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Ellasboudoir 56F
1083 posts
6/14/2021 5:58 pm
Sexless Marriage


Good Evening my fellow playmates,

I always wonder how many people on here are in a sexless marriage. Perhaps you are happily married otherwise but you just don't have sex with your partner for whatever reason. Sickness, age, lack of libido, incompatible, loss of desire for the other person...

I too was once in a sexless marriage it was so lonely and frustrating. I eventually left but it was hard.

Have you ever been in a sexless relationship?? If so how did you cope?

Ella

NJGUY08090 55M
4099 posts
6/14/2021 6:05 pm

I was in a sexless marriage and I left it only to find out she was having sex with her boss the last two years we were married. If you going to have your fun at least let me have mine.


Kumabear75 46M  
33 posts
6/14/2021 6:21 pm

Morning Ella,

I am in a sexless marriage at the moment. Cutting out the long and boring details, something went wrong a long time ago and while we tried to patch things up, the sex just evaporated. So, it is more a marriage of keeping up appearances. All avenues of escape are ugly, drawn out and expensive, so biding my time till the least ugly presents itself.

I cope here mostly. Talking to people, making friends, sharing fantasies, ideas and expanding my sexual knowledge. Over the years, I have met a couple of people but busy lives and careers mean we rarely get together, so most coping is online with friends overseas.

Porn is a relief too, of course but I that's pretty much a given, don't you think?


69ereatwetpussy 59M
6192 posts
6/14/2021 6:59 pm

been in a sexless marriage for years now. I master bate a lot.
i've met a few ladies from this sight
I have a friend I met in a gentlemen bar we have hooked up she wonder to me and I to her.
I still love her if she ever want it im here but she dont want to.


flannel_light 59F  
4197 posts
6/14/2021 7:31 pm

I wasn't in a sexless marriage but was in a relationship with out sex and after awhile, I left. For me it's more of the touching, kissing and so forth that went with the sex that was missing.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


MrRareity 61M  
4506 posts
6/14/2021 8:06 pm

I have not been in a sexless marriage. However, I was in a relationship where we got along so very well. We could talk for hours, we enjoyed being in each others company. The thing that was missing was a lack of physical attraction on my part for her. No matter how much I enjoyed being with her I knew we would only be friends. One of the hardest things I've done was when I ended things. What made it hard is know how much I hurt her but it was for the best.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


naughtyultimate1 60M

6/14/2021 8:32 pm

my latest divorce worked like that


xgoodtimes89 32M
38 posts
6/14/2021 8:41 pm

It is rough when your partner does initiate or try anything new.


daddy4son2000 73M
112 posts
6/14/2021 9:29 pm

I have been in a sexless marriage for over 20 yrs. I have had a few affairs and been in a relationship with a much younger woman for 20 yrs. At my age sex is not like it once was, but what I can give she loves and keeps it only for me.


oldbstrd55 64M
3212 posts
6/14/2021 9:43 pm

You don't have to be alone to be lonely. It was like that with my wife. the last 5 yrs we were together, mostly health, but the distance started before that. She passed away 4yrs ago. The week before she died, she asked why I didn't touch her anymore, sadly I had to remind her she told me she didn't want me to. I've been in a relationship with me myself and I for quit sometime now.


Mdonson57 60M
503 posts
6/15/2021 12:47 am

Sexless due to health reasons. So won’t leave as it’s not by choice. So dove into gym. Met a few here in similar straits and we help each other.

MDonson
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spunkycumfun 61M/66F
39316 posts
6/15/2021 2:02 am

Fortunately I've never been in a sexless relationship; it's not a place I want to go!


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6/15/2021 4:33 am

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JDMurray123 57M
2788 posts
6/15/2021 5:02 am

SO many of the comments above apply to my marriage. Sex was never over the top, but over the years it just kept getting more frequent, and more frequent, and more frequent. Get it!! LOL
Now, i have fantasy chats with quite a few people online, and YES have met up (prior to Covid) with some of these woman. I never pretend that I am single, and play all the cards upfront. At this age, I just want to have fun, and experience things that I KNOW will never happen in my marriage.

Everyone have a GREAT DAY!!


