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How Important Do You Think It Is?
Posted:Apr 22, 2019 11:11 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2019 5:02 pm
The word vet or vetting has become a “catch word/phrase” lately….in politics and other areas.

Vetting as defined by Google: is the process of performing a background check on someone before offering them employment, conferring an award, or doing fact checking prior to making any decision. I’d say vetting someone prior to meeting or dating someone applies as well, since it is a decision one makes.

So my question to the members of A*F*F is how much do you think vetting someone is important in general, and to you?

How much vetting would you do before meeting someone?

Do you just take their word for who and what they say they are or need more?

Honestly it is pretty important to me!

Now of course they have to give you their real - full (first and last) name for you to be able to accomplish this, and if they’re not willing - would send up some red flags to me anyway...and I would simply not pursue anything more! But 's just me…..and fine by me. See ya later...bye bye!

I checked out the last lover I had on the internet before deciding to meet him. I didn’t go so far as paying to get a full background check on any prior arrests, liens on a home, previous addresses, possible alias etc. But I did at least make sure the facts he gave me matched up as best I could. His home address did come up, and actually the names of some other family members names can come up, as well as some previous addresses in a free search. I was honest with him, and told him I did this!

I did also communicate with this guy for a few weeks through messaging,emails,and had some public meets (for coffee) before actually having any private meets. I also contacted a close friend before the first private meet, and gave her the name of this guy - where we were meeting, and told her I would contact her later to let her know I was okay!.....lol

I ask this because recently in New Jersey (close to Philly - and she was from Philly) a woman was sexually assaulted by a man she met through the “fishy site”! Thankfully the police caught him by pretending to be another woman looking to meet him!

I think it’s very possible for me if, and when I decide to start meeting someone again…. I may very well do a more thorough check.

Do you think it is too invasive? Are you willing to just trust your instincts - go with your gut? Do you consider someone does a total vetting paranoid or smart to do so?

Btw….I have no problem at all with someone vetting me! I have nothing to hide, so it’s fine by me. In fact the last lover said he checked me out as well...although I don’t know how thorough of a search he did. He also said he didn’t mind, and thought it was a good idea.

I would also make a suggestion of getting pictures (conventional) before a meeting if none are posted. Actually the ideal situation might be a few pictures. A single picture can be “lifted” from the internet a little easier than multi ones.

I may be a little on the paranoid side, but ’s okay with me! I’d rather be safe than sorry! I have /grandchildren I want to live to see, and don’t relish the thought at all of possibly being assaulted or worse soooooooooooooooo………….

Truth or Just Some Mumbo Jumbo? (more for the ladies)
Posted:Jan 13, 2019 11:40 am
Last Updated:May 1, 2019 3:01 pm

This blog is more geared towards the ladies, but gentlemen you are certainly welcome to comment if you’d like!

I take astrology with a grain of salt...sometimes it seems to nail things about an astrological sign, and sometimes it misses the mark.

I am an Aries and many things written about this sign conform to who or how I am. I read my horoscope from time to time, but don’t make it an every day event or necessity, and I certainly don’t live my life by it!.

I came across this on the Google feed on my cell, and again I take it with a grain of salt…..although I did find it interesting.


I will say this: My last lover was a Libra (and he cheated on me) and it does fit him very well. I always sorta felt that for whatever reason I either wasn’t personally enough for him in some way, or no one woman was gonna be enough for him.

We stayed on sites even after meeting, and becoming sexual partners (my understanding was exclusive ones).I was on them for entertainment. To view profiles out of interest of what other people had to say, what they might be interested in etc. I sometimes emailed back if someone contacted me, but made it plain I was not meeting anyone because I was involved. I didn’t feel comfortable getting into any sexual conversations with them...and kept it strictly simple. I also told him about my activities, and even gave him the option of reading any emails if he chose to.

I never met anyone else while involved with him. He was not so truthful, and I eventually went on to find out he had a few meets behind my back…..

