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GratefulGirl69 51F
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8/1/2018 2:48 pm
One-Season Wonders


So, it's Wednesday. I have almost survived my first Free Week of this new life (or rather new-old life) in which I a.m not trying to meet, date, and stay socially active. Sunday's meet-and-make-out with the married aside, I have been sticking to my guns and staying in, declining offers to get together with anyone- or even get into serious conversation with anyone who appears to have the objective of meeting in mind.

I will admit that it has been pretty tough, and I a.m. glad that I only have two more nights to survive before Squinkie comes home. Her birthday is coming up, and so I a.m looking forward to this next M.ommy Week even more than usual, as she will be aflutter with happy energy and hopeful plans regarding her birthday present.

Unless she changes her mind during this week with her father, her plan is to get a pet for her birthday. The whole pet thing is a somewhat difficult issue because she is only here half of the time, and that means that whatever pet she chooses for herself is going to, by default, become half my pet, as I will have to care for it in her absence.

That's why dogs and cats and any other creatures that require a lot of care and attention are out. Well, the thing is mainly out because of my apartment. If I lived in a house, I would probably want a myself, but this isn't the right kind of space and situation for a canine.

Given the full set of circumstances, the best options for pets are birds, fish, rodents, or lizard-like critters. We did the bird thing for her birthday four years ago, and we both regretted it. "Santa" delivered fish the following year, but M.ommy messed up and accidentally killed them via trace chemicals in the bucket used for cleaning and refilling the tank. And that wasn't the first time M.ommy did that, sadly; there was a similar incident back in her old married days.

So that leaves rodents and lizards as the best options, and as of last Friday, Squinkie was leaning towards hamsters or geckos. We will begin the search and decision-making process this Friday afternoon, and I only hope that she picks something that I will not find easy to neglect or kill when she is not here. Oh, the pressure!

But anyway, I have that to look forward to.

And I am surviving this week decently well, all things considered. It had been my initial intention to fill the week with binge-watching, but I haven't been able to get into the right mindset for that sort of thing. Or when I have been, I've been drawn to new shows, ones that are just being released and playing out their first seasons, like Castle Rock and Sharp Objects... and I haven't been able to bring myself to Go There.

You see, I have strong misgivings about getting onboard with a series during its first season. As with the meeting/dating thing, I have been burned before, and the memory and recognition of that causes me to hesitate, to be reluctant to get involved with a new show.

I mean, what if I love it, but it doesn't get renewed? What if it's a great show that leads me to desire a long-term viewership of it, inspires me to want to commit myself to being a part of its audience for the long haul? And what if it only has that o.ne season before it disappears? What if it goes away and leaves me high and dry, anxious and restless and wanting a More that will never come?

Like I said, I have been burned before in this way. I bear the scars inflicted by other O.ne-Season Wonders in the past. There have been shows that burst into my life, grabbing and leading me on a whirlwind adventure of excitement and joy and pleasure... only to stop playing after the newness wore off, dropping off of the map forever after that first cluster of episodes, leaving me ever frustrated and unfulfilled.

While my effort to avoid dwelling on negative experiences from the past leaves me with a somewhat fuzzy memory about specifics, I believe that my first truly disappointing experience of this type was with My So-Called Life. I was still newly married and my ex-hub and I were still spending a lot of time in front of the TV, something that gradually fell by the wayside as the years progressed. It was so thoughtful and unusual, so evocative and emotional... and we both fell for it. It became a part of our lives for a time, and when it was gone, it was something we had a hard time bringing ourselves to talk about afterwards. The sense of loss was too sharp.



You would think that we would have learned our lesson from that painful encounter, but we didn't, as we flew headlong- and unchecked- into a complete enjoyment of the different, yet still somewhat similar Freaks and Geeks when it popped up in our lives. The mix of interesting characters, familiar scenarios, and a sense of a sort of fresh nostalgia made it an immediate favorite, a real joy to view and share with one another. But that, too, ended up going away far sooner than anticipated and hoped, and the struggle to cope with that loss was real.

Towards the end of our marriage, another show came up that beckoned with great appeal, but this time, I held back and didn't watch Firefly. My ex went into it alone, and his distress at the disappointing short-lived nature of it only reinforced my belief that I had made the right choice by not becoming involved with it. He was devastated when a second season never came, and while I had a great deal of sympathy for him, I was not above congratulating myself for not falling into that trap again. I believed that I had "learned better" by that point.