Unzipmeslowly51 51M
546 posts
6/15/2021 5:05 am

This happens to nearly all of us on here. Usually why we come here. My wife and i wirk opposite shifts so any sex is few and far. I need more as i get older...maybe this site makes me want more.


cyclingfool 59M  
6633 posts
6/15/2021 5:38 am

I was in what became a sexless, or nearly sexless ltr. We broke up a few years ago. If and when we had sex it was usually really good, but months on end with none. But when we did there was a hint of kink to it sometimes. So that was fun.
My current relationship we have sex fairly regularly, but it is sorta boring and predictable. So I still feel as is I'm missing something.
My ex would weaponize our past sex acts, If she was in a bitter mood she'd say remember when I did this to you and where..... My response would be I remember when WE DID THAT and it was your idea, yes. Not that she was ever ordered to do anything.
So I'm gun shy now to ask to much for kink (which is very mild) in fear of having our fun together weaponized against me down the road.


author51 58F  
125947 posts
6/15/2021 6:01 am

I was with my LTR live in commonlaw for 8 years and found out he had been cheating on me. I kicked his ass to the curb and enjoy being single again. I am one other than if there is health issues with the other, if you are not in love with them anymore and only staying for the Financial security, Leave before you cheat..Just my personal preference and view..


profcoquin27bis 57M
4182 posts
6/15/2021 6:10 am

actualy i am in


shogun_269u_II 59M
131 posts
6/15/2021 12:19 pm

In one right now that just got worse!
Sex with my wifey has been mostly off again for several years! Just because she doesnt care for it...much. ANd always the same ol boring thing when we did it
Suffer from Chronic Kidney Disease (did not know what that was until Jan of this year). CKD has led to ED. Started with Viagra but found it caused blinding headaches. Tried Cialis then Levitra only to find out I am sensitive to it and causes sever joint pain!
So no ED help for me!
Night before last she told me she was happy we no longer had to worry about sex and she was relieved I would not go off and find someone else to have sex with because I cant get an erection! Seriously who would have any interest in an ol broken down man
sigh life is just awful right now!


paulslookn 63M
562 posts
6/15/2021 3:07 pm

After 2 children, My first wife was a "nun".....Nun in the morning and nun at night. When it got to about once every six weeks, I had had enough. We had become roommates instead of lovers. I did not want to live like that. Fairly amicable divorce followed. Second wife screwed my brains out until 4 months after we got married. She then turned it COMPLETELY OFF for a year. I left. 3rd wife was pretty sexual and playful.......she died of lung cancer. Current wife is a once every 3 days type and pretty vanilla but it is OK.


FresnoWoman 50F
883 posts
6/15/2021 4:19 pm

I was in a sexless marriage. He was fine with it being a companionate deal; I wasn't. So I got a divorce. I don't intend to ever get married again. It's not my thing at all. But I would like to have a significant other again, just as long as we live separately.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:07 pm

    Quoting NJGUY08090:
    I was in a sexless marriage and I left it only to find out she was having sex with her boss the last two years we were married. If you going to have your fun at least let me have mine.
Agreed!! She could have just told you.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:09 pm

    Quoting Kumabear75:
    Morning Ella,

    I am in a sexless marriage at the moment. Cutting out the long and boring details, something went wrong a long time ago and while we tried to patch things up, the sex just evaporated. So, it is more a marriage of keeping up appearances. All avenues of escape are ugly, drawn out and expensive, so biding my time till the least ugly presents itself.

    I cope here mostly. Talking to people, making friends, sharing fantasies, ideas and expanding my sexual knowledge. Over the years, I have met a couple of people but busy lives and careers mean we rarely get together, so most coping is online with friends overseas.

    Porn is a relief too, of course but I that's pretty much a given, don't you think?
Yes, it takes time and patience. You will know when the time is right. Sad that people have to waste precious time waiting on an oppurtunity. It is not fair.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:11 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    been in a sexless marriage for years now. I master bate a lot.
    i've met a few ladies from this sight
    I have a friend I met in a gentlemen bar we have hooked up she wonder to me and I to her.
    I still love her if she ever want it im here but she dont want to.
Aaaahhh I am sorry to hear this. Maybe you will find a playmate soon. In the meantime, masturbating is not a bad thing. It works and there is no drama!!


