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Let me be your boy-toy. (Food for thought)  

Daytimer09B 52M
414 posts
4/24/2020 12:23 pm
Let me be your boy-toy. (Food for thought)


You can't help but see so many profiles saying they want meet someone for _____, but do they really mean it? Even people who may match 0% with do not return emails or other points of contact. So do they really want meet someone or are they just here because they thing it is a fun place hang out and write things they think about but do not have any plans on acting on. The blogs are great because people interact, however, they are not there meet people. Nothing wrong with that as I feel I have made a lot of friends who I may or may not ever meet if I travel their area for vacation or wor But it just seems a shame that so much sexual desire goes untapped and so many connections close by are not real. I would just love be someone's boy-toy (of my preference type) one time. I would love to meet a female who would want to be my girl-toy just because they wanted a little adventure and fun. I am in great shape currently but in years to come I know I will most likely fall off more and will have less and less stamina. To bad people on here only live in a fantasy world. So what do you think? am I right? and what percentage of individuals return your correspondence (not including the blogs)? I bet I get about 5% or less. I must really look hideous.

Daytimer09B 52M
770 posts
4/24/2020 12:24 pm

I think I must have too much time on my hands.


author51 57F  
96173 posts
4/24/2020 10:57 pm

I also reply to every single email whether I am interested or not..I will be back to meeting when all this is done my friend as I have one or two local men I am interested in and chat with daily.. I would love to meet fellow bloggers like you and others as well..xoxo

One can never have enough JOY in their life...


Daytimer09B replies on 4/26/2020 7:36 am:
I've always wanted to attend one of those Bloggers Bashes that use to be popular about 6 years ago. I really have not heard of them much since. But of course, I want to go to one where I will know and have exchanged comments with the most bloggers. Otherwise it would just be total strangers and that would not be fun. I love getting to know people through the blogs. The few bloggers I have met have been great. It is like meeting an old friend who you have not seen in a long time. Hard to believe it is the first time you have actually met in person. Stay safe and enJOY life!

TicklePlease 52F  
12784 posts
4/25/2020 6:01 am

I'll reply to emails that are from men who have read my profile and fit my basic description of what I'm seeking. The rest of them are like wolf whistles or catcalls from someone driving by. Why on earth would I reply to someone who can clearly read that they don't fit what I'm looking for but doesn't care?

Is it a fantasy world for women to want to meet someone to casually date and have sex with on a regular basis without the pressure of further relationships? That seems to be what most of the real women here want, I wonder why that's so hard to find? I think it's because most of the men here treat the site and the women here as masturbatory aids. Men wonder what the percentage of real women here is... and real women wonder what the percentage of single men who have their own place is. I'd bet there are more real women looking for fwb than there are truly available men.


Daytimer09B replies on 4/26/2020 7:40 am:
Interesting take Tickle. I agree with you that only the deserving should get responses and not those who simply write "Want to..." I think anyone should be able to tell the difference between a decent person who at least deserves a thanks but not meeting at the present and those who are just as you mentioned. There are SO many fake female profiles that it does also skew's numbers. I always try to look up and see if they have a blog so I know they are real. Unfortunately for me, it seems no one anywhere close to my area ever blogs. Thanks for your comments and have a wonderful week!

lust4life59 61F  
458 posts
4/25/2020 6:12 am

I'm guilty of not responding to every email I recieve, but I will say I do read them. There are a lot of scammers on here, took me a while to figure out who was likely to be real and who wasn't. I get a lot of comments about my pictures, video, and profile in general, those I will respond to, even if it's just to say thank you. If someone is close geographically, I prefer to meet in person rather than exchange lengthy emails to get know them (Pre covid days that is).


Daytimer09B replies on 4/26/2020 7:44 am:
I like that you're being genuine. To many on here hiding behind a profile name. I know women have to be a little more cautious than men. But if you are responding to those deserving I would put you up in the "has Class" category. Thanks!

HeartCollector 63F  

4/25/2020 7:49 am

I read and respond to all my mail here. I responded to a man about a month ago and although we're in the midst of social distancing, I’m getting to know him and I’m enjoying it.

The gladdest hours we know are those shared with a friend or two. Wilbur D. Nesbit


Daytimer09B replies on 4/26/2020 7:47 am:
HC, I am so proud of you for taking a chance to get to know someone. I have met a few wonderful people on here and I feel like our friendship since we do not live close enough to ever meet will last a very long time. I still have those friends from here who are no longer around the site from back in 2009 when I first started blogging before I took time off and came back. Good luck and keep optimistic!

BiggLala 48F  
28510 posts
4/25/2020 9:58 pm

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    I'll reply to emails that are from men who have read my profile and fit my basic description of what I'm seeking. The rest of them are like wolf whistles or catcalls from someone driving by. Why on earth would I reply to someone who can clearly read that they don't fit what I'm looking for but doesn't care?