That cock-sure attitude was like issuing a challenge to the Universe, however, I believe. Because I let my guard down, I left my self open... and I was divorced and once again single by the time I had another experience of this type, with this one being perhaps worse than all of the others put together.

It was Swingtown that got me, a series about '70s suburban families and their generation-spanning escapades into the Lifestyle and overall adventure of self-discovery... and with good acting, fun storylines, and a kick-ass soundtrack, it was a show to love. And so I did- I gave my attention and heart to it, genuinely enjoying every moment spent watching it. But then it was gone. After only 13 episodes, it was off and gone and out of my life, leaving me saddened and distressed... and determined to never make that sort of mistake again.



I have grown much more careful about my viewing tendencies since then, being usually unwilling to get involved with a promising show too quickly and too soon, fearing ultimate abandonment and disappointment. But the temptation is always there when a new, fascinating, and promising show crops up, and it's sometimes a struggle to remain strong, to convince myself to wait until a second season is approved before giving myself over to it.

I have been mostly successful in avoiding major disappointments through this caution and mindfulness. But not entirely. I had a really low point with In The Flesh, a UK zombie series, a few years ago... and You, Me, an the Apocalypse also caught me with my guard down around that same time. That was a rough stretch, and I came down hard on myself for my lack of vigilance at that time.

But not all of the chances that I have taken have turned out badly. Handmaid's Tale is a good example. It was simply impossible to resist, and after thinking about it, I realized that I was willing to risk an eventual burn of abandonment if it did not go beyond one season. But it did. There was a second season, and I have been assured that a third will follow. And I am glad that I took a chance- it's an amazing series and has been a true delight to watch it unfold.

Still, even with such a major success as that, I am not always- or even usually- okay with taking a chance on a new show. My overall philosophy and approach is still one of hesitance, of being slow to commit to a show, always remembering the burn of those past experiences and trying to protect myself from further injury. Because the risk is real, and where viewing matters are concerned, few things are worse than the disappointment of a great One-Season Wonder.

How about you, sexy friends? Have you been burned by throwing yourself into a show, only to have it end all-too-soon for you? And have you seen any of the short-lived series mentioned here? If so, what are your thoughts on them?

I hope everyone is getting over the weekly hump with as much happiness as possible; Friday gets closer by the minute!

xoxox
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GratefulGirl69 51F

8/1/2018 2:56 pm

Do you have a fave One-Season Wonder??


NewName62 57M
11929 posts
8/1/2018 3:05 pm

It hasn't been a one season wonder, but we have grown attached to Homeland, and watch with trepidation to see whether it gets renewed from season to season.

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40Deuce 43M
5727 posts
8/1/2018 3:50 pm

I could name a few , but I've come to the decision that it's actually better this way - how many shows with a great first season stay good or get better ? Not many .

And think of how many shows got TERRIBLE over time . I'll always remember Firefly as being great because it was cancelled before it could be ruined for me . That's better than pretty much every other show that eventually got so bad I can't even remember liking them .

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pocogato12 68F  
35554 posts
8/1/2018 4:11 pm

Unfortunately, I cannot help with your choices. I did not have television for the better part of 15 years. Expensive and I worked 2nd and 3rd shift so when I was home, there was nothing appealing on. I now can binge watch NCIS, CSI,and any FOOD show I can locate. Oh and I forgot Jeopardy if I am home at 7:30
Now about that pet. I am a cat lover like many on here. Cats require less work than a dog ( no daily walking, fewer trips to the vet and thus less costly,
Cats can be left at home 2-3 days at a time with a clean box and not hate you and pay you back by being destructive. I once left 6 cats home for a week when I went to PA for a wedding. When I got home the worst was that one or two of them got into the dried kibble bags and chewed a hole in a new flavor. I have had indoor-outdoor cats. My current pet was once two and since Holly is gone, Lily has become an entirely different kitty at 18. Mind you I would never get a single kitty again- always a pair- they have better attitudes as they grow. And if you can bring yourself to, visit a shelter and get an abandoned pet.. MEOW

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GratefulGirl69 51F

8/1/2018 4:17 pm

    Quoting 40Deuce:
    I could name a few , but I've come to the decision that it's actually better this way - how many shows with a great first season stay good or get better ? Not many .

    And think of how many shows got TERRIBLE over time . I'll always remember Firefly as being great because it was cancelled before it could be ruined for me . That's better than pretty much every other show that eventually got so bad I can't even remember liking them .