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:12 pm

    Quoting flannel_light:
    I wasn't in a sexless marriage but was in a relationship with out sex and after awhile, I left. For me it's more of the touching, kissing and so forth that went with the sex that was missing.
I agree I need that more than sex. BUT I love both.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:13 pm

    Quoting MrRareity:
    I have not been in a sexless marriage. However, I was in a relationship where we got along so very well. We could talk for hours, we enjoyed being in each others company. The thing that was missing was a lack of physical attraction on my part for her. No matter how much I enjoyed being with her I knew we would only be friends. One of the hardest things I've done was when I ended things. What made it hard is know how much I hurt her but it was for the best.
YIKES!! that is hard. But you are right it was for the best.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:14 pm

    Quoting  :

OOhhh I am sorry for your loss. Yes, cancer is a bitch and it does a lot of damage in many forms. Hopefully, you will find a nice lady soon.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:15 pm

Sorry to hear that but glad you escaped.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:15 pm

    Quoting xgoodtimes89:
    It is rough when your partner does initiate or try anything new.
Yes very


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:16 pm

    Quoting daddy4son2000:
    I have been in a sexless marriage for over 20 yrs. I have had a few affairs and been in a relationship with a much younger woman for 20 yrs. At my age sex is not like it once was, but what I can give she loves and keeps it only for me.
Good for you.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:17 pm

    Quoting oldbstrd55:
    You don't have to be alone to be lonely. It was like that with my wife. the last 5 yrs we were together, mostly health, but the distance started before that. She passed away 4yrs ago. The week before she died, she asked why I didn't touch her anymore, sadly I had to remind her she told me she didn't want me to. I've been in a relationship with me myself and I for quit sometime now.
Oohhh that is sad. I am sorry for your loss.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:17 pm

    Quoting Mdonson57:
    Sexless due to health reasons. So won’t leave as it’s not by choice. So dove into gym. Met a few here in similar straits and we help each other.
Understood. Glad you found someone to help you.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:18 pm

    Quoting  :

You deserve that.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:18 pm

    Quoting  :

I mean you deserve someone who desires you.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:19 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    Fortunately I've never been in a sexless relationship; it's not a place I want to go!
Consider yourself blessed.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:19 pm


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:22 pm

    Quoting JDMurray123:
    SO many of the comments above apply to my marriage. Sex was never over the top, but over the years it just kept getting more frequent, and more frequent, and more frequent. Get it!! LOL
    Now, i have fantasy chats with quite a few people online, and YES have met up (prior to Covid) with some of these woman. I never pretend that I am single, and play all the cards upfront. At this age, I just want to have fun, and experience things that I KNOW will never happen in my marriage.

    Everyone have a GREAT DAY!!
LOL Understood. Fantasy is great!!!!


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:23 pm

    Quoting Unzipmeslowly51:
    This happens to nearly all of us on here. Usually why we come here. My wife and i wirk opposite shifts so any sex is few and far. I need more as i get older...maybe this site makes me want more.
Sad but true. It would be nice if everyone was happily married on all levels.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:24 pm

    Quoting cyclingfool:
    I was in what became a sexless, or nearly sexless ltr. We broke up a few years ago. If and when we had sex it was usually really good, but months on end with none. But when we did there was a hint of kink to it sometimes. So that was fun.
    My current relationship we have sex fairly regularly, but it is sorta boring and predictable. So I still feel as is I'm missing something.
    My ex would weaponize our past sex acts, If she was in a bitter mood she'd say remember when I did this to you and where..... My response would be I remember when WE DID THAT and it was your idea, yes. Not that she was ever ordered to do anything.
    So I'm gun shy now to ask to much for kink (which is very mild) in fear of having our fun together weaponized against me down the road.
To hell with it. Ask for what you want. Go for it.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:25 pm

    Quoting author51:
    I was with my LTR live in commonlaw for 8 years and found out he had been cheating on me. I kicked his ass to the curb and enjoy being single again. I am one other than if there is health issues with the other, if you are not in love with them anymore and only staying for the Financial security, Leave before you cheat..Just my personal preference and view..
Agreed people deserve better.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:26 pm

Hum so you are in a sexless relationship currently??


