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Coloroftheday 36F
14 posts
7/17/2020 3:49 pm
Something I hate


One of the biggest things I hate about the lifestyle is the guys (and girls) that phish for pictures or stories.
Let me explain.
I will often get messages of someone who says they are interested in coming over to fuck. No issue with that. We will talk, share photos, discuss what we hope to have happen during the sex. Again, no issue. From here, one of two things happen the most. We will set a time for them to come over and then........... Nothing. No more responses, to show. Then they pop up a few days later to get more dirty talk and photos. OR they will get to the point of me inviting them over and they say, "oh well gee. it is too far for me tonight. it is too late for me to come out." I usually give the benefit of the doubt the first time this happens. But again! They will pop up and it is basically a repeat. It gets worse when they ask if I even want to play and I say no, AND THEN THEY HAVE A HISSY FIT THAT I DONT WANT TO PLAY! I know life happens and not everyone is free to fuck. I don't whine and ask why and badger the person if they cant come. I just wish they had the same respect.

world69traveller 62M  
13 posts
7/18/2020 9:17 am

I read the profile of a woman, I send a custom message. No reply. Maybe it got missed by accident. Maybe she is busy. I am waiting for a response. Send 2nd message a few days/weeks later. No reply. Maybe same thing. Send 3rd time. No reply. Silence does not mean take a hint ladies. It means this woman is not honest. Not replying is rude. Not replying is hurtful. I am very busy but I stop what I am doing to read the profile and send a message then again and again and no reply. That is rude of the woman. If I send a message "why are you not responding" then I immediately get a reply something like "you are an asshole" "fuck you" "No one owes you anything you entitled jerk" etc. Immediate response. A miracle. A response. All of a sudden the woman "has time" or "bothers" to respond with profanity. No time to respond if I send a nice message. Ignoring me is wrong. Is that how you were brought up? How rude of you. You want to make me feel bad? How rude of you. Men can't read your mind or your intentions. You are a rude and hurtful person and this tells me who you really are.


Bettibenobo 65F  
423 posts
7/18/2020 11:01 am

Worldtraveler: silence certainly does mean take a hint.

The only reason they finally replied was because you had become completely annoying by then.

They should have blocked you after the second message.

Don't take it so personally and be so butt hurt by not getting a response from a total stranger. This is the online world NOT real life.

Besides that a lot of women do get many messages and there's no rule that says anybody owes you a response.

And it is a typical sign of male entitlement.

If you are online you'd better get some thicker skin or you're going to be hurt and disappointed all the time.


Bettibenobo 65F  
423 posts
7/18/2020 11:05 am

Interesting how you turned the OP post into being about you instead. Another sign of entitlement. No wonder I had already blocked you before this post.


fast6996 51M/52F  
100 posts
7/19/2020 6:18 am

omg, silence and no reply is very rude. it takes 10 seconds to reply a 'no thanks not interested'. we always reply. we use flirts and mail to get attention to see if someone may be interested, if not, no big deal , don't know unless you ask. so Betti your one of the special rude ones,lol.


Leegs2012 48M
86539 posts
7/20/2020 9:00 am

I hear you on this. How about you do meet and that person doesn't look anything like the picture on their profile. That's happened before to me. Good luck with you searches.


Bettibenobo 65F  
423 posts
7/22/2020 6:34 am

    Quoting fast6996:
    omg, silence and no reply is very rude. it takes 10 seconds to reply a 'no thanks not interested'. we always reply. we use flirts and mail to get attention to see if someone may be interested, if not, no big deal , don't know unless you ask. so Betti your one of the special rude ones,lol.
No ma'am I am not.

I have an auto response set up detailing my preferences and explaining that I probably won't respond personally unless their message actually piques my interest.

So literally every person who sends a message will get a reply.

Being a couple, you may not get as many messages as a lot of single women. It can be overwhelming AND time consuming to reply to every one.

MOST of the time the messages just proves the sender didn't bother to read the profile. If they don't take the time to read profiles then why should they "deserve" a response?


lickthepussyMN 40M  
5 posts
8/15/2020 1:30 pm

It is so true. The sad thing is that many people believe that it is only the guys that flake out. Unfortunately that just isn't true. I just hope that people are honest about their wants and desires and I try to give people the benefit of the doubt the first time.

Thank you so much for sharing.


licitalot247 49M
1 post
9/19/2020 9:59 pm

That's fu... up.. why be on a site like this if your not DTF and do exactly that.....
Sorry you have experienced this... may be we could chat sometine


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