I had requested if he was going to meet others - to please just let me know…..I absolutely would have given him that courtesy.

He definitely hated any confrontation, so that’s most likely one reason he never mentioned them. That and the likely fact that he didn’t want to lose a warm, wet pussy honestly (a sure thing in other words)…..in case none of these meetings produced the desired outcome.

Now of course not ALL men of these signs are cheaters…..I guess the article has just settled on these signs for whatever reason and I’m truthfully not sure what kind of data they used to pick these particular ones.

Again….I just found it interesting….

Soooooooooooooo…..here goes…..lol

Ladies….let me know if you’ve had any experience with these signs. Do they seem to fit the man you were involved with? Did they indeed cheat or were they true blue? Feel free to offer any thoughts.

I will try to find an article geared towards the men...that deals with astrological signs and cheating women.....

5 Zodiac Signs Who Will Cheat On You, Per Astrology

Some zodiac signs love love so much that they just can't get enough of it.
So, it's not enough to have one relationship, they need multiple, at the same time, and often cheat or have a side-chick.

Being cheated on is one of the worst feelings on earth. You may think you're the only girl for him, until you catch him with someone else.
Then, he apologizes and swears to never do it again, but you soon realize that he is still cheating and having an affair with the other woman, and you have been fooled into thinking you were the only one... again.

All of your emotions start flooding in at once. You might wonder if he really cared about you or if maybe YOU were just the side chick all along, and he really loved the other girl first.
Relationships are tricky and love is complicated. It's hard finding somebody who's loyal and honest these days. While some zodiac signs tend to be more loyal, there are others that you may need to look out for.

1. GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Geminis are very sociable and love being around people. They can talk all night long to a new girl they just met and have a good time even when you're not around. They're restless beings who rather go out than spend a night in cuddling with their boo.
Geminis are curious and love being stimulated by learning new things and getting to know new people. Because they're quick learners, they'll be quick at learning how to balance two relationships at once.
Geminis are also known for being indecisive, which can mean they might want you one day and then get sick of you the next. Eventually, they'll want to bring a new girl into the mix to add excitement.
They hate repetition which is another reason a Gemini might have a side chick. They get bored of the same thing and need another girl to escape to when being with you gets too predictable.

2. LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libras hate being alone. This becomes a problem on those days when you're busy and he needs someone to be with. A Libra might turn to their side chick in a moment like this. His side chick is there for all the times that you can't be.
Like Geminis, Libras are also indecisive and social. They love being around other people and sometimes, your love might not be enough to fulfill a Libra's needs. They need to feel stimulated by others too and not just you. Being indecisive might make him wonder if he wants to only be with you or find somebody else to add to the mix.
Libras tend to avoid confrontation, so if they're feeling like something is wrong in the relationship, they might not even tell you about it. They'll keep you around so you think things are okay, but then they'll try to fill the void with a side chick.

3. SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Sagittarius' are known for being secretive, so watch your back ladies. They'll be good at hiding their side chick from you!
Their weakness is dishonesty. I'm not saying snoop through his phone when he's in the other room, I'm just saying be aware of this trait. If you catch him in any lies just know that there might be more that he's not telling you.
Sagittarius' are also known for their cool, calm and collected behavior. This can make it easy for a Sagittarius to play it cool and act like nothing sketchy is going on. He might call you crazy for even thinking that he was just flirting with a girl. He'll tell you to relax, because there's 'nothing to worry about'.
They're very passionate and they get jealous easily. Sometimes it's good to make a guy a little jealous. Just watch out, because a Sagittarius might want to do it right back to you. He'll unleash his passionate side with someone else.

4. ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

An Aries is someone who is impatient. If you're a motivated person who's busy a lot, he might get sick of waiting around for you and need to find someone else.
They're known for being impulsive, which isn't a good thing in this case. One night he might want to know what it's like to get with that cute girl standing by the bar and there will be nothing stopping him. He'll just go for it when you're not around just because he can!
They like competition, whether it's competing themselves or watching others compete. He might like being fought over. He will love the thought of two girls competing for his attention.
Aries' are also confident and confidence is an attractive trait. It will be easy for an Aries to charm a girl with his confident ways and he'll have faith in himself to pull off having a side chick.

5. LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Leos are good at putting themselves in difficult situations and making them work. He'll confidently be able to balance a lover and a side chick. Having two girls can be a complicated task for some, but not for a Leo.
A Leo's strength is his creativity. He might be good at making each of his girls feel special. A Leo is able to fill your needs while doing the same for another girl.
He might also be good at coming up with creative excuses for those days he's heading out to be with the side chick.
Keep an eye on your Leo and keep in mind that he might be extremely difficult to resist.
Emotions All Over-Make A Plan For Those You Love
Posted:Dec 21, 2018 8:22 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2019 2:56 pm

My emotions have been all over the place this past week!

My ex husband - father of my six , was pretty close to death last Friday. Had his GF not called an ambulance to take him to the hospital, he surely would have died!

He was experiencing acute heart failure, and respiratory failure. He has COPD (emphysema) and had been feeling poorly for days, but because of his extremely stubborn nature -refused to seek care.

We were basically told to get up there (he lives about 3 hours away)! He has no DNR/DNI or living will.....nada!

So had any decisions needed to be made, it would have fallen on our adult ! I knew that he would not want any extraordinary means taken to keep him alive. He had expressed this to me many times during our marriage, but never put anything in writing.

The hospital basically decided to intubate him, and put him in a sort of medically induced sleep. When we got there....he looked like hell, and my girls fell apart. I went for exactly that reason!!

Happy to say that I truly believe in Christmas miracles - he is awake, off the vent and breathing on his own, with some assist of oxygen (from a canula in his nose). He is finally drinking water and eating at least some, and listening to the doctors and nurses caring for him.

He had some mental confusion for a few days, but that seems to be clearing up too. Most likely will spend Christmas in the hospital, but much better than the alternative we all feared for a time!!

I no longer love this man in a romantic way, but realized I absolutely love him as a man who means a lot to our !! I kissed his forehead when I left, and whispered for him to get well because our needed him.

I need to do now what he should have done- Make arrangements for how I want things handled for me - should something like that ever occur. I would hate for my to ever have to make one of the hardest decisions one can have to make!

Please do the same...........

Happy Holidays everyone
Posted:Dec 16, 2018 7:23 pm
Last Updated:Dec 24, 2018 6:32 am
Oh the glitches continue.....

I've been getting notifications of people in my hotlist having trending pics!

Problem is: every single one of these people/pics are NOT in my hotlist.

The funniest by far has been ME....lol

Now I like me well enough - but to hotlist myself? Geez...can one even do that?

Guess I will have to turn notifications off

Come on A*F*F.....get on the ball.....hahahaha

MOMMY?? WTF.......
Posted:Oct 3, 2018 9:03 am
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2018 5:49 pm
Below is an email I received this morning…..clearly he didn’t read my profile (he is a gold member) or he would have known I don’t appreciate dick pics being sent unsolicited and will just delete his email….usually with no reply (unless I’m in one of “those” moods…...lol).!

Ya know....I get that this is a sex site- after all the "slogan" for A*F*F is:

Hookup,Find Sex or Meet Someone Hot Now

But can that not be done in an adult, decent,and respectful way? Can the sexy chat or "dirty" chat not be saved until it is determined between the parties that- that is what each are looking for or desire?

I will say that most of the men that contact me behave in a more gentlemanly manor. They say “hello”...ask how I am doing, and then go into whatever they would like to say to try and convince me to meet them etc.

It is the clueless men that make me shake my head and wonder...WTF are they thinking?! Do they really think that a woman is gonna appreciate that approach? Maybe some will - we all have things that float that proverbial boat and turn us on I suppose.