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:29 pm

    Quoting shogun_269u_II:
    In one right now that just got worse!
    Sex with my wifey has been mostly off again for several years! Just because she doesnt care for it...much. ANd always the same ol boring thing when we did it
    Suffer from Chronic Kidney Disease (did not know what that was until Jan of this year). CKD has led to ED. Started with Viagra but found it caused blinding headaches. Tried Cialis then Levitra only to find out I am sensitive to it and causes sever joint pain!
    So no ED help for me!
    Night before last she told me she was happy we no longer had to worry about sex and she was relieved I would not go off and find someone else to have sex with because I cant get an erection! Seriously who would have any interest in an ol broken down man
    sigh life is just awful right now!
Well that is a bum thing to say. I wouldn't give up on the old mister yet. You need to do more research on ED there may be help out there. OR maybe you just need someone to help him along.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:30 pm

    Quoting paulslookn:
    After 2 children, My first wife was a "nun".....Nun in the morning and nun at night. When it got to about once every six weeks, I had had enough. We had become roommates instead of lovers. I did not want to live like that. Fairly amicable divorce followed. Second wife screwed my brains out until 4 months after we got married. She then turned it COMPLETELY OFF for a year. I left. 3rd wife was pretty sexual and playful.......she died of lung cancer. Current wife is a once every 3 days type and pretty vanilla but it is OK.
Well you have had the range.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
6/15/2021 7:31 pm

    Quoting FresnoWoman:
    I was in a sexless marriage. He was fine with it being a companionate deal; I wasn't. So I got a divorce. I don't intend to ever get married again. It's not my thing at all. But I would like to have a significant other again, just as long as we live separately.
Girl that is me. I left and never looked back. I love my current guy but I don't want to get married.


Fluffypincushion 42M
2 posts
6/15/2021 10:17 pm

Masturbation and Porn were about the only things that kept me going.


shogun_269u_II 59M
131 posts
6/16/2021 5:34 am

    Quoting Ellasboudoir:
    Well that is a bum thing to say. I wouldn't give up on the old mister yet. You need to do more research on ED there may be help out there. OR maybe you just need someone to help him along.
Thank your providing hope! Would luv to find someone to lend a hand but have not had luck in quite some time! But again I guess there is hope...thanks!


boobwhisperer69 58M  
7832 posts
6/16/2021 9:41 am

    Quoting FresnoWoman:
    I was in a sexless marriage. He was fine with it being a companionate deal; I wasn't. So I got a divorce. I don't intend to ever get married again. It's not my thing at all. But I would like to have a significant other again, just as long as we live separately.
Amen to that!!!!!


Go_Down_Cowboy_2 60M
923 posts
6/20/2021 10:50 am

Everyone's got their stories. All sad, but I won't boar you with my sad story. But yes, I was in a sexless marriage. After 6 years of no sex...I left. We were married for 9 years and I was so bitter. Worst 6 years of my life...Truly.


rahim12310073 48M
17 posts
6/25/2021 8:17 am

in a sexless marriage for some time now. she has no libido or sex drive and doesn't enjoy sex. hope it will change soon.


agelesssexylegs 78F
1051 posts
6/25/2021 11:18 pm

    Quoting NJGUY08090:
    I was in a sexless marriage and I left it only to find out she was having sex with her boss the last two years we were married. If you going to have your fun at least let me have mine.
Oh yes so true,while married had to end up pleasuring myself as he said he was too tired,only after he retired early i found out why,could not compete with his many young PA's over the years but by time i found out i felt nothing for him by then


69sekttrinker 56M

6/26/2021 8:03 am

My last relation was like that. No Sex just (Word)fihgting.
Terribel. Finaly i left.


Kickmterifictony 44M
31 posts
6/28/2021 6:59 am

In one now. Not sure what to do but it's getting to me. Don't know how it got here but I'm in it and it sucks. Masturbating us good and all but I need some physical skin to skin touching and the warmth of another body. It is what it is


nova197238 58M
201 posts
7/1/2021 6:54 pm

I'm not in a completely sexless marriage, but it is certainly few and far between. Maybe it's busy schedules and long work days, then having to make dinner every night, that make us too tired for a romp at night during the week. But then something gets in the way of sex on the weekends as well and then another week has passed since we've had sex...and then another, and so on. But then when we eventually do have sex, it's great! It's just not often enough. Sigh.


exsquid46 62M
579 posts
7/4/2021 12:30 am

"Have you ever been in a sexless relationship?? If so how did you cope?" Yes I have been in a sexless marriage and it is truly frustrating. When the sex started slowing down I accepted it due to the fact that we had new born twins. But the time became longer and longer until it was only 4 times a year, and heaven help me if I was deployed on one of the chosen days. That day was lost, no make-up days. Having been deployed at times from 2 weeks to 9 months those stretches were bad enough, but I remained faithful. The sex stopped altogether after a few years of that. I guess after a while I just got use to no sex, that just pushed me to work longer hours. I would work till I was just too tired to care any longer. Too bad I was the only one being deprived. It wasn't till after I left that I found out the real reason the sex stopped.