    Is it a fantasy world for women to want to meet someone to casually date and have sex with on a regular basis without the pressure of further relationships? That seems to be what most of the real women here want, I wonder why that's so hard to find? I think it's because most of the men here treat the site and the women here as masturbatory aids. Men wonder what the percentage of real women here is... and real women wonder what the percentage of single men who have their own place is. I'd bet there are more real women looking for fwb than there are truly available men.
100% THIS!!!!

Daytimer, you said, "...people who may match 0% with do not return emails or other points of contact." Am I right in assuming the word-eating glitch edited that 0% from what you originally intended to be 100%? If so, then I wonder how you can assert that people 100% match here (or anywhere)? It's one thing to *think* you match with someone, it's another matter entirely for the other person to think the same. I receive far too many messages from men who, somehow, think we seek the same thing, but they're NOwhere near close to my basic (and I do mean BASIC) criterion.

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Daytimer09B replies on 4/26/2020 7:54 am:
Yes I did mean 100%, thanks for pointing out that it did not post that way. I was using that as an example although I know that would be extremely rare to match that high. But I would think if you were 75% or more of a match you might at least respond to an email. You never know what your actual percentage and compatitbility would be if you do not at least give it a chance. Otherwise, why be on here and representing yourself as looking to meet someone. I have great respect for those who state, "Only on here for the blogs", "Not looking to meet at the present time" or something of that nature. They are being very forth coming even if they are activily searching and just want to be in the drivers seat. Then, anyone who writes them derserves to not get a response. I have in the past sent emails out to women across the world who I felt had great profile pictures and was simply complimenting them on the picture and not trying to hook up or something. Most of them have replied back with a "Thank you!" Those women I admire and thank for taking the time to reply although there was no need. Thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment.

BiggLala 48F  
28510 posts
4/26/2020 7:16 pm

But I would think if you were 75% or more of a match you might at least respond to an email.
-That's the thing, how can one quantify that? I won't speak for Tickleplease where she said "basic description", but for me "basic" means: single, local, and within the age range I list. I can quantify that 99% of the messages I receive are from married/attached men, men just seeking hookups, and/or those who are traveling here on business and want sex for the evening. Their messages aren't necessarily crude (like 'wanna f... ' ). But...why should I respond when they don't meet the basic minimum I ask for?

And I do respond to those that compliment me on my pics.

I disagree that those who say on their profile that they're just here to blog, but are really still actively seeking are being upfront. That's actually not being upfront at all. I can, and do, represent myself as someone looking to meet, but I do NOT meet with just anyone. I am very much in the driver's seat of who I choose to interact with and meet.

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Daytimer09B replies on 4/27/2020 1:18 pm:
If their profile says married or like you said, just passing through for a hook-up I would 100% agree with you not feeling obligated to respond. But I also do not think the married guys would match your profile choice. I do think that is part of the problem with the way this site does things so that a person does not see enough free information to quantify whether or not there is a match. I use to pay for this site when I was on here before but the results were the exact same as what they are now as a free membership person. The only difference is that I don't get to see all the pictures, and that is okay because I am not here for all the pictures, especially when I have seen some of the profile pictures the same for over 10 years. I am sure they probably look a little different now. Even though mine is the same as it was from before. I update it yearly. Getting ready to update it again since I have lost about 15 lbs. since the last time. Good luck with your quest and thanks for commenting.

BiggLala 48F  
28510 posts
4/27/2020 9:31 pm

I do think that is part of the problem with the way this site does things so that a person does not see enough free information to quantify whether or not there is a match.
-I don't know what you mean here. Are you speaking of IM? If so, I do not use IM so the only members who contact me are those that have the ability to send messages via the message center, i.e. gold members or those that paid points to view my profile. Thus, there is NO reason they cannot read my profile; plus, I have my full profile available on my blog. There are no excuses for any member not to have read and respected my profile choices. But that's just me, and nothing to do with how the site is structured.

Take care.

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Daytimer09B replies on 4/28/2020 7:57 am:
The site will allow you to send an email using points without paying to see their full profile. I think a lot of people do that so that their points go further. It would be nice if more people put their entire profile in their blog but first they would have to have one. And secondly, the site admin would then make blogs not free anymore if that were to happen. Just my guess based on other things they have done.

BiggLala 48F  
28510 posts
4/28/2020 9:42 pm

The site will allow you to send an email using points without paying to see their full profile.
-I see what you mean now, and I was aware that people can do that. However, I think that is irresponsible and makes no one deserving of a response, regardless of how 'polite' their message. Basically, that person is choosing to ignore someone's profile and send, what is the equivalent of, a spam message. It's the same issue as mentioned before with gold members; they [supposedly] read profile yet ignored it or didn't read it at all.

Also, going back to your (up to) 100% match statement...how can someone remotely think they match what the person seeks if they did not read the person's profile? How can they possibly make that assessment?

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