This idiot called me mommy! Mommy? Yes I am a mommy to four sons and two daughters.....but I ain't your mommy dufus brain, and in no universe would I want you to call me that!! I honestly don’t want any man to call me mommy. I imagine in a relationship where the woman is the dominant….it could be possible for that nickname to be wanted or okay…..but for me….NAH…...lol

The rest of the email was not much to my liking either - especially considering it was a first contact for Pete's sake......

So here’s just a reminder for those men that haven’t gotten a clue yet on how to approach a woman,although they probably don’t read the blogs either when ya think about it….here ya go!

A shining example how NOT to do it…..lol

Ladies….would you want or like this approach? Would you like a man to use a term of endearment such as mommy...sweetheart...babydoll etc. when emailing you (especially first contact)?

Gentlemen….feel free to let me know your thoughts on this guy and his approach! Let me know what yours is! Maybe you can educate those that are clueless…..

Hear Us Roar.....
Posted:Sep 18, 2018 2:30 pm
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2018 8:32 am
10 Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman

What makes a strong woman?

Among other factors, her struggles, sacrifices, and selflessness play a huge part. A strong woman has endured pain, overcome heart-wrenching experiences, and has allowed herself to be led by forgiveness.

A strong woman has swum in deep and treacherous waters and held her breath as long as possible. This type of woman is self-sufficient, independent, loving, and has no fears of showing her vulnerability.

If the woman you love (or perhaps hope to find) fits the above description, consider yourself privileged. The strong woman knows that one moment you are the teacher, and the next you might be the student. She understands and is okay with this, but sometimes the man in her life fails to share this understanding.

Can you handle a strong woman in your life?

**Now granted...none of this may apply if you are strictly looking for a woman for a fuck buddy, sexy friend or a NSA/FWB kind of "thing" **



A man needs to feel wanted. He needs to know that he is battling for the eternal love and admiration of his woman. A strong woman will show you that she loves you, but she’s also independent and can manage on her own. The strong woman is willing to fight for both of you, but she doesn’t need a man to fight her battles for her. If she has a problem, she deals with it.
A strong woman doesn’t sit and wait, as a victim, for a man to find the solution. Some men can’t handle this strength. If you choose to remain with this type of woman, be willing to walk beside her . . . not in front of her, pulling her to where you think she should be.


Strong women know what they want, how to attain it, and remember all that they had to endure to get whatever they have. A woman like this knows what she wants. If she likes a man, she will go after him. She will not wait for the man to make the first move. Strong women have tenacious personalities that can be extremely intimidating for some men. They aren’t submissive. They love wholeheartedly and also can continue exploring the world with a man or not. It takes a self-confident man to allow this type of personality to take charge.


Men have a hard time opening up to difficult questions. Strong women dive right into the depth of hurt, traumas, and life-changing experiences. They require a man who can be honest and vulnerable, because they have endured so much in their lives and want to believe they are not alone. They need to know that their mate can be available to navigate the ocean of uncertainties and travel the edges of madness.

Strong women don’t fear the past. They excavate and search for those things that make us human. The strong woman will always find a strong man to stand tall with her in the face of adversity. Men tend to avoid vulnerability because it makes them feel weak. If you want to gain the admiration of the strong woman in your life, do not fear moments of vulnerability.


The strong woman will challenge a man in the most intimate of ways. She will require intimacy in all forms, from conversation to making love. She will hold nothing back. Because a strong woman is comfortable with her femininity, she will expect her man to also be open to all aspects of intimacy. She requires passion and desire; she wants to feel like she’s the one.


Strong women are honest and expect complete trust in a relationship. They can sense lies in an instant, so don’t try to sugarcoat a white lie. Don’t give the strong woman in your life any bogus explanations. She has the ability to act as a human lie detector. Being in a relationship with a strong woman requires no holding back. She will never tolerate a sense of falseness and selfishness. If you can’t be with her completely, she will have no problem moving on.