Blux615 52M
2 posts
7/4/2021 6:47 am

Yup, after my hand just got tired, I searched out for a FWB in the same position...took awhile but we clicked and live super similar home lives, best thing I ever did and we became great friends in general. Everyday was exciting again. Things have simmered down over the past year.
Hard to find someone you click with but regret I didn't do it sooner!


alwaysthinking57 57M  
22 posts
7/6/2021 5:39 am

I lasted 10 years and finally had enough and the crap she did behind my back was amazing but sometimes you got to pull the trigger and get on with life


downtown0669 54M
151 posts
7/7/2021 1:28 pm

Hi, I am in a sexless marriage and it sucks. I am staying for the children and that's it. I am hoping to have some fun now being on AdultFriendFinder, but it's hard...


JL616nsa 23M
17 posts
7/8/2021 6:09 am

Sounds like a bad time


BiSussi 61F
1189 posts
7/9/2021 6:27 am

    Quoting NJGUY08090:
    I was in a sexless marriage and I left it only to find out she was having sex with her boss the last two years we were married. If you going to have your fun at least let me have mine.
It makes me sad to read your lines
Thank God you left, it would have been a waste of time to stay
What was it you could not provide at home, so she ended up with her boss???
Hope all is working just perfectly for you know


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FitDaddy71 62M
178 posts
7/9/2021 1:14 pm

40+ years, more than half of which I have slept on the front porch couch. Now you couldn't get me back into her bedroom. Yes, it SUX! Communication/intimacy isn't there any more. I once cared by now I do not. Plus she has now retired and lays in bed watching movies and eating till she gets up to fix supper after which she sits in the chair and watches more stuff on her computer. I LOVE my kids and grandchildren. That is why I came back after a brief separation. They all more or less sided with her. So damned if I do, damned if I don't. Not everyone who is looking outside of their marriage is an asshole. Some of us just want someone to be with who wants to be with us.


FitDaddy71 62M
178 posts
7/9/2021 1:21 pm

40+ years, more than half of which I have slept on the front porch couch. Now you couldn't get me back into her bedroom. Yes, it SUX! Communication/intimacy isn't there any more. I once cared by now I do not. Plus she has now retired and lays in bed watching movies and eating till she gets up to fix supper after which she sits in the chair and watches more stuff on her computer. I LOVE my kids and grandchildren. That is why I came back after a brief separation. They all more or less sided with her. So damned if I do, damned if I don't. Not everyone who is looking outside of their marriage is an asshole. Some of us just want someone to be with who wants to be with us.

My dad was a skirt chaser from earliest childhood memories. My mother was both a social and physical reclusive. I don't ever remember hugs and kisses, not even when I got sick. Sex was initiated by my wife before the wedding but afterwards it was like pulling teeth. And then came all the health issues, learning she was on meds since 14 for manic depression. Then operation to remove things at 38. That was the beginning of a very quick end. I only remember one time in over 40 yrs of marriage actually having fun sex. Usually she just laid there or only wanted to be finger f*cked.

I remember my dad crying on his death bed that all he wanted was to lay with a woman one more time. Little did I know that would be my cry as well.


BiSussi 61F
1189 posts
7/9/2021 9:21 pm

    Quoting FitDaddy71:
    40+ years, more than half of which I have slept on the front porch couch. Now you couldn't get me back into her bedroom. Yes, it SUX! Communication/intimacy isn't there any more. I once cared by now I do not. Plus she has now retired and lays in bed watching movies and eating till she gets up to fix supper after which she sits in the chair and watches more stuff on her computer. I LOVE my kids and grandchildren. That is why I came back after a brief separation. They all more or less sided with her. So damned if I do, damned if I don't. Not everyone who is looking outside of their marriage is an asshole. Some of us just want someone to be with who wants to be with us.

    My dad was a skirt chaser from earliest childhood memories. My mother was both a social and physical reclusive. I don't ever remember hugs and kisses, not even when I got sick. Sex was initiated by my wife before the wedding but afterwards it was like pulling teeth. And then came all the health issues, learning she was on meds since 14 for manic depression. Then operation to remove things at 38. That was the beginning of a very quick end. I only remember one time in over 40 yrs of marriage actually having fun sex. Usually she just laid there or only wanted to be finger f*cked.

