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Romantics vs NonRomantics  

DapperDan37 48M
9 posts
12/1/2010 10:21 am
Romantics vs NonRomantics

I always viewed myself as a romantic. Looking at myself in a realistic way I am far from that. What it boils down to when<b> pegging </font></b>yourself is if you believe in having a soulmate out there in the world just tailor made for you. In my younger days i believed it to be true, now I am not as convinced. In fact I view potential partners as someone I could grow to love. That's the NonRomantic way. Romantics believe there is only one true love for them. I mean romantics in the truest form of love like Romeo and Juliet.

What changed my point of view exactly. I am not sure when it happened. I do know that my sexual experiences and the ever growing varying of opinions that are widely available now. Thanks to the internet, have played an influential part in my beliefs.

At first I wanted my sexual experiences to be with females I loved in some way. As women came and went through the years, I discovered I didnt need to feel love for them to have sex. While the thought sounds awful in theory, it is the entire reason why some of us are here on AdultFriendFinder. The majority of people here on AdultFriendFinder are not looking for love. Dont ourselves that we are. If your profile states you are willing to accept friends with benefits or anything beyond just one female and one man together. Then you are not looking for true love as it explained in the holy bible and ultimately the way it should be in the world. At best we are looking for a connection, or someone to pass time with while we wait for something better to come along. It sounds cruel, i know, actions speak louder than words.

All married/attached people would probably agree to some extent. The singles crowd is where things get cloudy for them. They want the best of both worlds, have someone that is great in bed but at same time have no commitment whatsoever. When singles go searching for bedmates, I doubt they are asking themselves if they are in love. I know I wasnt when I realized I could fuck females without being in love. I am being a realist now in stating that I dont have to be in love with you to screw you. Perhaps it is a male thing, I dunno.

Yeah I get you do need some kind of connection with your potential sex partner. It doesn't even have to be a huge connection. Maybe something small like just lust, a crush, he has money, she is hot, big tits, big dick, etc, etc. All I am saying is that love is not necessary , nor required to be able to fuck them. Otherwise all of us would not have so many skeletons in our closet. Lord knows I have my share.

Sex has been around for ages yet we are all still fascinated by it. It sells and is around us everywhere we are. I am drawn to it like a moth to light. I am a human being that craves sexual attention.


Cleaningupthefog 50F

12/2/2010 11:02 am

nicely expressed!
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rm_loveslilies 54F
36251 posts
12/7/2010 6:12 pm

I no longer believe there is someone tailor made for a person either.. it may seem that way but people change.
I am a realist myself.

If Love Is Not The Answer,
Then I Misunderstood The Question


DapperDan37 48M
243 posts
12/9/2010 5:31 am

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I am truly sorry for your divorce. It really sucks you could not work out your differences. But it just may be a blessing in disguise, you just never know.


DapperDan37 48M
243 posts
12/10/2010 7:56 am

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I sent you email response ...I think you got it. Not sure. I can repost here if you didn't receive.


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