Women who have inner strength cannot tolerate irregularity or indecisive personalities. They want to know that the man they love has integrity and respect, and is a man of his word. If they start to feel that their man is pulling away, they will react accordingly and have no problem letting him go if they feel they are being played. They want to feel like they are loved unconditionally. If they feel disrespected, they will have no issues setting that matter straight. The worst thing you can do to a strong woman is make her feel weak.


A strong woman has endured extraordinary challenges and obstacles in her life. In other words, she is strong for a reason, because she has had to be powerful during extremely dark moments. Having come through, she knows she can endure anything else in her path, but this kind of intensity is oftentimes difficult for a man to understand. It’s intimidating because of all the emotions and thoughts that come with this type of persona. The strong woman is willing to share her scars, and expects you to do the same. There are no secrets in her world.


This type of woman will follow you to the depths of hell if she knows you are committed to her. However, the moment you start to pull back, she will let you go. She will not wait for a man to decide if he wants her or someone better. Strong women don’t play little, girly games. You are either in or you are out. They will face hurt, heal from their wounds, and get back up ready to conquer whatever is next.


The love you receive from a strong woman is faithful. Just like mothers with their , the strong woman will nurture and love her man fiercely. When she feels that love in return, she will do anything she can to make him feel loved. The strong woman in your life will support you, help you, and fight for you to get what you deserve. Some men can’t handle this kind of unconditional love. They get frightened by the intensity and depth of giving. Many times it is in this stage that men flee from a strong woman. If this happens, regardless of how deeply she loved you, she will also let you go. She knows her worth.


It’s hard to accept the things we don’t like about ourselves when someone points them out. A strong woman will speak up about those parts in her man that need addressing. She will also be there to help show you how amazing and powerful you are. She will stand by you and show you pure acceptance and confidence. Some men cannot handle the emotional chaos that comes up with this type of demeanor. For this reason, strong women will find strong men; the weak ones won’t make it past the first few dates. Weak men don’t know what to do with the honesty, strength, intelligence, and independence that is portrayed by a woman of strength.

A strong man, on the other hand, was likely raised by a strong woman. He knows how to either deal with the dark nights of the soul that arise in any relationship, or leave.

Barry Paul Price writes, “Dating a strong woman is not something every guy can handle. He has to be confident in himself as a person, and as a man. Men must feel capable of meeting a woman’s needs.

Traditionally, we did that providing financial security and physical protection.

More recently, as women have expressed themselves with more independence and toughness, men aren’t sure how or when they’re needed by their woman. He ends up feeling unsure of his value and significance in the relationship.

Many women tell me their man’s emotional support is just as important as financial and physical contributions. Unfortunately, men are not used to identifying masculinity with giving emotional support.”

Do you have the strength to support your woman of strength in the way she most needs it? Strong women have no time to play games. If you can handle the intensity, love, and honesty she will provide, you might just be the man who can complement this type of woman.

(Article borrowed from the website: The Power of Positivity)


I am a strong woman….I have had joys and heartaches in my life and for the most part I feel that I have come out on top….despite feeling at times like I may not.

I have cried many tears through the years, at times while in my car or in the shower...so as not to upset my . I have survived pregnancy at an early age, two miscarriages, the death of my beloved mother, a marriage and divorce (that included verbal abuse), various trials and tribulations raising six (who have had their own issues at times - some of a serious nature). It’s a given fact that when your hurt...you hurt (or at least it is for me).

I believe all of these things have allowed me to be that strong woman. I will admit that it gives me great pride to know that my have seen, and have known that their mother is a strong woman and have told me that I have been instrumental in making them the people that they are today!

