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Intimacy and Aging  

EroticMusings2 57F  
892 posts
1/31/2021 12:45 am
Intimacy and Aging

Sitting here tonight thinking about the stages of life itself, aging, bodies changing for us all.

Let's face it, most of us do not have near the bodies we used too. Not if you are in my age bracket. We are seeing things sag in ways we did not know were possible. Wrinkles, more gray hairs. It certainly does not make us feel terribly sexy to anyone. That within itself can and does play a large part in our confidence and self esteem. It takes a certain air of maturity to still carry yourself with some kind of pride.

Take me for instance, I have some health issues going on. That does not make me feel sexy in any manner. I am overweight, but always have been for the most part. So I certainly have to be with some one appreciates women in many forms. Luckily I am with a wonderful man who is very understanding and kind. I also have a anxiety issues. I hate driving on the interstate and will start to have a panic attack. That happened the other day and i had to have a talk with myself, and get it under control .

But this is the beautiful part if life, We can all still be intimate in some way as long as the desire is there. If you are a man perhaps on a given time you find you cant maintain a erection for whatever reason. Dont give up, try a cock ring , perhaps you need a little porn playing [hey it turns me on]. Maybe you need to switch up the scenario, or are just tired that day. A prostate massage can give you a wonderful strong orgasm and you do not need to be hard for that at all. So many things to try, and this is why they make toys, but you will have to wait for my nest post to read that.

Point is, do not give up. A nice massage still feels good to most people. Maybe you are just going to be cuddling, and that suffices. But when intimacy is stopped within a relationship is where the real downfall is. My spouse has always had trouble expressing his feelings for me. Not when we first got together but anymore. He just cant seem to open up, we were just talking about this. That makes this marriage rather lonely at time. But it is what it is, and I have my pet who is wonderfully open. So it completes that circle as it is.

Please forgive me if this post is kind of rambling. I have taken my muscle relaxers, so feeling a bit spacey.

Never stop expressing your feelings or desires

Ann


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justme51 70M
1689 posts
1/31/2021 4:04 am

This is a good blog. Yes as we all get older and age takes it’s toll, we have to except who we are.

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jajo696 66F
3955 posts
1/31/2021 7:04 am

Im glad you found someone who is patient and kind. That says it ALL...to me ~~

Yes...we must accept what we have been dealt, the key is to find another who can travel that journey with you and you travel his journey. Thats intimacy. Kudos !


Massass1963 58M

1/31/2021 7:36 am

I've never had any issues with erections. I will say that things that some things that used to turn me on are "old-hat" now and haven't the same effect. Other things, though, really are exciting. A sexy massage is among my current favorites that lead into hot sex!
If the day comes, and I suppose one day it does for all men and women where we don't get easily aroused or stay that way, I suppose there are a myriad of "treatments" for men. I hope they eventually come up with something for women. I know sexual dysfunctions affect women earlier and at higher rates, yet they seem to do nothing to help. What could is having stuff for men if their spouses need something but don't have anything?


fashionablegma 78F

1/31/2021 8:23 am

Oh wonders of clothing containing lycra and those push up bras suffice in many ways as you get older certainly helps boost my vanity and ego


EroticMusings2 57F  
390 posts
1/31/2021 10:39 pm

    Quoting fashionablegma:
    Oh wonders of clothing containing lycra and those push up bras suffice in many ways as you get older certainly helps boost my vanity and ego
I need to invest in some of both and some sexy lingerie.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
390 posts
1/31/2021 10:40 pm

    Quoting justme51:
    This is a good blog. Yes as we all get older and age takes it’s toll, we have to except who we are.
Thank you so much.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
390 posts
1/31/2021 10:41 pm

    Quoting jajo696:
    Im glad you found someone who is patient and kind. That says it ALL...to me ~~

    Yes...we must accept what we have been dealt, the key is to find another who can travel that journey with you and you travel his journey. Thats intimacy. Kudos !
That is the great dance called life indeed.

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EroticMusings2 57F  
390 posts
1/31/2021 10:44 pm

    Quoting Massass1963:
    I've never had any issues with erections. I will say that things that some things that used to turn me on are "old-hat" now and haven't the same effect. Other things, though, really are exciting. A sexy massage is among my current favorites that lead into hot sex!
    If the day comes, and I suppose one day it does for all men and women where we don't get easily aroused or stay that way, I suppose there are a myriad of "treatments" for men. I hope they eventually come up with something for women. I know sexual dysfunctions affect women earlier and at higher rates, yet they seem to do nothing to help. What could is having stuff for men if their spouses need something but don't have anything?
They actually are now developing new drugs all the time for women. Often times too it may be the woman's thyroid is way off kilter. IMany woman siffer from being terribly dry after menopause, also feeling like we are now so old that no one will find us attractive. I had to work at getting my libido back to the point it has always been, but I am so glad I did.

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Massass1963 58M

2/1/2021 5:36 am

    Quoting EroticMusings2:
    They actually are now developing new drugs all the time for women. Often times too it may be the woman's thyroid is way off kilter. IMany woman siffer from being terribly dry after menopause, also feeling like we are now so old that no one will find us attractive. I had to work at getting my libido back to the point it has always been, but I am so glad I did.
I was aware of one company that had something but only FDA approved with heavy restrictions.
You do bring up a good point. If you believe you aren't sexy to others that has a direct effect on your own libido and arousal. I don't think that is really any different for men, really. We like to think we are attractive to women, as well. If not, the first thing one might think is "why is she interested in me?" Then there is the added pressure of how do we compare to others he/she has had?
There are a lot of emotional, psychological aspects that come into play as one gets older, along with any medical issues.


lyavu 48F
1510 posts
2/1/2021 11:52 pm

I know I have a good body but that does not make men come running to me . I stay positive everyday despite I get alot of rejections. So do not feel bad, having a sexy body does not guarantee you a fun life like most think . Am glad you found a good man. POSITIVITY IS THE KEY. I always thank God I have a healthy life . Many would have wanted to be here but there gone and some are suffering.


BiLinda1967 54F
236 posts
2/19/2021 12:30 pm

Good blog we all deal with age in sex and daily life.

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