    I remember my dad crying on his death bed that all he wanted was to lay with a woman one more time. Little did I know that would be my cry as well.
I feel for you !!!
How can you only go on day for day without love?


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Lippenbalsam 60M
304 posts
7/9/2021 11:11 pm

Hi,
I am still happily single.
So far always nice friendships or affairs.
No lies, no cheating, no injuries, and I can have fun with whoever I want and when I want.
If sex wasn't fun anymore: goodbye, and have a good life!
And no legacy sneaks with whom I have to live suspiciously.
Feels good to me.

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oknew 71M
3 posts
7/10/2021 1:10 pm

I have been in a sexless marriage for about 6 yrs. Was great for 50 years, she didn't want any after that but it seemed like I needed more. Old married guy as I am can't seem to find any MF. happily married still but need some sexual satisfaction thats not done by my self. hehe


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:11 pm

    Quoting Fluffypincushion:
    Masturbation and Porn were about the only things that kept me going.
I get that I understand it. That was my life too.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:13 pm

    Quoting  :

Well, I hope it does for your sake. I do understand this though.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:14 pm

    Quoting Go_Down_Cowboy_2:
    Everyone's got their stories. All sad, but I won't boar you with my sad story. But yes, I was in a sexless marriage. After 6 years of no sex...I left. We were married for 9 years and I was so bitter. Worst 6 years of my life...Truly.
I can't imagine anyone going 6 years without wanting to f*** you!!! But glad you got out.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:15 pm

    Quoting rahim12310073:
    in a sexless marriage for some time now. she has no libido or sex drive and doesn't enjoy sex. hope it will change soon.
Unfortantuantly probably not, sad to say. But I hope it will.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:16 pm

    Quoting agelesssexylegs:
    Oh yes so true,while married had to end up pleasuring myself as he said he was too tired,only after he retired early i found out why,could not compete with his many young PA's over the years but by time i found out i felt nothing for him by then
Bastard. Damn him for doing that to you.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:18 pm

    Quoting 69sekttrinker:
    My last relation was like that. No Sex just (Word)fihgting.
    Terribel. Finaly i left.
Good for you. I hope you find happiness.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:19 pm

    Quoting  :

Sorry to hear that.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:21 pm

    Quoting Kickmterifictony:
    In one now. Not sure what to do but it's getting to me. Don't know how it got here but I'm in it and it sucks. Masturbating us good and all but I need some physical skin to skin touching and the warmth of another body. It is what it is
Yes, it sucks and it takes a lot of time and trouble to figure out how to get out of this type of situation. I hope you find your way out soon.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:22 pm

    Quoting nova197238:
    I'm not in a completely sexless marriage, but it is certainly few and far between. Maybe it's busy schedules and long work days, then having to make dinner every night, that make us too tired for a romp at night during the week. But then something gets in the way of sex on the weekends as well and then another week has passed since we've had sex...and then another, and so on. But then when we eventually do have sex, it's great! It's just not often enough. Sigh.
Yeah, that sucks but trust me when I say if people really want to have sex they will find the time and a way. I hope things change for you soon.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:24 pm

    Quoting exsquid46:
    "Have you ever been in a sexless relationship?? If so how did you cope?" Yes I have been in a sexless marriage and it is truly frustrating. When the sex started slowing down I accepted it due to the fact that we had new born twins. But the time became longer and longer until it was only 4 times a year, and heaven help me if I was deployed on one of the chosen days. That day was lost, no make-up days. Having been deployed at times from 2 weeks to 9 months those stretches were bad enough, but I remained faithful. The sex stopped altogether after a few years of that. I guess after a while I just got use to no sex, that just pushed me to work longer hours. I would work till I was just too tired to care any longer. Too bad I was the only one being deprived. It wasn't till after I left that I found out the real reason the sex stopped.
Let me guess...another person was involved. So sad! I hope you are happy now thougth.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:25 pm

    Quoting Blux615:
    Yup, after my hand just got tired, I searched out for a FWB in the same position...took awhile but we clicked and live super similar home lives, best thing I ever did and we became great friends in general. Everyday was exciting again. Things have simmered down over the past year.
    Hard to find someone you click with but regret I didn't do it sooner!
Well, hopefully, you will find someone soon. You deserve it.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:26 pm