I love my four sons tremendously…..but I am beyond over the moon that I have raised two daughters that are 23 and 21 and are absolutely strong, smart, and independent young women. They work and go to school and fight their own battles (but know mom has their backs - along with 4 older brothers...if ever needed....lol). One will be graduating this December with her Bachelor’s degree in nursing and plans to go on to earn further degrees! Her little sister is following in her footsteps…

They too will need strong men in their lives…..men that can handle their strength (and their occasional attitudes and sarcasm) Oooops….yes….I gave them a few of my less stellar qualities as well…..lol

Don’t get me wrong..I still have my doubts at times. My fears of what will be (or won’t) sometimes creep in as I lay alone in that time before sleep. But I know without a doubt that I will awaken (Lord willing) and get up and proceed to do what I need to do to live my life, with the strength that I have inside my heart and soul……

Eventually I hope there will be a man that will be able to walk with me….take my hand and match me stride for stride….together!

Someday I will let one in…….when the time is right……

I Am Woman (the song)

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back and pretend
'Cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again
Oh yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman
You can bend but never break me
'Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'Cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul
Oh yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman
I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin' arms across the land
But I'm still an embryo
With a long, long way to go
Until I make my brother understand
Oh yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can face anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman

Songwriters: Helen Reddy / Ray Burton
I Am Woman lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group

Your Opinion - Boys & Their Toys
Posted:Sep 13, 2018 10:27 am
Last Updated:Dec 26, 2018 12:45 pm
Boys and Their Toys (and other fancy things)

I had a male friend who had a profile on a more vanilla site at one time and he had posted some pics of his “toys”.

I am curious as to your opinions of this...Do you think it is a good idea and will attract a woman to him? Or do you think it is a bad idea?

Obviously we are all free to have our profiles the way we want them and free to post on them anything we think may “help” the cause...lol

Personally my opinion would be that it smacks a little of a desperate man - hoping that his “toys” will help him get a woman….when all else fails.

I also think that it may attract a woman for all the wrong reasons. Men seem to complain that some women look at them as a “sugar daddy”, and it seems to me that this would certainly be the reason in a case such as this.

Do men really want a superficial...materialistic woman? Are some so desperate and dare I say pathetic (in my opinion) that they would resort to something like this?

Hey...if you're lucky enough to have nice things....great! But maybe get a woman on WHO you are first, and then let her see WHAT you have?

What do you think?

Oh WTF Now!!!!
Posted:Sep 3, 2018 2:00 pm
Last Updated:Sep 15, 2018 3:39 pm
Has anyone else's Top Fans disappeared? Mine have - both those who I have made myself a fan of, and those who are a fan of me!

It seems like each day it is something new!

I suppose I will now have to contact customer service and we all know how that can go!

Or is it just ME?


The Fine Art Of Kissing
Posted:Aug 10, 2018 7:09 pm
Last Updated:Sep 15, 2018 3:45 pm
I LOVE to kiss and I’ve been told that I’m good at it…..(I choose to believe them)....lol

To me….kissing is only the beginning of foreplay, and a pleasant one at that. But it most certainly needs to be with someone (for me at least) that:

A. I am interested in, and have some feelings for, and

B. With someone that knows how to do it properly.

I do not like to feel like I’ve been slobbered all over,or gagged by an overzealous tongue.

For me...nips and nibbles are okay, as long as they are gentle and don’t draw blood.

So below are a few “suggestions” to perhaps help make the experience more pleasant.....

At our ages….most of us probably have a pretty good idea about the how to’s - but maybe some of the younguns (or just those less experienced) could use some pointers…..lol

Kissing is one of life’s greatest pleasures that can be shared by two. But not everyone is a perfect kissing match, and certainly not all kissers are created equal.

Sadly, we encounter over a lifetime of kissing quite a few kissers who make elementary—or truly awful—kissing faux pas, and it makes us wish that everyone with a pair of lips got their own user’s manual.

Wouldn’t it be great if there was a mandatory kissing politeness class in every high school?

Here students would learn that kissing isn’t a face-chewing contest. You do not get points for trying to box the tonsils with your tongue. Licking your lips too suggestively before a kiss looks really scary and gross. And above all, kissing is something you do together, rather than to or at another person.

It might be a very long time until kissing etiquette becomes required for graduation into the real world. Until then, there are a few things to know that will keep you and those you kiss happy to be smooched.