    The candle that burns twice as bright and all that
I totally see and get your point. I think of the last season of Dexter, which was a complete throwaway. It was so bad that it almost ruined the entire series for me- I had to go back to season one to wash the taste of the last season out of my mouth. Some series absolutely DO get worse over time, and that is also a disappointment. But still, I wish for a happy medium in these cases... to have just a little bit more of the beloved show than one season can deliver.

I STILL have not watched Firefly. It remains the oldest thing on my to-watch list. And maybe it could be therapeutic to finally sit down and view it. I'll think on it.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/1/2018 4:19 pm

    Quoting NewName62:
    It hasn't been a one season wonder, but we have grown attached to Homeland, and watch with trepidation to see whether it gets renewed from season to season.
Oh, I like Homeland... and it's a true LTR sort of show. No worries about disappointment from it ending too soon, for sure! In fact, I am certain it will be one of the ones that goes on long past its expiration date!

Thanks for commenting!


bestfriend2156 64M
840 posts
8/1/2018 4:25 pm

It was two seasons, but I loved Galavant. A musical, but funny, sarcastic and suggestive.


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/1/2018 4:41 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Unfortunately, I cannot help with your choices. I did not have television for the better part of 15 years. Expensive and I worked 2nd and 3rd shift so when I was home, there was nothing appealing on. I now can binge watch NCIS, CSI,and any FOOD show I can locate. Oh and I forgot Jeopardy if I am home at 7:30
    Now about that pet. I am a cat lover like many on here. Cats require less work than a dog ( no daily walking, fewer trips to the vet and thus less costly,
    Cats can be left at home 2-3 days at a time with a clean box and not hate you and pay you back by being destructive. I once left 6 cats home for a week when I went to PA for a wedding. When I got home the worst was that one or two of them got into the dried kibble bags and chewed a hole in a new flavor. I have had indoor-outdoor cats. My current pet was once two and since Holly is gone, Lily has become an entirely different kitty at 18. Mind you I would never get a single kitty again- always a pair- they have better attitudes as they grow. And if you can bring yourself to, visit a shelter and get an abandoned pet.. MEOW
Thank you! We actually do have a pair of felines... both rescues... an almost wild, mostly outdoors brawny scrapper named Loki who only visits when he feels like it... and an extremely overweight calico named Althea who has a serious foot fetish. But they're both mine, and Squinkie needs her own.

I very much appreciate the last part of your comment... I have had a number of cats and dogs in my life, and they have always- without exception- been rescues. And I always encourage people to look there when they want a new family member. There are legions of beautiful furry loving creatures who, on the weight of their lives, need a home... and I think that shelters and rescue groups should always be the first place one goes when looking.

Thanks for spreading that message- and for your participation overall!!


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/1/2018 4:44 pm

    Quoting bestfriend2156:
    It was two seasons, but I loved Galavant. A musical, but funny, sarcastic and suggestive.
I remember that! And I loved it! It was like a mix of Ella Enchanted and Merlin... a fun romp! Thanks for reminding of it!


1SexyGoodguy 55M

8/1/2018 10:20 pm

For me, the best method for binge watching is wait until the series has ended. There is so much binge worthy stuff that there are plenty of series to choose from. I know that I am out of the loop on current shows but I just don't really care. I don't mind watching the older stuff, even if it is a bad VCR recording on U-toob. The old Gong Show comes to mind.

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gardenboy321 57M  
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8/1/2018 10:32 pm

The metaphor for relationships is strong in this one.

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Greyhawk47 50M

8/2/2018 12:32 am

Ah, Firefly dead before it even got a start. That one really got me. Another few series that ended too soon were Battlestar Galactica, (hated that they had to end it) and they never gave Caprica a real chance to make it either.

A few others I’m waiting for on the seasons are The 100, The Shannara Cronicles, And The Last Kingdom to name a few.

I’m impatient for the new seasons to be released..... lol bums


ironman2769 55M  
12847 posts
8/2/2018 2:34 am

I usually don't get hooked on first seasons of shows. I did however get hooked on Sheldon....but that's because I got hooked on the big bang theory season 2....

