presents itself to you. The possibilities are endless.

Let me know about your first meet and greet experience by leaving a comment below.

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silk_petal_rose 57F
2284 posts
9/21/2021 3:23 pm

The first mtl get together was organized by myself.....we were only 14 members in the quebec chat room at that time.. and I arranged for the g.t. at Cheers downtown mtl.and all 14 of us showed up.that was way back in the fall of 2005.[ and I continued to organize a monthly G.T's ( get togethers) for 8 yrs.I was never ever nervous going to any G.T.

silky...


CarpeJamie replies on 9/21/2021 4:06 pm:
You being an organizer have a special talent. You must have taken great pride in what you developed over time. As someone who appreciates organizers, I'm thankful for people such as yourself who organize for the rest of us to enjoy the company of other and good times that will last a lifetime. Congratulations on building a community in MTL!

author51 58F
123520 posts
9/21/2021 10:57 am

    Quoting author51:
    Even though I am a part of that chatroom and probably a lot of the same handles, I always feel a bit left out when I can not attend them. One thing about a meet and greet is now the next time you do go in to the chat room and they are there, the odd time even more cliques happen because you do now know the face/person to whom you are chatting with..For some of us it is now outsiders looking in, when they start talking about stuff the rest of us who are daily regular members do not understand..

    When it comes to chat room meets and greets it has it's pros but also cons and some cliques become even tighter which is good, but not to other members who are also in there every single morning and have been for almost two years..

    I am glad you got to meet and get to know the person behind the handles. That is the pro to it...
*probably chat with* ... That meet was too far away for me to attend and already had plans that day. I would love nothing better than to actually meet others from the Ontario room, but it never works out for m e..

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CarpeJamie replies on 9/21/2021 4:09 pm:
You bring up a good point that "inside jokes" can develop at the meets that don't carry over well back inside the chat room that has many more people who didn't attend. I find that chat rooms are always a challenge to have everyone participate in one dialogue ... and there are many times that I just sit back and observe because I'm not feeling included in the discussion. Hopefully, there is a meet that you are able to attend. It would be great to meet you in person.

author51 58F
123520 posts
9/21/2021 10:53 am

Even though I am a part of that chatroom and probably a lot of the same handles, I always feel a bit left out when I can not attend them. One thing about a meet and greet is now the next time you do go in to the chat room and they are there, the odd time even more cliques happen because you do now know the face/person to whom you are chatting with..For some of us it is now outsiders looking in, when they start talking about stuff the rest of us who are daily regular members do not understand..

When it comes to chat room meets and greets it has it's pros but also cons and some cliques become even tighter which is good, but not to other members who are also in there every single morning and have been for almost two years..

I am glad you got to meet and get to know the person behind the handles. That is the pro to it...

You can never have enough JOY in your life..xoxo

MAKE YOU MOAN DAY STRICTLY SEX


spunkycumfun 61M/66F
38430 posts
9/21/2021 10:22 am

The meet-up sounded good. I hope the condom gets used next time!


CarpeJamie replies on 9/21/2021 4:11 pm:
Thanks for putting that out into the universe. Time will tell.

CarpeJamie 51M
95 posts
9/21/2021 9:42 am

MY tips for the first meet:
Just Do It! – do whatever you need to do to build your confidence to attend
Do bring a friend that is outgoing that can support you, but not need to be tied to you
Do be your authentic self
Do be respectful, polite and open to talking with others
Do prepare a few interesting stories that you can offer others when the time comes
Do ask questions of those you meet so that you’re listening to them as much as you are sharing about you
Do talk to more than a few people – you never know who you might connect with
Do assume you will be going home alone; and prepared if you don’t (better bring that condom, just in case)
Do have fun, be positive and enjoy the journey … it can be as fun as the destination.

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