Show the following list to anyone you know who might benefit from the advice it offers. Even a friend who’s dating someone they just discovered is a bad kisser—it might give them some ideas.


* Beautiful, brushed teeth, fresh breath, and supple, moisturized lips make you a delight to kiss. Anything less is a drag.

* It’s okay to pull away and take a break from kissing without saying anything.
It’s okay for someone to want to stop completely and offer no explanation.
You can talk about it later.

* It’s not okay to expect a kiss in return for anything. Kisses are gifts, not

* Cradling your partner’s head and face feels wonderful. As long as you’re not
trying to prevent escape or contributing to claustrophobia.

* Kissing isn’t the checkered flag and starter gun to feel up your date. Lip
contact is not an invitation to ass grabbing or unhooking a bra. The good bits
aren’t going anywhere, and it is in your best interest to take your time.

* A kiss does not signify a willingness to have sex, ever—no matter what kind of

* Never approach a kiss with an open mouth, or with an extended tongue.

* Never open your mouth wider than your kissing partner’s lips.

* Poking with your tongue is annoying. You are not trying to make a phone call.
The mingling of a willing tongue is okay, if your kissing partner is willing.

Not everyone will like the things you like, and that’s okay. You may love to have your sensitive ears licked and breathed on, but he might hate it with a passion. Be open to all kissing styles.

Whenever you’re in doubt about how things feel for your kissing partner, or even if it’s the right time to kiss, ask. Your partner will be happy you care enough to ask.

If anyone has any other suggestions or words of advice other than those listed...Or if you disagree with any of the advice....feel free to share!

Different Kind Of Chat
Posted:Jul 31, 2018 5:12 pm
Last Updated:Sep 14, 2018 11:38 am
I am usually frustrated and aggravated by some of the "features" on this site....since most of them have a glitch at any given time :

The IM is quirky I hear and it doesn't work very well (I usually don't IM)
I hate that it automatically throws you on it when you log in - Give me the choice A*F*F!!

The camming has issues at times (don't do that either).

The new and "improved" email is a mess! I can't happen to tell new emails from old ones and I don't always delete them right away after reading. Guess I will have to start doing that.

I did however have a chat today with customer service that went well and my issue was solved!!

I added ONE word to my profile and then received an email from A*F*F saying my profile was denied.....for a reason(s) listed in the picture below.....lol

This has happened before - so I decided to use the chat feature in the HELP section.

I requested that they please approve my profile immediately, since it was nothing objectionable that I added. (Is there such a thing on this site?.......

Anyway.....the guy was real nice and did it for me right away - so kudos to A*F*F for once....lol

Thank you

So Once Again.......
Posted:Jun 21, 2018 6:41 pm
Last Updated:Sep 16, 2018 11:47 am
So once again I am contacted (emailed) by an idiot man who feels he needs to comment about my profile. This happened out of the blue. I've never contacted him, never viewed his profile (until this), never interacted with him at all.

Instead of just reading my profile (his choice), deciding it, or me more specifiy, isn't for him, and just moving along....he decides to get mean and email me.

What makes some men do this? Just your basic being an asshole would be my guess.

Any else wanna give me some thoughts on this?

I've read many a man's profile and thought to myself....what a douche bag or some other negative thought, but not once have I ever sent a mean - unsolicited email to them! Now I HAVE sent emails commenting in a positive way if a man's profile is thoughtful and "speaks" to me.

So below you will find our exchange, it remains to be seen if he replies any further...

Oh....btw - my comment to him about being able to get laid anytime I want was not inspired by conceit.....only the knowledge that 99.9% of women on this site can most likely say the same thing......lol

He says he's a DOM....so perhaps a strong woman, who won't take any shit...knows what she wants (and doesn't), and verbalizes that....scares him or some other little boy BS. Or perhaps I'm just a head case? Nah.....I'm sane...I promise....