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citizen4722 62M  
68944 posts
8/2/2018 7:48 am

My nephew kept bearded dragons as pets. They are easy to 'look after' as long as you have a big 'tank' and correct heat and lighting you should be okay.
I'm watching less TV these days as I'm spending more time on my laptop or tablet when not working...I need to change that!


isitbreaktime2 54M

8/2/2018 9:21 am

Two words: Betta fish. Have you tried that? Inexpensive, low maintenance, high stress tolerance. Can raise in a regular fish bowl without typical aquarium set up. Can only have one, they're territorial. If the fish should make an unexpected early exit, it's easy to replace and they tend to look very much alike. I replaced a couple with the boys never knowing the predecessor had died. They all had the same name anyway, Salter, with a number after it....Salter 1, Salter 2, etc. No, I don't know where they came up with that name.


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/2/2018 4:09 pm

    Quoting 1SexyGoodguy:
    For me, the best method for binge watching is wait until the series has ended. There is so much binge worthy stuff that there are plenty of series to choose from. I know that I am out of the loop on current shows but I just don't really care. I don't mind watching the older stuff, even if it is a bad VCR recording on U-toob. The old Gong Show comes to mind.
Yes, see- that's really the safest approach. Not only to avoid the possible burn of losing something enjoyed early on, but also because it can be quite fascinating to watch the full series all at once. I've actually done that for a few shows, most notably Breaking Bad, which really draws the arcs of the main characters into sharp relief and gives a different "read" on the whole series when viewed that way.

The Gong Show!!! Oh my- I used to love that! And how about Laugh-In?? You've inspired me... I think I want to try to find some of those old funnies out on the web!

Thanks so much for contributing!


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/2/2018 4:10 pm

    Quoting gardenboy321:
    The metaphor for relationships is strong in this one.
Thank for noticing! I was aiming for overblown, melodramatic corniness... and hope I came at least close to the mark!!

I appreciate your comment!


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/2/2018 4:13 pm

    Quoting Greyhawk47:
    Ah, Firefly dead before it even got a start. That one really got me. Another few series that ended too soon were Battlestar Galactica, (hated that they had to end it) and they never gave Caprica a real chance to make it either.

    A few others I’m waiting for on the seasons are The 100, The Shannara Cronicles, And The Last Kingdom to name a few.

    I’m impatient for the new seasons to be released..... lol bums
Ah.... all good ones. You understand my pain, having similar tastes! I'm not familiar with the Last Kingdom, though, will have to look that one up. If I know it's only one season, it's easier to take- I can take it for what it is. It's just hard when you get pulled in, expecting/hoping for a more that never ends up coming.

It's great to have someone who likes the same sorts of things- thank you!!


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/2/2018 4:16 pm

    Quoting ironman2769:
    I usually don't get hooked on first seasons of shows. I did however get hooked on Sheldon....but that's because I got hooked on the big bang theory season 2....
I absolutely love Big Bang Theory... it's such a poignant nod to nerds and interpersonal relationships and popular culture itself. There have not been many half-hour sitcoms that I have liked, that formula is usually a wash for me... but BBT is a great success, I believe- and the only other one I can think of that I liked as much was Scrubs. Man, that was a fun show!

Thanks for contributing!!


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/2/2018 4:18 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    My nephew kept bearded dragons as pets. They are easy to 'look after' as long as you have a big 'tank' and correct heat and lighting you should be okay.
    I'm watching less TV these days as I'm spending more time on my laptop or tablet when not working...I need to change that!
Ooooh- she did mention dragons as being on her list of possibilities- and I think I could get behind that, even if only so I could say "we have dragons." LOL The supplies would be costly, but we are hitting the flea markets and auction this weekend, hoping to find a tank or critter cage super-cheap, which will allow us to do more with the price of the pet itself.

I appreciate the suggestion, as well as your participation- thank you!


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/2/2018 4:21 pm

    Quoting isitbreaktime2:
    Two words: Betta fish. Have you tried that? Inexpensive, low maintenance, high stress tolerance. Can raise in a regular fish bowl without typical aquarium set up. Can only have one, they're territorial. If the fish should make an unexpected early exit, it's easy to replace and they tend to look very much alike. I replaced a couple with the boys never knowing the predecessor had died. They all had the same name anyway, Salter, with a number after it....Salter 1, Salter 2, etc. No, I don't know where they came up with that name.
Thanks! She did mention that she might want to go down the fish road again, though Mommy is not really trustworthy with them. Maybe I can tell her these are kill-proof, potentially demonstrating that by being able to replace any that I might accidentally kill.

Funny about the name thing! When I was a kid, my bro and I had a cat that we called "Glowy" because its paws were orange, which we believed kind of glowed. Crazy stuff goes through- and comes out of- kids' minds when they're young!