    Quoting alwaysthinking57:
    I lasted 10 years and finally had enough and the crap she did behind my back was amazing but sometimes you got to pull the trigger and get on with life
Yes Sir you do.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:29 pm

    Quoting downtown0669:
    Hi, I am in a sexless marriage and it sucks. I am staying for the children and that's it. I am hoping to have some fun now being on AdultFriendFinder, but it's hard...
Sorry, but staying for the children is not always a great idea. They know when things are shit and sometimes they carry that with them for decades. Here's to you and your ability to find someone who deserves you.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:29 pm

Yep


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:31 pm

    Quoting FitDaddy71:
    40+ years, more than half of which I have slept on the front porch couch. Now you couldn't get me back into her bedroom. Yes, it SUX! Communication/intimacy isn't there any more. I once cared by now I do not. Plus she has now retired and lays in bed watching movies and eating till she gets up to fix supper after which she sits in the chair and watches more stuff on her computer. I LOVE my kids and grandchildren. That is why I came back after a brief separation. They all more or less sided with her. So damned if I do, damned if I don't. Not everyone who is looking outside of their marriage is an asshole. Some of us just want someone to be with who wants to be with us.

    My dad was a skirt chaser from earliest childhood memories. My mother was both a social and physical reclusive. I don't ever remember hugs and kisses, not even when I got sick. Sex was initiated by my wife before the wedding but afterwards it was like pulling teeth. And then came all the health issues, learning she was on meds since 14 for manic depression. Then operation to remove things at 38. That was the beginning of a very quick end. I only remember one time in over 40 yrs of marriage actually having fun sex. Usually she just laid there or only wanted to be finger f*cked.

    I remember my dad crying on his death bed that all he wanted was to lay with a woman one more time. Little did I know that would be my cry as well.
This is sad and I am sorry to hear this. I hope you find happiness soon.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:32 pm

    Quoting Lippenbalsam:
    Hi,
    I am still happily single.
    So far always nice friendships or affairs.
    No lies, no cheating, no injuries, and I can have fun with whoever I want and when I want.
    If sex wasn't fun anymore: goodbye, and have a good life!
    And no legacy sneaks with whom I have to live suspiciously.
    Feels good to me.
Cleaver man.


Ellasboudoir 56F
526 posts
7/10/2021 6:33 pm

    Quoting oknew:
    I have been in a sexless marriage for about 6 yrs. Was great for 50 years, she didn't want any after that but it seemed like I needed more. Old married guy as I am can't seem to find any MF. happily married still but need some sexual satisfaction thats not done by my self. hehe
Agreed you need some p****!!! Hope you find it soon.


Allhard4u50 59M
1703 posts
7/13/2021 8:32 am

Yes…..I’m kinda in a sexless marriage…..Our sex drives are just opposite…..We maybe have sex once a month, if that much. It is satisfying, but not enough for me. She says she likes the sex and I can make her cum often, but then….she never initiates it. Idk…..not enough for me. I currently have a sexmate. We meet once a week….sometimes more. It’s very convenient for me. She is single has her own place and is fine with our physical relationship. I feel bad deceiving my spouse, but I need the sex….I know sorry excuse. My sex buddy and I have a roleplay scenario and it works out great…She is my babygirl and I am her daddy. She will do anything for me….to make daddy happy. We never kiss…..I know weird….we just fuck and suck….it’s just damn good hot sex….and I feel lucky I have this special friend.


Daytimer09B 53M
889 posts
7/13/2021 1:02 pm

Sometimes it is not even about being in a totally sex marriage but a one position only if ever marriage. I would also classify that as a sexless marriage if the other is not open to doing anything other than that. Masturbation would give you more enjoyment.


Hemideluxe64 55M  
1 post
9/1/2021 7:27 pm

Hi ella, im new to all this But yes i have been and currently still in a sexless marriage now . And as some of the people commented it is just so frustrating and depressing being attached but still feeling so alone all the time . Unfortunately still enjoy sex and the kissing and physical contact of intimacy. Trying to cope by looking here although not sure should be, guess guilt and doubt setting in. Just hard to come to terms with how we can go from the person who should be the most important thing in thier spouses eyes to someone who now doesnt seem to even warrant a passing thought. Sorry for rambling everyone just so tired of no intimacy w=and just being alone.


doclovespussy2 67M  
4 posts
11/6/2021 10:38 am

I would like to meet you for NSA sexual fun I am married with no sex I will be in Charleton tomorrow night


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