I can be a smart ass however....lol

His profile says he's attached....so seems to me he's a cheating liar!

Good luck buddy..... play safe (IF you find a woman on here)...and don't get dirty!!.....lol

Always Bittersweet.......
Posted:May 18, 2018 2:58 pm
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2018 3:36 pm
I just got back the other day (May 17th @ 12:38 am to be exact....lol) from visiting my , his GF and my grandsons in Oregon. I lovingly call them my "West Coast" family...lol

It is always a bittersweet trip to make. I love to go out there and see them and to actually get to hug them and see them in person. We do the whole FaceTime thing the rest of the time, but of course it not the same.

I was there for just a week because it was the longest I could get off from work. I only started my new job about 6 months ago, so it was an unpaid vacation....but some savings will make that okay.

Leaving is always so hard to do. I miss them all so much, and most times in the past I've cried while saying good-bye. My grandsons are getting older (5 yrs. & 3 yrs) so I kept it together this time, but once on the plane and seated (and buckled in) some tears couldn't help but slip out. I do look forward though to getting back home and having my "East Coast" family around me.

My would love for me to move out there, but I have 5 other grown and 5 (with another on the way) grandchildren (plus a 90 yr. old dad) here in Philly.

They came here to Philly last summer and may be back later in the year (my and the boys) when my graduates from nursing school. She's hoping to have her brother see her graduate (they were pretty close, despite an 8 year age gap). It will probably be a short stay since he needs to work...but I will be looking forward to it and hoping it happens.

Well anyway......I thought I would share some pictures that I took while out there.

A few where taken from the airplane...it always amazes me to be above the clouds....lol

or are of Crater Lake.....a nearly 2000 foot deep lake that is a remnant of a destroyed volcano, Mount Mazama. It is replenished by rain and melting of the snow. There was still snow around when we were there.

A few are of the Detroit Dam (not sure why a dam in Oregon is named that....lol). Little scary looking over the edge....

A few are of a popular place called Opal Creek where you can swim and sun in the warmer weather. Although the water is still pretty cold even then. Runoff from the snowy mountains and creeks runs into it.

I also visited the Lava River Cave in the Dechutes National Forest. It is a mile and a half lava tube. Dark as hell if you turn your flashlights off....lol

Oregon is a beautiful place for sure, and I love to go to places while there that I haven't seen yet. I'd recommend going to Oregon if you get the chance,and to all those places..

Hopefully the picture issue on the site is fixed....or I'm gonna be pissed....lol

Can Anyone Tell Me......
Posted:Apr 27, 2018 4:02 pm
Last Updated:Jun 7, 2018 5:54 pm
Now I know weird things go on - on this site all the time. It has numerous issues, almost on a daily basis.

And it's aggravating as hell some times....

But this is weird and I'm not sure if it's a "glitch" or something else.

Soooooo......Can anyone tell me how this happens? (see pics below)

How can the same exact profile have two different locations that are about 837 miles away from each other? The profile name is the same, the contents of the profile are the same, the stats listed are the same.

But the profile has one location listed if you view the whole profile (Griffin Georgia) and a different location (Trevose Pa) if you just hover over the profile while viewing it in a listing of people in your area.

Notice in both screenshots (I obliterated the profile name a bit) that the profile says it is 4 miles away from my location on both! Huh?

Trevose, Pa is about 4 miles from me.

But Griffin, Georgia is (as previously mentioned), approximately 837 miles.

Yikes.....I'm still trying to figure this one out.....

Just makes me SMH and say WTF......lol

Hopefully the screenshots will stay put....I hear that's a common glitch lately on here.....ugh!

Well the pics are not able to be added to the blog yet...I chatted with customer service and got the usual "We're working on it" So please check back if you'd like to see the screenshots that help to illustrate the Twilight zone effect of this site....lol

UPDATE>>>>this profile now has a location of Dayton NV. and a few weeks later he's in Holland, MI..... so who knows where this guy really lives....lol


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