Thanks for contributing!!


big54al 66M
2089 posts
8/4/2018 9:54 am

I watched those 2 short lived shows. As I recall, at the end of the final Freaks & Geeks, the girl ditched math camp and was going to follow a group around the country a la Deadheads


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/4/2018 2:05 pm

    Quoting big54al:
    I watched those 2 short lived shows. As I recall, at the end of the final Freaks & Geeks, the girl ditched math camp and was going to follow a group around the country a la Deadheads
Yes, she was! That's part of the burn! Would have loved to see where that went...

Thanks for commenting!


Mfdmen 59M  
24 posts
8/5/2018 6:00 am

Loved My So Called Llife. Terrific acting and great plot lines. Having lived in both the US and the U.K. I’ve noticed a cultural difference between the two sides of the Pond, tv series wise. In the US shows tend to continue on and on and on and on until they run waaay out of gas ( the jumping the shark phenomenon). By the end, everyone has slept with everyone else (well, that’s ok ), every conflict possible has taken place, and pretty much all conceivable ( and many inconceivable) plot lines have been explored. In Britain, shows with much more to give, tend to end abruptly - after a season or two, leaving fans hanging. No idea why but the difference between the US and U.K. versions of House of Cards is illustrative. The UK. one is much better, btw, and ends appropriately. The US one is apparently to continue despite (Becasue of?) the richly deserved firing of the lead actor. Wow. As for a show I've recently enjoyed binge watching, I'd recommend Ozark, which is to come back for a second season soon... we'll see if it continues to hold up.


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/5/2018 2:23 pm

I agree with many of your comments and appreciate you bringing up the topic of differences between US and UK shows. There have been several that have had incarnations in both countries, and differences are obvious and notable. I am a big fan of several UK shows (beyond Doctor Who!), with the ones that stand out the most for me being Orphan Black, Sherlock, and Black Mirror.

I actually went through a period a few years ago where I was deliberately submerging myself in European (not strictly UK) TV fare, and something that I noticed was that there seems to be more comfort on that side of the pond with ambiguity and what I can only think to call "untidy ends."

US programming often seems so formulaic- even to the point of rigidity- in the defining of characters as either good or bad, hero or villain, in the supplying of answers/reasons for things, and in tying up loose ends (or trying to) so that everyone walks away feeling that it all made sense. In fact, when a show doesn't do that (and while I haven't yet seen it, I've heard this said about Lost), there is often a large outcry, a call of Foul! or Unfair!

European TV doesn't seem to mind as much when characters don't quite come off as either good or bad, when things occur that don't seem to have to justifiable reason, and when there are still unanswered questions when something comes to an end. And I like that... because that's the way real life REALLY is, isn't it? There is something more authentic about it, even though it can be unsettling.

The comparison between the French Las Revenants and the US The Returned was the show that both awakened and drove this awareness home for me. Though maybe it's more of a French thing, not necessarily a generally European one, that feels a greater comfort with leaving an audience unsettled.

I really appreciate your contribution to the development of this topic- thank you!


Chuckk48 64M
1335 posts
8/8/2018 10:53 am

If you think you would like Firefly you might want to try and find The Expanse. It's a SF show that was on the SF channel for three seasons and got canceled. (not because of viewership but because it was expensive to produce and they didn't own the rights to syndication) Amazon prime picked it up for a forth season (Bezos was pissed when Amazon didn't get it in the first place and jumped on it when the SF channel canceled it). It's hard science fiction (science fiction that doesn't defy the laws of physics, no faster then light travel, no artificial gravity, no transporters ect. At least not yet). If you can't find it it's probably going to show up on Prime sooner or later.


GratefulGirl69 51F

8/10/2018 12:02 pm

    Quoting Chuckk48:
    If you think you would like Firefly you might want to try and find The Expanse. It's a SF show that was on the SF channel for three seasons and got canceled. (not because of viewership but because it was expensive to produce and they didn't own the rights to syndication) Amazon prime picked it up for a forth season (Bezos was pissed when Amazon didn't get it in the first place and jumped on it when the SF channel canceled it). It's hard science fiction (science fiction that doesn't defy the laws of physics, no faster then light travel, no artificial gravity, no transporters ect. At least not yet). If you can't find it it's probably going to show up on Prime sooner or later.
I appreciate the recommendation! It sounds like something I would enjoy- thank you!


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